They are completely different. So, let me get this straight… for those who are against abstaining from sex till marriage, because of sexual compatibility, are you saying you would dump the ones you love, because you are not sexually compatible? That just seems to make no sense to me.
2007-06-11 07:32:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To me neither. If you love someone, you like that person for who he/she is, not for the sex. It's nice to have sex, but is it the most important thing in the world (now all the pervs are going to say yes but whatever...)? No, it isn't. Sex won't help you when you're in trouble, the love you share with someone will. If your love is based on sex, than it really isn't love at all. Besides that, I found it rather rude to only like someone for sex, it doesn't seem very respect full to me.
2007-06-11 07:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Fallen_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are stages to "love" and after a few years, you will realise that sex is important in a relationship.
Your question seems like you are asking if others will ever learn but it reads as if you are very confused on the subject.
Sex is a natural expression of love between two people. Yes, one can have sex without the presence of love but when two people are "in love", sex often follows.
Sex is a natural act whilst marriage is an act created by humans.
If you were born on an island with just yourself and your future partner, you would never have an idea of marriage. You would live as a human being and follow biological functions.
It wouldn't occur to you or your partner to "get married" unless someone told you about marriage.
2007-06-11 08:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not the same, but they are linked.
The entire reason we fall in love and have intimate relationships is based off of the reproductive instinct; even those of us who do not want children are still affected by this instinct. In fact, isn't this the very definition of the difference between a friend and something more?
If the sex drive was taken out of the equation, all love and friendship would be purely platonic. With the sex drive in the equation, we have some relationships as platonic, and some as non platonic.
In all loving relationships, the instinct to reproduce and keep the species going is apparent. People fall in love, have children. People love and protect their children. People rely on one another to support children. Children love their parents. Friends love one another. It's pack instinct.
Now this is not to say that love is ALL about sex. But the sex drive, or more specifically, the instinct to keep the species going, is the basic reason we are drawn together and one of the largest factors in falling in love in the first place.
There is a difference though- for both men and women, it is entirely possible, even common, to be sexually attracted to someone without having deeper feelings for them. However, all love originates from an instinct to keep the species going, either the reproductive instinct itself (sex drive), protecting the young and providing for them (parent-child), or the pack instinct for strength in numbers (friends, brothers and sisters).
So love and sex are separate, but linked. Saying that they are completely unrelated is false, but saying they are one in the same is no more true.
2007-06-11 07:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by smashcruiserarc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no wisdom in equating sex to love. To dump someone due to sexual compatibility is a sign that the whole idea for the togetherness was about sexual exploitation, not companionship.
2007-06-11 07:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by ojoggo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's taken me 43 years to work that one out!! Good question mate!!I disagree about not having sex before marriage, but I do think that we have to realise the difference between sex and love!! It's all to easy to confuse infatuation and sexual feelings for love and I think time is very important in a relationship before you jump into bed!!
2007-06-11 07:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Beatlemaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a strong sexual connection is one of the most important things to me in a relationship.....if the sex isn't good I feel that the unsatisfied will seek something else. Sex is just sex. Relationship sex is more than just sex, it is a physical and mental bond you create. Now if you're both virgins then that might be another story in itself.
2007-06-11 07:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sex isn't everything. I didn't wait, but I respect people who do. But it would be a hard nut for me to crack if sex didn't work out and either me or my partner would dream of having sex with someone else because ours wasn't fulfilling. And I do believe that having sex is part of our nature, so these kind of dreams would probably be the next logical step. Very tricky...
2007-06-11 07:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Hipira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't wait until marriage to have sex and i believe that you should be sexually compatible with the person that you are going to be with. i have never waited until i loved someone to have sex with them. it's just like finding anything else out about them that you don't like.
2007-06-11 07:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends how you look at things, I think the same way, Im gonna TRY not have sex until I'm married (Me and the Amish have 1 Thing in common lol). But sex dosen't even matter when you REALLY love some one..Not just there flesh but LOVE THEM, heart to heart. But hay thats just me.
2007-06-11 07:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Hawk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thank you!! love and sex are SUPPOSED to come hand in hand, but they dont anymore. the sooner ppl realize this, the better the world will be. no more stupid questions about "should i have sex....or will he love me if..." blah blah blah!!! the answers are simple...wait and no he wont love u if u have sex with him, he'll dump u and find a girl who wants to wait......GRRR....i could go on forever, but i think i'll just shut up now.
2007-06-11 07:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by ilovemysoldier 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋