Should I take my girlfriend to shop for an engagement ring?

Answer 1

Believe it or not, I'd say yes you should.

Times have changed. Women are picky and would like something nice they can pick out....I just got done with a fiasco like this and I am regretting it, but I learned my lesson.
Traditionalists will say no, but there's no one saying you can't propose the same way, just say you'll take her shopping for the ring.
Yes it's a little less romanitc.
But I'd do it like that the next time I do that (if that ever happens).

Answer 2

Yes. My husband and I did a marathon weekend looking at all the jewelry stores at malls in 3 cities in one weekend. I tried on all kinds of engagements rings, but we didn't pick any out. He got an idea of what I liked, he knew my ring size, but I did not pick out my own ring or know when I would get it. He gave it to me about 3 months later and it was a ring he had designed after we had looked at so many together - it fit my tastes perfectly!

Answer 3

It's good to get an idea of what your girlfriend likes, some people just presume that diamonds are the only option, but perhap your girlfriend may really prefer a coloured stone, it's also a good idea to look at styles, for example, a solitaire looks terrible on my finger, while an eternity band looks much better, at least then you will have a clear idea of what to look for, when it comes to making the final choice then you can have the confidence that you will be picking the perfect ring for her.

Answer 4

Why let her know that you are shopping for an engagement ring? Can't you just take her out to eat some place where you have to stroll by some jewelry stores and then mention that you have some time to kill and why don't you have a look around them. That way you can see what she loves, without her knowing that she's "shopping" then go back after it the next day.

I personally would have hated to have picked my own ring out. And I truly believe that if she loves you, she will love what you give her, regardless of what it is.... if she don't... you better cut and run now, because it's a sure sign of things to come. I have been married 13 years today and I haven't been disappointed by one single thing my husband has ever gave me, because he thought enough of me to give me every one of them.

Answer 5

My parents got engaged this way in 1977. I think it is a great idea. This way, your girlfriend is getting exactly what she wants - the exact ring she wants AND the proposal! Plus you won't have to worry over whether she'll like it or not, or if the ring will fit. I had to have mine re-sized twice after my fiance proposed because the girl at the jewelry store told him "most girls wear a size 7 ring" (they don't.)

Answer 6

I would go on a preliminary mission with her along - look & pay careful attention to the diamond shapes that she really seems to be drawn to the most. Also, if she wants something other than a solitaire, now would be a great time to find out!
Then, when you go to buy the ring, you can make an informed decision & be positive that your selection will be well received. My fiancee knew I really wanted an oval diamond,
but he went on his own & chose a heart shaped stone. It wasn't what I wanted - it was better! He chose that because he thought it was the most romantic symbol of his love for me. (I agree!) So, let her go along once or twice, even to some pawn shops. But make the purchase alone & then surprise her with it!!! Good luck & congratulations!!!!!

Answer 7

Use the ring shopping as part of your proposal. Basically, end your day or evening at a ring shop and surprise her...send her on a scavenger hunt and let her find you at the jewelry store. Or, take her to the store after you propose. You can incorporate it several ways, but that way, she helps pick it out and you still preserve the surprise!

Answer 8

If you and she both trust your judgement then no, IF your not sure what she would like take her shopping there is nothing worst then wearing a ring you don't like. Good luck and live long and prosper. PS my soon to be has picked out my ring but he is giving it all to me when we get married by that time I can't say anything about it but he has great taste.

Answer 9

No, do it on your own! That's what my husband did, and I very much liked the specialness of having a ring that HE CHOSE for me, and that way he could keep it private and within his budget. It makes it feel so special to know that he thought so much of me to want to make it a wonderful surprise for me!!!
Good luck. Do lots of comparison shopping. Only spend how much you can afford comfortably, don't go into debt over a ring. Don't follow fads, go for classic. ABOVE ALL, remember that size isn't important -- with engagement rings, too!

Answer 10

If you've previously discussed getting engaged and it's not going to be a total surprise to her, then take her along to help pick out something. If she's had her heart set on an emerald-cut stone set in white gold, and you present a round-cut set in yellow gold, that would be heartbreaking to her... You don't necessarily have to buy it then, but to at least get an idea of what she likes and what size ring she wears would be a good idea....

Answer 11

I would recommend it. I went with my fiance and it gave him a great idea of what shape stone looked good on my finger and the style of the band. We found several styles that we both liked and then he went back and built the PERFECT ring for me that incorporated everything we picked out. It's beautiful. Remember, she has to wear it forever. I would say the only downside to it is that she'll know the proposal would be coming soon. Good luck!