which of whom you have never met, and they became best friends after you have been involved with him for quite some time. (His definition of a female bestfriend is a female who none of his friends have slept with) but isnt that what a girlfriend is? And should he be allowed to call her if he is supposed to be spending time with you?? Serious answers only, must have been involved with someone for at least 2-5yrs!! Thank you
2007-06-11 07:37:09 · 18 answers · asked by BabyBrwneyez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me start by sharing a little about me. My husband and I have been together 6 years now. His best guy friends have known him since he moved down here. Around 15 years. These are his closest friends and yet he says that I have become his best friend. I would say that no it is not good for him to have a best female friend other than you. Watch out for this one. There was an article on the yahoo home page a little bit back about this and girl friends (not exes) ranked the highest for stealing the guy. Make a stand and if He isnt willing to let her go then you let him go. He can have best guy friends all day long but you should be the best female friend. Dont expect it of a brand new relationship(only a few dates, not serious yet) but if your serious about each other you should be the top woman in his life. Not anyone else. If he says she is his best friend tell him he can have her and leave.
2007-06-11 07:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by answerteam 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is not going to be your boyfriend long with you say should he be "allowed" to do things. If you try to tell him what he should and should not do he's going to leave. Should he have a friend that is a girl? Sure why not? If you don't trust him then your relationship will never last. You and he can be best friends too, their relationship shouldn't take anything away from yours. If you insist he stop this relationship I think you will lose him and he might start thinking, "if I'm going to be accused of something I might as well do it". Good luck and have a little faith.
2007-06-11 07:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well....I usually only have female best friends. My GF (now bride to be) and I have been going out for 6+ years. She is not wild about the idea of another girl being where I go when I need to vent things I can't tell her. However, she trusts me and as such I wouldn't do anything with another girl to betray that trust.
However, based on a past experience I can say that if you're going through a tough time, it can be emotionally challenging being so close to 2 different women, emotionally. But if he deserves your trust, let him.
Also, if he's ditching you for her then you have a right to be mad. But do not be one of those girls that is "you're on my time, forget about her for now" type, or you will just drive him to her, and you will be the topic of their rants.
2007-06-11 07:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chris O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why have you never met her? Does she even know you exsist and that the two of you are in a commited relationship?Does he talk to her while you are around or does he hide their conversations? If he cares about you the should be no reason the two of your haven't been introduced. It sounds like something more may be happening between the two of them. Ask him to introduce you to her. If he refuses or makes up excuses why yu can't meet than I say move on. He is playing you both..
2007-06-11 08:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by nykate_winslow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man's point of view, I don't see a problem, unless either you're insecure, or he or she has done or said something to concern you. And I'm not saying you should close your eyes either, but don't say or do anything that would make them turn to each other. You're his gf for reasons you know of, and she's his friends for other reasons. I think you need to be her friend, too. Get (and stay) on her good side. And watch her. My gf's best friend is a male, and I trust her completely, but I still watch him.
2007-06-11 07:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have had female "bf" and have always wound up having a relationship that destroyed our ability 2 b 2gether, It rarely works.
Good Luck
SL
2007-06-11 07:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by slewis76063 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he shouldn't call his best friend , that is a girl, it's just wrong, cause he is seeing you, if I would you, I would put a stop to it, my boyfriend had girls just as friends, when he met me, he stop being friends with them, cause he wanted to be with only me, and we are still together, he doesn't have any girls as friends, and I dont have guys that are friends
2007-06-11 07:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you dont own him. You cant tell him what to do. But it sounds very fishy to me. If she is just a friend, than it shouldnt matter if the 3 of u hung out and she possably brought a date. And that definition of a female best friend is totally bogus. So none of his friends have slept w/ her but has he?
2007-06-11 07:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
try to be his friend and everything in my life my boyfriend was has a girl bestfriend but when he loved me i became everything in his life try 2 make like him he will love u more,good luck
2007-06-11 07:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by shadona 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't really matter what he should do or what you think he should be allowed to do. He's going to do what he wants and you can't change it.
Decide if you want to be with someone who has a female for a best friend, and change your behavior accordingly.
2007-06-11 07:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋