I am having a Graduation Party for my daughter and I have a question please...?

Question

My question is 2-part. First is it okay to ask a few favorite teachers to her party and more importantly, on the invitation how would you phrase a side note asking for no gifts.
To me, no gifts sounds like no gift but please bring cash. Doesn't it? We don't want either from her teachers.
Thanks in advance for taking the time.
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Answer 1

1. In terms of inviting some of your daughter' favourite teachers, please clear it with her if it is not a suprise party. Although they are her favourite teachers, she may feel uneasy having "teachers" at a social gathering. Since this a party for your daughter and you want her to enjoy the party, collaborate on a guest list. Whether it is okay to invite teachers to the graduation party rests upon your daughter. If it was a small dinner as oppose to a party, than it would be alright to invite her teachers to the event. Either way, still clear it with your daughter.

2.
(a) As for the "no gifts" requests, perhaps you can include a note that says:
- Guests are not obligated to bring gifts. All that is required is your presence.
- No Gifts please, just your presence is all we need.
- No presents required, but your presence is requested.

(b)Some guests ignore the "no gifts" request and take the custom of gift giving as goodwill and will bring a gift anyways, probably a small token of their appreciation. Perhaps you may want to have guests donate to charity as opposed to bring a gift, if they choose to defy your wishes:

- In the spirit of giving to others we request that you donate to (name of your favourite charity) instead of bringing a gift.

- Guest are not obligated to bring a gift. If you choose to bring a gift, please give to others by bringing a non-pershiable food item to be donated to the (name of food bank) as your gift to us. Thank You.

Answer 2

Usually when this occurs have the party start an hour earlier than you had planned. During that time invite all family & a couple fav teachers. That way she will be able to spend time with her family & the teachers without feeling embarressed in front of her friends. Then have the friends start arriving an hour later and let her do her own thing!

As for not bringing a gift.. hmm... even if you put it in big bold letters (which you wouldnt) people will still usually bring a gift or put money in a card, however you could gifts should not be expected of course. Some give gifts while others dont... but you could write something simple but sweet like "Your prescense is all the gift "_daughters name_" would like!"

Congrats to your daughter!

Answer 3

If your daughter is close to her teachers by all means invite them. An invitation does not mean that the teacher HAS to come, it simply means that she would like to see her.

When I graduated in 2002 I invited teachers, but none came. So it is entirely possible that they won't even show up.

As for a gift, I wouldn't address it at all. if the teacher gives you something it will likely be money, or else something she can really use. If it's money, turn around and buy something nice for your daughter's teacher in appreciation of all that she has done throughout the years. If it's not money, try and return it and see that that money gets used to buy the teacher something. Either way, if the teacher gives her something, just give it back, and then address how appreciative your daughter, or you were for all of her support throught high school.

Sometimes no matter how insistant you are that there are no gifts, people bring them anyways.

Answer 4

Inviting a teacher to a graduation party is a way of thanking them for helping your daughter. I would say go ahead and invite, and let them decide to attend or not. Some teachers may not be comfortable attending a students party, and some school departments may not allow it. If they don't attend send a nice respectful card thanking them for their hard work. After all, graduation is as much an accomplishment for the teachers as it is the students. As for the gift issue, simple put a note on the cards stating, Please no gifts of any kind, you presence is what makes this day special.

Answer 5

Sure it's okay. Though, I wouldn't put anything about gifts because putting, "No Gifts" is A) automatically assuming that the teachers would bring a gift, and B) some people my take the "No Gifts" as actually wanting a gift.


Just send the invite.

Answer 6

Inviting teachers is not something I would do, they can't attend all parties and unless they have family or friendship ties to you outside of school they should not be invited. It may make them feel obligated to attend, and they may get invited to many parties.
You should never write "no gifts" on an invitation. A gift should be given by someone who wants to give a gift, gifts should never be expected. You should not dictate who brings gifts and who does not.

Answer 7

Yes, I know some people that have invited staff to their graduation celebration. Also, on your invites, if you don't want gifts but money instead, maybe you should have a money tree or something so people know that they should bring cash...Everyone likes giving gifts and if there is a preference, they wouldn't mind it being specified.

Answer 8

It depends most of the time a graduation party is better off without the teachers. The former students want to relax and discuss what they loved and hated about the teachers. Its hard to do if one is in their presence. They can't enjoy themselves if they have their guard up all night.
In the invitation explain that she will be going away to college and she already has what she needs. small tokens will be more appreciated.

Answer 9

Well unless you are friends with her favorite teachers I don't think that it would be a great idea to invite them. For the no gifts thing tell'em - The only gift you need to bring is yourself.

Answer 10

Hello I had many graduation parties,what we do we make invitations just make a straight honest request, Let's celebrate our daughter's or son's graduation party,"Please just bring yourselves" and have a great time, looking forward to see you,Thank you, so everyone knows what your intentions and not to worry if they bring something it's just the right thing to do. Good Luck and congrats Cheers!!