It takes me a long time to open up to someone. When I finally fall I get crushed. No one ever feels the same way for me. I'm a sweet girl. I just don't see why this keeps happening. I am tired of being led on.
2007-06-11 08:14:09 · 19 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am not clingy, if anything the opposite
2007-06-11 08:21:36 · update #1
It sounds like you've gone through the motions at the right pace. You are young, intelligent, attractive, and with a good heart(I've seen some of your Q&A before). All of this adds up to a package that many men would kill to have. DON'T GIVE UP OR CHANGE A THING!!!! Just because you haven't met the right one yet doesn't mean it will never happen. Be thankful that you're seeing all of the commitmentphobia before you get involved deeper. Enjoy your girls night out and maybe stop looking for "Mr. Right". You will find everything you need once you've stopped looking(philosophically speaking of course! :)
2007-06-11 08:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by 55JD55 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say when you finally fall, you get crushed. When you finally fall, do you change? Maybe you become too serious, too clingy or maybe you start to pressure the guy into more of a committment.
I can't see how you would get crushed just because you fall for the guy unless they are just using you or you start doing things differently. Obviously they liked you to begin with. I would take a step back and find out what I could be doing different.
2007-06-11 15:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cdn Chic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, same thing happened to me recently. It's really horrible, I know how you feel. It happened to me twice in a row one after the other! Worst thing was, that both the guys that I liked, fell in love with the same girl. It made me feel really worthless, I mean just after I really thought I could fall for them!
I am also tired of being led on only to get my heart broken in the end! But thats what friends are for, to pull you back up when you are down, and to stick with you through all things. Hold your head up high and wait for that perfect guy! He is waiting for you!!
Good Luck!â¥
2007-06-11 15:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"?
Let me guess - that moment when you say "I love you" is super huge - especially how he answers. You have to get over these artificial "moments" which force the guy into a role he may not be ready for. It souncs like you are the clingy, all or nothing ype in a relationship; either its deep love or its nothing.
Guys really very rarely lead anyone on, except when it is a short-term get-some-sex situation.
2007-06-11 15:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm so sorry you felt this way....well yes dear all of us been to this situation....where we question every single things??? what went wrong?? all of those....
my advice to you stop questioning yourself.....THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AND IT JUST MEAN THAT YOU GUYS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE...
i know its hard to be on that situation esp if we know that we did our best to work the relationship BUT STILL IT DIDNT WORK OUT...
but trust me with all of this experience that you been through it will make you more stronger and stronger EVEN WISHER TO CHOSE WHICH PERSON THAT YOU END UP DATING....and that will depend on you....
also always look for the red sign before you fall for that person...i mean to be honest we see those at the beginning of the relationship BUT WE RATHER IGNORE IT....WHICH IS WRONG...AND THATS THE REASON THATS WHY WE END UP HEART BROKEN...
good luck
2007-06-11 15:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, I had my heart broken once before, it's not pretty. But I wonder what kind of guys do you typically go for. Because there's lots of loving guys out there that aren't users or cheaters. Maybe you should give the guy a chance who is nice, but is afraid to go up to you.
2007-06-11 15:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just focus on other things. Don't worry so much about it. Someone will come along when the time is right, and when they do, take it slow and protect yourself from getting too emotionally involved too quickly.
2007-06-11 15:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by mandie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to chin up. Not every guy is like that, and it shouldn't be the reason you stop having faith in relationships.
For now, just enjoy being single! It sounds like that would be better for you in the long run.
2007-06-11 15:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, me too. Just relax. A nice guy will come along, and just take it slow. Very slow. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Just don't give up or turn lesbian or anything like that!
2007-06-11 15:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your answer is simply to stand tall and not allow yourself to be lead into matters of the heart. While, people are desperate to seek acceptance, to seek love from their companion, they compromise their ability to think clearly, analyzing the outcome of what they reveal.
Share your heart, however, do not tune out your brain. Its power to separate fact from fiction is truly amazing and not something to overlook.
2007-06-11 15:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by ForensicAccountant 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋