I was at a club this past weekend and I saw the cutest guy ever! We talked exchanged numbers and hooked up afterwards. We've been hangin out and talkin on the phone all every minute since we met. This man is gorgeous. But the problem is my cousin called and said that he was her cousin...so that means he may be my cousin too. I asked my mom if she knew him but I didnt tell her what happened. She told me that "his mom is my grandpa's sister" so that makes him my what? I'm so shook up I haven't even got a chance to sit down and think about what that makes him to me! I think I jus f'd up big! But he's still callin and wantin to see me! And I actually had feelins for him that I haven't felt in a while. What should I do? No rude comments please (this situation is already bad enough!)
2007-06-11 07:05:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that's a little off, b/c that would mean that you're grea-grandfather's sister has a son young enough for you to date. I'm thinking it's your grandfather's sister, your great-aunt's son.
He is too far removed for you to worry about it. At most, you are third cousins. No big deal. Completely legal, and not gross. Have fun.
2007-06-11 07:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by lawmom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His Mum is your mum's first cousin. So I think you and he are first cousins once removed .
Here in the UK the law says that even first cousins can marry so you are further apart than that.
That being said if this relationship progressed and you were thinking of having children it would be worth having some genetic screening just to make sure your not both carriers of something.
I think you need to let this relationship happen as otherwise you will always be wondering. You may find after a while that he's not 'the one' anyway but at least you'll have got it out of your system.
2007-06-11 07:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is distantly related to you, he would be the equivalent to a 4th cousin to you. Just barely related, not enough to make any difference.
Don't feel guilty, it's not incest at all. The taboo in our society is against a bro and sister, or 2 first cousins, or parent and child having a relationship. I think it mainly started by people needing diversity in the bloodlines, because if two people with very similar DNA have kids, there can be health problems, etc with the child.
You, on the other hand, are so distantly related, that rule would not apply. In fact, someday, if you wanted to, you could legally get married in any state. But, that's way ahead of where you are now :-)
Mostly, just have a good time, enjoy the ride and see where it all leads. good luck and have fun.
2007-06-11 07:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mary K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I figured this out right, you and this guy are related with a 3 degree of separation, which should be OK...if you two are old enough to be at a club, and you'd never met. then you must be far enough apart that no one was ever together as a close family member...
2007-06-11 07:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by cat14675 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mom is your great aunt. If I understand this right. He and your mom are first cousins. I believe you are his first cousin, once removed (that is not a second cousin). His son or daughter would be your second cousin. So.... if you have a kid with him, the kid will be your son/daughter and your second cousin. Not good.
2007-06-11 07:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Beagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...ya its nasty...i dnt care if hes ur cousin 5 times removed point is u still share da same blood,and u just dnt hook up with family. U should tell him wats up and im sure he would understand y u cnt b wit im.
2007-06-11 07:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by *Angie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it makes him your second cousin. But I wouldn't do it. a cousin is still a cousin. Just let him know you two are family... and you guys can still kick it and shyt with no incest! If you continued it with him tho I'm sure you would regret it. Dose he know you are related?
2007-06-11 07:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Miss_Royalty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your mom's cousin... so, he becomes your second cousin, in our culture would be our uncle.
and it's your choice, but he is close to you in the family tree.. am sorry to read that..
family that close is called incest.(no offense) and if children come out of the relationship, they can have birth defects. it's better if you cut the relation and move on.
again, am very sorry about that
2007-06-11 07:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by laa morenaaaaaaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might I call her my BFF if she wasn't? ok, I basically checked it out and that i would be unable to tension to you the cost of locking your doors. permit her in each now and then, in case you may, yet she incredibly desires to comprehend there are some limitations. If not, she'll be over there consistently whether you're residing house or over right here, she'll be there. With beads.
2016-11-10 03:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be your 3rd cousin and legally in most states marriage is allowed. My aunt and uncle are 3rd cousins. They are very wealthy and have 2 beautiful and normal kids. I see nothing wrong with this relationship, just don't introduce him as my boyfriend and 3rd cousin to other people!!
2007-06-11 07:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Uhg....... 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋