Im afaid of what our parents might say and we will be able to support eachother. I have thought i was in love before this. And now that I know I was wrong, if this isn't love I have no idea what is.
2007-06-11 08:35:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're 16. It's not love. If your parents are smart, they will talk you out of it.
2007-06-11 08:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in your exact situation, I was about your age and I thought I was in love and I was, my parents didn't support me getting married so young, I did a lot of stupid things, like ran away with him 4 times and then the final time I ran away I ran 800 miles away and my parents decided they would give up on me and just sign the papers so that I could get married I got married when I was 16 years old, almost 17 and I was with him for about a year before we got married, now I am 18 years old now and I have been married for almost a year, and it is hard, it is very very hard. Harder then you can even imagine. Right now as we speak we are of the verge of separating and we are hoping that after our separation we will be able to get back together. We cant get along all we do is argue and when he has a day off work we just argue. So my point is if I have any advise to give you it would be please save yourself the trouble and wait until at least you have your high school diploma and you will have it much easier and you 2 will be able to take care of each other and you will be able to be happier and if he loves you, he will wait for you, and he will understand.
Good Luck and please take my advice I know from experience. You are too young, don't waist your life.
2007-06-11 08:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just wait, theres no rush to marriage. You have ur whole life ahead of you, i wanted to get married when i was sixteen to my bf, but now im 20 years old and im still with him and we are gonna get married next year. We waited until the time is right. Getting married at a young age is not the best thing to do because you and him are still growing, and people mature and change. usually personalities get different too. and believe me, for some reason if you do this and then 2 or 4 years down the road he isnt the same, and u wanna date around, the divorce is gonna be horrible, and very hard to handle, especially if you end up having a child. so i advise you to wait, atleast until your 18 or 19 that way you have matured a little more, and then you can see if thats what you really want. good luck.
2007-06-11 08:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLOW down....... You are way to Young for marriage, I think the two for you need to date more a few years and then see.... if you still want to get married.... Marriage is a VERY big deal.... I was married at 16 and true me when I say that it's NO walk in the park.... It takes alot of hard work.... and also most marriages end when you get married as young as you are cause over time people change, and grow apart...... But you two have your WHOLE life to worry about marriage..... like a said just date from a few years and then when you guy's are 18 or 19 you might want to try livin together and see how that goes... but I wouldn't RUSH anything.....
2007-06-11 08:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by vamps&flowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your almost 16? How old his he? If he is the same age as you, you both will need permission from your parents to get married. What is the big rush? If you wait for five years or more, you will still have been together, just not married. Think about this, 2 out of 3 marriages today end up in divorce.
I think it would be best to wait. If you both love each other it will not matter if your married or not. If he is pressuring you to get married then he has issues he needs to figure out on his own. There is no shame in waiting.
2007-06-11 08:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be foolish you far too young to even think about marrage. Get a good education first you just might need it if ever you might get divorced it happens to the best.. Sure you in love but the magic will ware off and then what there is more to marrage than love . You know only puppy love . Enjoy life travell grow up become a mature women have a good steady job feel secure .then only think of marrage.
2007-06-11 08:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixteen is too young of an age to be making such rash decisions about your future. I'm engaged at age 19 but even I am not thinking about marriage until I finish college. At least wait until you finish high school. I hope you and your boyfriend are considering college, as well. Marriage is nothing to rush into ... if you love each other, great but there's no need to hurry into one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make. See where the next few years take you, then discuss commitment.
2007-06-11 08:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just ridiculous. If you really love each other and want to be together forever, then you'll still be together when you're in your 20s and can get married then. Focus on getting an education. Once you've graduated college and have a career going then consider marriage! Definitely don't have kids until you're much older and your life is in order (married, good income, etc.)
2007-06-11 08:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found the guy I knew I was going to marry when I was 16 and he was 17. We both knew pretty early on in our relationship that we were meant to be together and we talked about it too. We stayed together through high school and college, in a long distance relationship, and are now planning our wedding for next year. Its ok to talk about marriage and think about it, but wait til you both finish school (college too) to get married. That way, you both have some time to make sure you are absolutely positive about marriage and earn money in order to be able to eventually support yourselves.
good luck
2007-06-11 08:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married at 16 (lets say your parents actually give you the legal permission) you'll be kicking yourself by the time you're 18. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, what's the rush to be married? Dial it down, and just enjoy being young and in love.
2007-06-11 08:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bob Thompson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for a few years. That doesnt mean you have to break up or anything, just slow down your relationship and maybe talk to your friends and parents about it before you talk any further about it. Well I'm only 12 so my advice may not be right, but I still don't think you should rush in to anything, because you may regret it.
2007-06-11 08:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by roar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋