So I have a bf of 8 months and when i meet him i knew that he did soemthing i didnt like for him to be doing... but i let it go, well now afte rmonths of trying to get him to stop he is still doing it... and the "what" he is doing is not important... just know that when he is doing it I get put into a bad situation, that i shouldent have to be in .. what he does he calles a job but in reality its not a job he just gets money from it.... anyways my question. I asked him to get a real job a few months back and he has not. well i asked him again and he told me to "butt out of my job situation" ... well that really hurt because im his gf and we live together so i should be involved in his life and job.
Well after me telling him that in a few years i want to settle down and have kids and that i cant bring them into this situation he eneded up saying i was right and that he needs to get a job... so he is soposed to be starting in a few weeks... but he told me last time it was going to be
2007-06-11 05:57:12 · 4 answers · asked by Strawberrieswild 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"a few weeks"
so ..... do i trust him and wait or should i just move on?
the thing he calles a "job" he said he wont ever quit doing...
and then to top it all off, I have this other guy who said he can treat me better and i know he can, he has a real job and a good head on his shoulders... also is more mature... like me
what should i do?
break up and persue the other guy?
break up and get my own place for a while
stay with my bf and see if it gets better?
2007-06-11 05:59:17 · update #1
up untill now my whole heart has been in this relationship, and i thouhgt it was going to go far but now i dont know.
Now i feel like only about 75% of my heart is in it... I dont know what to do
2007-06-11 06:01:02 · update #2
Now he is on his way to go to the new job, with his friend that he set up.. to see what tools he will need. its a construction job.
does that mean i should give him a chance ?
2007-06-11 06:27:44 · update #3
You know what you need to do.
Break up and be on your own for awhile!!!
The answer is not to jump from one situation into another.Be on your own and have a chance to think about what direction you're going in.
The guy you're with is not going to change and the other one can make all kinds of promises but who's to say he'll follow through with them. Be on your own and if he's the one for you,let him take time and prove it.
You'll love and respect yourself a lot more if you take time before you make any decisions and give yourself time to think things through.You deserve a lot more respect than you're getting.
I wish you the best.
2007-06-11 06:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like it is going to get any better, he already has you, and you have sort of accepted he won't stop doing this 'thing he calls a job'.... so, i would move out on my own for a while and figure things out. don't pursue the other guy, but if it happens, let it happen! i would get out of the current situation you are in now though.....
2007-06-11 13:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by *kings* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a drug dealer. That you need to leave behind.
You shouldn't be living with a man if you aren't married to him anyway.
Better to date some one clean and sober and don't have sex with them until you are married to them. Have a long courtship, get to know the person and let them get to know you, see if you are a match. Long, long courtship than marriage.
2007-06-11 13:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and take the other guy, couse if he cant treat u the way he should then it is not worth it unless u have deep feelings 4 this guy tell hum u will leave hum for awhile until he will respecct u.
2007-06-18 21:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋