Hello I know their are plenty of questions relating to this subject but im just feeling so down that i need some answers for me personally. This past year i moved from an area where my boyfriend and i werent too far apart from each other. we saw each other almost everyday and were very intimate with each other. as a matter of fact we were each others first. we havnt seen each other for a few months but we kept in touch and never broke up because we still wanted to maintain a relationship. Well for about a month i didnt hear from him but when i did he, through teared eyes, told me that he had gotten another girl pregnant. His reasons were that a very close family member of his is dying and he wanted to have a baby before the family member died. Hes always been so great to me and i never suspected him in the past. I just love him so much and i dont know what to do because what makes it worse it that it seems the baby was concieved around my bday. Help would be appreciated please
2007-06-11 07:05:53 · 7 answers · asked by Tee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That must not be a nice feeling! I really really think that this guy is upto something crazy...as harsh as this may sound right now..if there was so much trouble...couldnt he have shared it with you earlier? Think about it... You can always have someone who is just all yours..good to you..and respects you... if u think this was really genuine and u can forgive him for this... u still need to talk to him n make sure every bit of what he said is true.
2007-06-11 07:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to accept future collateral damages? Seeing as you broke up with him multiple times, there must be something about him that frequently hurt you in some way. Is he responsible? Accidents do happen, but he's gonna have a child soon (given that the mother doesn't choose to abort). Has he shown legitimate concern for the fact that he's bringing a kid into the world, one who won't get to be with his/her father? You might want to sleep on it. It's a lot easier to defend a person when you're safe from his collateral damage. It could become a dramatic reality check if you make impulsive decisions. What you feel now may not necessarily be what you'll feel in the future. Unconditional love is a nearly impossible feat. You miss a person more when you haven't seen or sincerely spoken to him/her for long periods of time. Spend some time with him. Figure it out through personal experience. Avoid tying yourself down. More importantly, avoid making sure-shot decisions/opinions before spending that time with him.
2016-04-01 02:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by Carmella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should be proud that your bf would honor such a dying request for a family member. That show real hoodspa and guts to tell you that story. I cannot give merit to the story but it is better than any one that i couldv'e possibly came up with on the spur of the moment. Best part is it is like the courts giving custody to an unfit mother in the best interest of the children, it is just not arguable, not true or accurate but not arguable.
2007-06-11 07:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh please!!
Run away and dont look back. You want to be with someone who 'got someone pregnant; so they could have a baby before someone died? Like "Look, ma! I made a baby!"
Jackass. Dont believe his tears and his whiny little act. Hes a prick and you should find someone a million times better.
2007-06-11 07:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wish him well and go your separate ways. Yes, you will hurt for a while. Allow yourself to mourn for the loss of your relationship.
2007-06-11 07:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be with someone that can't be faithful. Find someone in your area.
2007-06-11 07:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him you can do better.
2007-06-11 07:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋