According to "ettiquet" which member of the grooms family should throw a bridal party?
2007-06-11 05:24:03 · 18 answers · asked by susan_s53051 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No one in the Groom's Immediate family.
So, not Mom and not Sisters... Aunts and Cousins are fine - if the Groom has a Godmother, that would be perfect. My husband's aunts threw us a shower. Everyone knew that his mother was involved with the planning, but his aunts had their names on the invites, hosted, and did the bulk of the planning.
Once again... no one is obligated to throw a shower. Showers may be offered. Somehow, I managed to have 3 showers - with 2 more offered, but declined. Hosted by My Godmother, His Aunts, and His Mother's Best Friend. There is no rule that a bride has ONE shower - but it is in poor taste to invite the same people to more than 1. We had a guest list around 300, so instead of 1 shower, we broke it into 3 smaller ones in three different towns... and 3 separate guest lists.
2007-06-11 06:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's understandable to be confused when you have no wedding experience. But most of what you want to do is way too gift oriented, and parts aren't even true. It is NOT traditional for the groom's mom to throw a shower. Sure, it can happen, but I doubt it's the norm. Where you're getting in trouble is worrying so much about his family and their girlfriends being "excluded". Why does this matter? Lots of people don't even have a shower - I declined one. And as I'm sure you realize, showers are different, because they demand a gift, so people need to be really careful. That's why 2 rules always apply: It should be only those closest to you, and also every person invited to a shower MUST be invited to the wedding. (The church shower may be an exception if there's a separate tradition in your church). The way these generally go, the MOH gives you a maximum number she can afford to host (usually 12-15) and you provide her with names and contact info. So yes, it would be very weird to ask her to host all these other people. And on the ceremony, it's extremely rude to invite people to the ceremony and not the reception. This creates an A List and a B List, and those who don't make the cut will be hurt and angry (as they should be). A cake and punch reception after the ceremony is a fine idea, as long as it's around midafternoon. If your event crosses into the dinner hour, you need to serve something a little more substantial. There's no way it would cost $100/plate, but maybe you could get some help with cooking and serve up some lasagnas or something. The main thing to remember is you need to work with a budget and stick to it. When people are broke, like you are, chances are high there will be those who you simply can't afford to have attend. Sane people understand this.
2016-05-17 08:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can throw a bridal party except for the bride and groom.
However, a bridal party is NOT required. Its whoever wants to throw one for you. Whether it be one person or three or whatever.
I think some answerers don't realize that the grooms family could be in one state, the bride's family in another state, and all your friends in yet another area. Therefore having a non related female member (MOH or other bridesmaid) throw a party for people out of the area would be a LOT to coordinate and be a lot of travel for the invitees.
2007-06-11 08:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody "should" throw a bride anything, since a Bridal Shower is not an obligation, but rather an offer.
A bridal shower is typically thrown by the Maid of Honor or the bridal party, a co-worker, or a female in the grooms family, but again, etiquette doesn't mandate for anyone to be abligated to throw you a bridal shower. You cannot host a shower for yourself and you family should not host one for you either.
Etiquette dictates that the bride must be gracious and grateful may someone OFFER to throw a Bridal Shower in her honor, but by NO means should the bride ask, coerce or demand that someone has to throw her one.
Good lcuk
2007-06-11 05:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
According to ettiquette, no one. The bride gets ONE shower, and the women closest to her are invited. From the groom's side, the future mother in law and any sister's in law should be invited. If there are members of the groom's family who are close to the bride, then they are invited. But the shower should not be more than 25 people. According to ettiquette, there should not be a separate shower for the groom's side.
2007-06-11 05:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
According to recent tradtition, the groom's family typically hosts the rehearsal dinner.
According to etiquette, no family member from either side ever throws a shower for the happy couple.
2007-06-11 05:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The bridal shower is given by the bride's side - her mother, sisters, friends, or attendants. I've never known the grooms side to give the bridal shower - but his female relatives and friends are invited, so be sure your attendant or family has addresses from him and his mother.
2007-06-11 19:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by DSL 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What? You mean your maid of honor isn't throwing you a bridal shower. I would personally recommend having your maid of honor and his best man get together and coordinate a shower. Traditionally it is the maid of honor's responsibility. Why worry about a bridal shower? Just be happy that you are about to marry the man you love and the two of you are going to be joined together as one, now that is THE gift that money can never buy.... LOVE! By the way congratulations on getting married may God Bless you and your husband to be?
2007-06-11 05:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
according to etiquette, no family members are supposed to throw the bridal shower. and you shouldn't ask anyone to either...hopefully a bridesmaid will suggest it and throw it, as long as she's not in your or your fiances family. Otherwise, i think you're out of luck.
2007-06-11 05:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
According to tradition the maid of honor throws the shower.
That doesn't mean that you can't have more than one person throw you one. My best friend that got married last fall had 3. I threw her one (MOH), the groom's aunt threw one for their side of the family, and her work threw one for her there.
I think most anyone on the groom's side could throw one, but I would try to keep his mother from throwing it. It might seem like begging for gifts.
2007-06-11 05:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋