im hurt and confused.....my boyfriend was seeing this girl last year, well about 2 to 3 weeks later me and him started to go out. about 3 months later this girl said that she was pregnant with his baby. and well now she filed child support. i know that it happened before me but it still hurts me. to top it off he already has a daughter who is three, so there for i already have one baby mom to deal with, and trust me we dont get along. now for this new girl, we also dont get along. im just scared that what if he goes back to her. i love him. and im gonna try and stay strong but its hard. and its possible that i may be pregnant. how should i go about this....
2007-06-11 06:50:35 · 15 answers · asked by Erica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump the bastard.
2007-06-11 06:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, with all this BS he has going on, why in the hell would you put yourself in a position to get "knocked up" by this guy? He's got two other kids mouths to feed AND to pay for before you and your possible child. You need to HOPE AND PRAY you're not pregnant and dump his a$$. Why don't you think you deserve someone else better than this? Why would you want to stay in a relationship where you have to deal with the whole "baby mama drama" BS? Sounds like your guy needs to use some protection cuz he's just dropping babies every where. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but I've seen alot of these shitty situations, and nothing ever ends up positive in the lives of the people involved. It's always drama, someone talking sh*t, or arguing, or you get the girls using the kids as a way to get back at the guy. So dump this guy already and move on before he adds you to his "baby mamma list". You're all worked up over a guy who has two other kids to now pay for, so what's gonna be left for you? Where's HIS responsibility in not getting girls pregnant? I'm 31 years old, so believe me when I say I know what I'm talking about. DUMP HIM! Find a guy who's got no kids, or even if he has a child, at least lose the drama with the kids mom crap. I have no problem with kids, but I would NOT tolerate the added drama of an ex's childs mother. Relationships are hard enough. Forget that crap! This guy has too much going on and you don't need to deal with his hang ups. He already has two kids, so who's to day that he won't dump you then you become the 3rd mother/ex-girlfriend who doesn't get along with his new girlfriend? SAVE YOURSELF THE DRAMA!
2007-06-11 14:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girly. First off before she gets child support he can ask for a DNA test. I would recommend doing that first. Just stay strong. Keep your head up and don't let the ex's run you off. If you love him like you say you do than stand your ground with your man. Let him know that you are there for him no matter what. Ya'll are going through this together. It isn't just his fight anymore. You need to sit down and talk with him about all of this. I wish the best for you. Keep your head up you are a strong woman! Not all women would stick around. Be proud of yourself for being so strong. Good luck.
2007-06-11 13:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep probably is his. most women wont go through the motions of filing child support unless they are pretty sure thats the dad. this guy does have a lot of baggage, and is he even worth putting up with with TWO BABYS MOMMAS?? thats a choice only you can make, but just rmeember if it gets hard there are guys out there w/out all this baggage. Also, if he did dump you for her, you would survive.
2007-06-11 13:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. Have him take a DNA test, who ever requests it has to pay for, so in this case, your boyfriend will be responsible for $300..likely the cost, to have a DNA test if she doesn't want to share the costs. Sorry to here, I empathize with you because I too went through baby momma dramas, the relationship will be rocky. My advice is take this slowly.. do not make a fantasy world, like well we love each other and I have his back, because men who likely have kids by many women, feel obligated to their kids only and not their significant other, so in short, they looking out for themselves and their seeds not, like us saying all the time "well i got his back".. i doubt they feel the same. best of luck.
2007-06-11 13:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by rd03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didnt get back with the first baby mamma he isnt going back with the second.But he needs to tell her he isnt going to just take her word for it.She is going to have to prove that the baby is his before he pays for it.Another thing yo umight want to consider.He has a habit of making girls pregnant then leaving them.Make sure he love you before you go through with the pregnancy.
2007-06-11 13:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this loser; hire an attorney so you can file child support papers. You cannot work hard enough the rest of your life to pay his child support bills. If he is so dumb and stupid that he can't see his way clear to buy and use a condom you want nothing to do with him.
2007-06-11 14:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should have to do a dna test before he has to pay any child support.....i think it is standard. if it is his dont worry about him going back to him....just make sure you take care of him and he will stay with you.
2007-06-11 13:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(Comment removed) This question was too much for me. Does anyone ever take any kind of precautions? You 2 should stay together so that you don't spread to others.
2007-06-11 13:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you really shouldn't have to deal with the babies mothers because honestly that child is not yours .. and to be honest with you he obviously loves you very much and you have the upper hand on both of these girls .. get your ring girl this is showing him how dedicated you are to him
2007-06-11 13:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Mature 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. that is a HUUGGEE mess! well, if he'z with u, he loves u too! and if the baby situation couldnt get any worse. does he know about your pregnancy possibility?? good luck and congratulations!
2007-06-11 13:57:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋