It's not a 2 carat platinum like I hoped for.. he got me a one carat white gold ring. I hope he doesn't do this with the wedding ring. You know how embarassed I'll be? Should I tell him or exchange it for something else on my own?
2007-06-11 07:08:53 · 56 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what if this is all he can afford
2007-06-11 07:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by bust15nutz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious question? I hope not... but if it is, can you really tell the difference between a 1-carat white gold and a 2-carat platinum? A 1-carat diamond isn't "cheap" and I'm sure most (if not all) of your wedding guests and friends later in life will never know the difference. You shouldn't be getting married if this is all you care about. JMO.
2007-06-11 08:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will try to hold off on judging you, but based on this question it does appear that you may be materialistic and selfish. Another person may have hit the nail on the head when they said "if you can't handle this problem, you probably are not ready for marriage".
Why do you feel the need to have a $30,000 ring on your hand to prove he loves you? Perhaps the 1 carat diamond he got you is of high color, cut, and clarity? I would suspect if he got you a 2 carat diamond he would be forced to get a J color with S2 clarity at best. With diamonds size shouldn't matter as much as the other C's.
Perhaps you could focus more on the relationship and less on the rock. In any case, I would suggest you tell him how much this bothers you so he has an idea of the type of person he is marrying.
2007-06-11 07:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by dm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, maybe he couldn't afford the 2 carat ring. A one carat ring is still pretty nice and white gold can actually be more durable than platinum. Many women don't even get that. If the setting is no what you like, have it re-st, but if it is that the diamond is not big enough then you should not say anything to him. he would be very hurt. and don't replace yourself, that is wrong. he bought the ring for you be case he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. So it is not big enough, you at least have someone who wants to be with you. Move past it or get it re-set so it looks bigger and start having fun being engaged and planning your wedding!
2007-06-11 07:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Molly SH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like the ring I would tell him-it will bug your forever if you do not-that being said you probably should not tell him that you think he was being cheap-say something about the style not being right
Can your fiance afford a 2 carat platinum ring though-that could be a little more than he can afford or he may be one of those guys that does not see the appeal in spending a ton of money on an engagement ring
2007-06-11 07:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by vegasgal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me that sounds like you are more worried about the ring than him. I am getting married in less than a month. Diamonds are not cheap! To get a certified 1/2 carat diamond was over a 1,000 dollars, thats not including the ring it went into and you want a 2 carat diamond. I ended up with a non certified 1/3 carat that was 500.00. I had an engagment ring my boyfriend bought me, but he wanted a new one. For my ring, I payed over a 1,000.00 and that didn't include his band. That took a big chunk out of our wedding budget. So if you want a ring that big, think about the wedding budget unless you have a rich daddy or something. We are paying for most of our wedding. (fiance and me)
Congrats thou! You need to really think about what's more important!
2007-06-11 09:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by guesswhonotme7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe you are serously complaining and affraid to feel embarrased. An engagement is a serious commitment. I don't think he would go cheap just cause he doesn't care. You are wearing a ring that proves his love for you. What, do you not love him the same for not giving you 2 carats n a platnum band? I don't know where he stands financially. Maybe that's all he can afford for now. If he bought you that ring it was because he thought you might like it. Why would you go and get something else, and biggger without talking to him. If you really are not satisfied with the ring, then talk to him. Let him know, but let me tell you I'd love to hear you tell him why you are not satisfied, and then see the look on his face.
2007-06-11 07:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by dollphins06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's funny that I want the same exact one you were hoping for, but have a feeling i will get the one you got. 1 carat, white gold.. is not cheap... at least its a carat. But if you want, just tell him that you really wanted the other one... so save up for it, and then exchange it... which is also not that good of an idea... because he really didn't kneel and give you the platinum one... so will it have the same significance?
2007-06-11 07:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be amazed he got you a ring at all, since according to your previous posts, he spends all his money at strip clubs and you are the one supporting both of you. I would think that since you are the one supporting both of you then you know how difficult that is and should appreciate any ring he gets you. I see nothing wrong with a 1 carat white gold ring. There are a lot of women who dont even get that. The ring is not important, it is the marriage that is important. From reading your previous posts I think you need to seriously consider whether you want to get married at all based on his irresponsibility and your shallowness. If a ring holds that much importance to you then you are not mature enough to be getting married. If you truly loved him you would be happy with a ring from a candy machine because a piece of jewelry does not in any way compare to love.
2007-06-11 07:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him because he deserves BETTER than you. That is so selfish...don't you love this man??? I thought it was the love that mattered not the jewlery. Go find a man that can get you a 2 carat platinum ring. Let your fiancee go and find REAL love...someone who will be honored to get a 1 carat white gold ring.
2007-06-11 07:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Goldie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I really hope he dumps you.
He knew that you didn't like yellow gold, so give him credit for that. Perhaps he was told by a relative that engagement rings should be made out of gold - not the hip, trendy metal of the moment (like platinum is now. 10 years from now it might be titanium or copper for all I know).
Besides, maybe he thinks that saving his money for your MARRIAGE is more important that going into debt for the sake of a ring. If you are this EMBARASSED by this ring, then you need to tell him exactly what is bothering you - but be prepared to have his offer of marriage recinded.
If you are willing to be single again, then by all means, go and exchange this meaningful token for something that will only cause division in your personal relationship and only impress your friends for 5 minutes until one of them gets a bigger ring.
2007-06-11 07:17:59 · answer #11 · answered by Patti C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋