I have a 5 month old baby my mother in law has not brought her anything...She doesnt even call me to ask hows the baby.. My mom always get her something..it upsets me because i feel like she doesnt care about my daughter.... should i tell her something???
2007-06-11 08:35:29 · 19 answers · asked by Sue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Look on the other side of it. Shes not in your face telling you how to raise the child & criticizing you. You cant make someone love someone else if they dont want to. Just let it go and be glad your own mother loves her and cares.
2007-06-11 08:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain because I have a mother-in-law who isn't even willing to come visit our baby who was born 5 months ago. We live 9 hours away by car, and throughout the years, my husband and I have repeatedly made the time and effort to visit the in-laws. Unfortunately, they have never reciprocated by visiting us. Never. This arrangement has always bothered me, but I hoped they would jump at the opportunity to visit once there was a grandchild in the mix. I was truly shocked when this did not happen. Instead, I was given one excuse after the next why they couldn't visit. My MIL has even gone so far as to say we should put the baby in the car and make the 9 hour drive (yet again) to visit them. I was truly insulted and I know my husband was deeply hurt. For a long time I felt incredible resentment towards my MIL - I still do to some degree - but I realize that we cannot make other people do the right thing. We can only be good mothers to our children and give them the love and support they need. Be grateful of your mother's support and kindness. Your baby will grow up loving and appreciating her too. In the end, it will be your MIL who is missing out - not your child.
2007-06-11 09:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has a problem with you, so the only way you can rectify the situation is to find out what it is. Be strong don't allow her to feel or think you are weak. I'm sure you or your husband would've informed her of your pregnancy and birth of the baby so it's not as though she's unaware of your daughter's existence. I would assume that you guys don'thave a close relationship and it's probably premiced on the fact that she doesn't think you were/arethe right choice for her son. But like it or not you are the person he chose because he loves you and if she can't accept it and is ignoring her grandaughter as a form of punishing you, then I think that's just vile and cruel.
What you need to do is step up and be the better more mature person by confronting her and expressing your feelings to her in a civilized adult way. Don't resort to shouting or bickering cause you'll just be giving her ammunition to use against u and more reasons to hate you. If this is the case, let her know that for as long as you've known her, she's always been very stand-offish. You could then go on to ask her: Have I done you something wrong? Wait for a response, and if she can't provide a plausible response, let her know that you don't mind her resenting you but your daughter should never be made to suffer as a result of that resentment because after all, she is a product of her son so if she thinks that distancing herself from your daughter is going to hurt anyone, it's only going to hurt her because by doing that she's showing disrespect to her son and to herself because it's going to reflect badly on her as a mother and a granmother.
2007-06-11 09:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no I would not call her and tell her something. I am sure she cares for the baby. Maybe she is going thru some tough times herself (with other issues in her life). How did she act towards you before the baby came? Does she have other grandchildren? And if so, how does she treat them? There are alot of factors that are missing for me to make a justified statement on what I think.
2007-06-11 09:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that is just the way she is, does she have money to buy things? Some people are less thoughtful than others. Saying something might just strain the relationship, I would broach the subject with my husband first and see what he thinks. My husbands mother never remembered his birthday-and he was her firstborn! So some people are like that I guess.
2007-06-11 08:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is really bothering you then you should talk to her, but I wouldn't, I mean it's kinda an odd reason...calling her because she didn't buy your baby anything or call...
The important thing is that you care about your baby and if your mother-in-law doesn't then it's not your problem.
2007-06-11 08:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by m○○♥m○○ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
provide your the clarification why you experience you're waiting. and notice what you're able to do to help him get there. If he's having doubts, then ask him what he sees because of fact the themes, and attempt to artwork via them. in case you may no longer, or he won't, then it is not any issue to convey a sprint one into besides. it would be completely unfair to marvel him with a being pregnant if he's no longer waiting.
2016-10-09 00:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always say something but in reality who likes their in laws? I don't! well I like my mother in law but not the step mother, step father or father or most of the family either to be honest...
you could say whatever you want but don't expect it to change anything.
Just don't make her a part of the child's life if she's not trying to be!
2007-06-11 08:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make anything of it. If you say something it will create tension, and that's not good for the baby. Just let it go, be the bigger woman.
2007-06-11 08:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There is no changing that kind of person. She is cold and sad inside. Even if she doesn't like you she should get involved with her grandchild. If you say something it will just cause a fight.
2007-06-11 08:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by cherrish712 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋