Why did God take him at the most hurtful and inconvenient time possible?

Question

I've been told my dad was the nicest man in the world, everyone loved him and for the short time he and my mum were married, they never fought and he never hurt her once. At his funeral they had to have two funeral services as the two floors of the church were packed full and the 2nd service was the same. He died when I was 6months old leaving my mum widowed, depressed, with a small baby to raise without a father. I now have a daughter thats 10months old and I've never appreciated how hard it must have been for her until now.
Everyone says, oh it was just his time. Why? Nothing was good about dying at that time! That's terrible timing!
There's billions of evil wickid people in the world.
Why did God need him, God can solve his own problems.
My dad would have made alot more peoples lives happier alive than being a fukcing 'flower' in Gods garden. What possible reason could he have had to take him!
There will never be a good reason to justify that kind of pain and loss.

Answer 1

Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perisheth, and no man layeth it to heart: and merciful men are taken away, none considering that the righteous is taken away from the evil to come.

Answer 2

Sometimes people just die and it doesn't mean that God decided to rip him away from those who love him. It's just a part of life. I believe that God set this world in motion a very long time ago. With very few exception I believe that he lets this all flow and go on without any interference from him.

For example, heart problems are genetic in my mom's family line. My mom had a bad heart her whole life. At a fairly young age she had to have a common surgery but because her heart was so damaged from a lifetime of problems, she didn't survive the surgery.

My young niece also has this same heart problem and has already had three surgeries trying to correct the problem. God didn't personally strike my mom and niece down with heart problems, it's just a genetic thing that has been passed down thru the bloodline for centuries.

Now sometimes people die thru the negligence or purposful acts of others. God can't interfere with such things. If a person chooses to kill someone, drive drunk, or whatever - God cannot stop them or he'd be interfering with their free will and that's kind of the whole point of everything so he isn't going to do that.

You seem to be holding onto a lot of anger which is probably because you're sad about having never known your dad. Please don't be angry, I doubt that your dad would want to see you being eaten up inside with anger. It's like a cancer that will eat you alive. I'm really sorry for your loss and I hope you can eventually come to terms with everything. Of course you won't ever be happy that you dad died but if you could reach a place where you aren't angry about it, it would be the best thing for you. I would bet money that's what your dad would want for his little girl.

Answer 3

May I ask, how did he die?

My dad died when I was ten, leaving my mom alone after thirty-four years of marriage, with three kids still living at home. For us, it was TERRIBLE timing.

I don't believe it was necessarily because God "needed" him. It was simply because the time had come that my dad either needed to be healed of his heart condition, or he needed to be in peace.

For a long time, I wondered why he hadn't been healed. NO child should lose a parent so early in life. Parents are SUPPOSED to die when their children are at least young adults, not before that, right?

But I get it. If my dad hadn't died when he did, I would not have rebelled against my parents' faith. If I hadn't rebelled, I never would have wound up involved in a bad crowd throughout most of middle school and high school, and I never would have met my husband. Not only that, but my dad dying forced me to stop being a spoiled brat. I had to grow up FAST. His suffering made me a more considerate person, and I don't think the lessons he taught me would have been so important if he hadn't been dying.

That's my experience with it. Maybe it's something similar with you.

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your father. I do know how you feel. There aren't too many things worse than losing a parent.

Answer 4

My father died when I was young, but I never blamed God for it. I never thought of blaming God. Instead, I turned to God for comfort. Lots of people die young, and we can't know the reason why. Only God knows that. Maybe He was sparing your father from some future illness in his earthly life, or something similar. If you know the Lord, then death would not be such a terrible ending. It is only the beginning of an eternal life. That is why Christians can't understand how people who don't have the Lord in their lives can handle death of a family member or loved one. We, as followers of the Lord Jesus Christ have the Blessed Hope. The joy of knowing that when we or a loved one passes over, there is something so much more than this earthly life. We do not put so much stake in this life, but in the life we will live with Him. We are in the world, but not of it. Earth is not our home. Heaven is. I'm sorry that you are suffering from all of this. I hope I have helped you in some way. Look to the Lord for your answers. He is listening.
Oh, by the way, my dad was a really good person, too. Everyone liked him, like people liked your dad. He affected people's lives while he was here on the earth. He helped a lot of people, and he loved his family very much. I still miss him, but, I know that I will see him again in heaven, and that gives me so much hope.

Answer 5

You're right, there may never be a good reason to justify the hurt and pain of never knowing your own father. Perhaps it may console some to think that this suffering is part of God's plan but it looks as if that has only caused you more hurt and anger.

The best thing you can do is try to see some silver lining. I bet your mother is a strong woman after enduring such a loss and learning to raise you on her own. I bet she taught you some valuable lessons that you will pass on to your child. I bet your learned how to be a strong independent woman yourself and even more important, how to be a good mother.
We may not always understand why things happen but we can always learn something from the things that happen to us - good or bad.

I'm truly sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

I don't believe God "took" your father. Unfortunately, we all make choices. A school bus full of teens is hit head on by a drunk driver, killing over 40. God didn't will this to happen. It wasn't his will to have someone drive while drunk. God doesn't promise anyone tomorrow, just that He is strong enough to carry you through the tough times. Live your life as a tribute to a father who was well respected, live with the pride of knowing that a part of him is always with you and within you. Continue the things that made him respected, I believe Jesus wept the day your father died and more than anything wants to hold you close to him and weep with you. He also wants you give your father his due and live your life as an example and legacy to your father. God can do great things for you as well. Your father's death may even inspire others, again not because that's what God wanted, but because of his ability to make good things out of bad. God bless you, let me know if I can be of assistance.

Answer 7

I'm sorry for your loss, and I feel your pain. I don't believe in the saying "It was just someones time" because since Adam and Eve, God intended us to live eternally when he created us. Unfortunately some bad choices they made resulted in bad problems and influences hitting human kind, illness, disease, pests, imperfections.. and as a result, we go BEFORE our time.
In this try to remember bad people die early, good people die early, PEOPLE die early. Death doesn't discriminate.
If you need to work through this with a counsellor, it might be an idea. But my guess is that your father, would love to see you progress, and be happy in life. If you're a Christian you can rejoice in the possibility of a reunion with him, death is just a temporary separation. Smile, look foreword to that, and make your father happy. Be blessed, and much love.♥♫☺

Answer 8

I was not going to response because I don't have the answer but I want to comment on Julie's answer.

Assuming god does exist, I think it is rude for him to take away a person's life without telling the family the reason.

BOOM, did you ask your mom the cause of your dad's dead? Was it because of medical, accident....? Just think of it as a bad timing of his departure and nothing more. Don't ever believe that god take away people because if you do then you would be even more upset to see young children from loving family passed away.

Answer 9

First, let me say I'm sorry for your loss.

As an atheist I don't believe the make believe god is responsible for anything. We are just subject to cause and effect. I don't believe anyone is "called home" to a heaven. People die because that is what nature has programed us to do. You dad had an untimely death. That is truely unfortunate, but no one is immune from the many things that end lives early. There was a cause for his death. I don't believe a "god" had anything to do with it.

There are others who believe differently....and that's fine. It just doesn't work for me.

Answer 10

Look, we can never justify or explain what God does. He just does it because it was all in accordance to His plan.

Well, if your father was still here, would you need God? Now maybe God took him because you would have loved him more than God. But that wasn't what He wanted, He wants you to love Him, just as you love your real father. I recommend that you ask for forgiveness, and really demonstrate His love for you.