I have a co-worker who asks one question after the other; He asks stuff about me which I do not wish to discuss. Private stuff.
2007-06-11 07:46:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Beat him to the punch. Begin by asking him questions about himself as if you suspect he's hiding something...
2007-06-11 08:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by CharJ, 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Celt:
Well I have had this problem and I was not close to this person. She only wanted stuff to gossip with. Anyway, one day she was asking many personal, even too personal questions of me. After the second question, she obviously ignored my remark that that was a personal issue. She continued on. 3rd question she seemed excited that I was going to finally answer her. I did reply, but not answer.
Quietly. without anger, with out emotions I said well so and so, these are very personal wuestions you are asking me and I woul appreciate it if you would not ask me these kinds of questions any more. I do not discuss my private life in work. If you have any questions that have to do with our work, then please don't hesitate to ask me.
She never again asked me a personal question. I was nice, no anger or aggravated tone, just plain simple fact. The thing about fact is that you or anyone else cannot argue with it because it is just that, FACT.
I hope this helps.
Be Safe and Be Well
2007-06-11 08:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to deal with anyone who asks you private and personal questions is to be honest and forthright. Just say, "If you don't mind, I would rather not discuss my personal life". You don't owe him any other comment. Usually people will back off. If he persists - just don't respond at all. People will give up asking if there is no one responding. Ignore him,
2007-06-11 07:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she ask you something private, just say "Sorry, I am not real comfortable discussing such private matters. I hope you understand". After awhile she should get a clue as to what subjects are off limits.
2007-06-11 07:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to deal with a person like that is to ask them, "Why do you want to know?" It will catch them off guard, and you can change the subject while they are trying to come up with a reason. You could also politely tell them that this type of conversation isn't appropriate while in the workplace. Either way, it isn't their business, and you don't have to answer anything.
2007-06-11 08:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by jmeinada 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that the questions he is asking are personal and you don't feel the need to discuss these issues with him. If that doesn't work - ask him something personal - maybe he'll get the hint.
2007-06-11 07:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by willowbee3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he tries to play 20 questions with you again, just ignore him & he'll get the message eventually. He must have a very boring life to invade yours with personal questions.
2007-06-11 07:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "What are you doing writing a book?" or "Do I need legal counsel for all these questions?" Kind of laugh it off and maybe they'll take the hint!
2007-06-11 07:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say "I enjoy our talks but I don't think that's an appropriate thing to discuss at work"
2007-06-12 01:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by minuteblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he asks you something personal that's absolutely none of his business, look at him very pointedly and ask, "What are you going to do with that information?"
2007-06-11 08:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋