i was molested by my brother?

Question

and it happend alot befor ei finally got the guts to tell my mom, my brother wa the straight A kind of kid, everyone thought he had his mind right and he was going to go to college. i was scared that my parents wouldnt believe me. it happened up untill just last year. im 15 and i it happened about 2years. he did it when i was sleeping adn when i would wake up i found him doing things. i havnt completly told me mom everything because seh gets so upset and breaks down when we talk about it. now i have secual dreams of the same brother and when i wake up i feel dirty and sick, but ive noticed all my dreams happend in the same place ive woken up in when he molested me. could these dreams be my sub conchence dealing with waht happend or am ijust abnormal. i dont know what to think and i really do want serious answers, not how some people are rude i just want to know if this is what happens or if i need help?

Answer 1

Is there any way of moving where you sleep, i dont know change your room around,decorate it so it feels completly different. your not abnormal but i think this may help you and you should sit your mom down and tell her you need to get a few things off your chest. and even if she breaksdown you need to tell her everything its the only way that in future life this is not going to tear you apart and distroy you as long as you get the help now.
How do you feel about telling your mom everything?
What action was taken against your brother if you dont mind me asking?
please keep intouch to let me know how you are. x x x x

God bless ya!!!

Answer 2

You have a very good point. Your friend said that you should "find the funny side of it" but there is absolutely nothing funny about being molested, especially by a family member. If your brother has apologized for molesting you then you are overreacting. If he was drunk, he might not do it again as alcohol is very influential on abnormal behavior. If he hasn't apologized (which I am assuming is the case) then you have every right to be afraid on the streets. However, if he has done it more than once then you might want to confront him about it. You might find journaling a good solution to expressing your fears, because it sounds as if you are stressed to the max. Another option would be talking to an older/adult friend (that you know would not tell your parents) and see how they would handle the situation, telling them that "if you were in this situation what would you do, not that it has happened to me before of course." Or, you could bring your brother with you and both of you talk to the same person about what has happened. This is what I personally would do. Hope I helped, good luck :)!!!

Answer 3

don't worry it's completely normal! your subconscious might actually be replaying some of the things that happened to you and it's scared. it's pretty much waring you kinda and it has been abused by what has happened to you. I know this is defiantly not what you want to hear but counseling might help get rid of the dreams or at least help them not occur too frequently.
I'm sorry for what did happen to you! That's sick! I can't believe that a brother would do that! it's disgusting! Good luck in recovery! You'll make though! I know you will!

Answer 4

Yes, the dreams are normal. Please don't feel guilty about having this kind of dream. You are correct that your subconscience is dealing with what happend through dreams. You really really REALLY need to be in counseling. Your mother needs to know what happened to you, even if she doesn't want to. But in the meantime, you need to be able to talk to someone about it. Ask your mom to take you to counseling, or find a counselor for yourself. A school counselor can help you find someone, even if you don't tell your school counselor why you want to see one in the first place. Do this for yourself so that in the future, you can have healthy and safe relationships without abuse.

Answer 5

I hope that your brother is not still living in the same house as you- I also hope that your parents are taking you seriously andhope you all got counseling. You are most likely traumatized by the events and you are experiencing bad dreams as a result. It is very disgusting what has happened I hope you get or are getting help from a professional-so that you can heal emotionally and physically from the stress and pain of the past events.

Answer 6

I think you are definitely needing to work this out in your head. You need to see someone and talk to someone about this. You will never work through it if you don't. A counselor will be able to help you with this much better than I. I am very sorry this happened to you and just know it is not your fault and thing will get better just seek help! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Hi hun! I'm sorry! I know how you feel as it happened to me too. My parents didn't believe me. I hope your parents believe you! It sounds like you need to see a therapist to get through all these bad feelings you are having and your dreams. Sexual abuse is one of the most aweful things to go through! I hope you talk to your doctor and set up an appointment to see a counselor. Good Luck and don't be afraid! Your brother needs to get help for himself too. Hugs! Von

Answer 8

Can you get to see your doctor by yourself? I think your doctor would be able to help you to get some counselling, in order to talk things over with someone in confidence. I think once you find someone outside your family whom you can trust (not your mum coz she's already so upset about it) you will find that your dreams will get better. You are not abnormal and you don't deserve to suffer like this.

Answer 9

really sorry to hear that.

well i know nothing about this subject but i would say your mind is just reacting to what happened to you. its not your fault that you have these dreams. your brother does need to have legal action taken against him though. this might be hard for you but its for the best. I hope that in time this has minimal affect on your happiness.

Answer 10

def get some outside help. Has your mom done anything about this brother? It will be easier for someone from the outside like a therapist, social worker and/or doc to help you out.