okay my mom found my "toy" and i had to throw it away. she told my stepdad (who has been like my dad for like 13 years). I thought he wuld be mad but hes not. he doesnt see why she is so upset about it. he actually asked me if i wanted it back or another one. he says its okay to see what feels good for me. and its not like i'm out having sex all the time. now he keeps talking about things like that. i think its cool that hes trying to connect with me. but i think its kinda creepy too. but i mean he asked if i've watched porn before n i said yes. I mean who hasnt? lol idk its kinda weriod. but it could be that it just seems out of nowwhere. lol but should i be freaked out or is it totally okay? i need real answers lol i'm lost n out of a toy. I dont know what to think or expect next.
2007-06-11 05:12:59 · 16 answers · asked by kaylia j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might just be trying to figure out how much you know and what you are willing to try. Or possible, how your learning what you know and who you getting your the ideas from. There is nothing wrong with you expressing your sexual desires, alone and with yourself. Toys and porn are pretty harmless and if it makes you feel good, then I would say, don't be freaked out.
If you are truly uncomfortable with him asking questions like that, then tell him that. If he loves you like a daughter, he will understand and respect your privacy.
You should also have a talk with your mother and explain how your feeling sexual and that your "toy" makes you feel good.
Honesty and openness will be the best route.
2007-06-11 05:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur dad prolly likes the idea thats its a toy and not a guy. Sounds wierd saying this but think of it like that. Ur mom just prolly upset because ur growing up and ur at the stage were you'll want to exchange the toy for the guy. She's just looking at it like her little girl is growing all up.
2007-06-11 05:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well honestly id be a bit creeped too i think hes only trying to help but if he offers you porn or to take you for a new toy kick him in the ding ding has he ever tried to like see you in your panties or nude or anything? if so he wants you maybe not i hope not you can always find alternatives for a toy too no not a guy either
2007-06-12 22:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by iceman25032003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's coming on to you. He needs to stop. Tell him that is how you feel. If you make it about how you feel, then he should not be offended. You have a right to your feelings. If he is a good guy, he will understand and stop. If he isn't, he will keep it up. If he does, tell some one... school counselor, or pastor, or... but someone.
2007-06-11 05:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is VERY CREEPY. For your stepfather to ask if you want another toy, or ask if you've watched porn?? You need to tell your mother.
2007-06-11 05:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know what to think. Follow your insticts, which seem to be saying that something is WRONG with that picture. Watch yourself. He may think he has found his opprotunity that he has been waiting for for a while.
2007-06-11 05:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Holiday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should if you are learning about those and under 16. You shouldn't if you are 18+
2007-06-11 05:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by m a c y ` s . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that he is trying to talk to you about the old speech that parents tell thier kids about the birds and the bees. lol. he want to make sure that you dont make a certain kind of mistake until you are ready.
2007-06-13 18:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is getting a bit too nosy and just tell him in a nice way that you like to keep some aspects of your life private
2007-06-11 05:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and honest with him. Tell him he's freaking you out and he needs to back down. If he's truly cool, he'll back down. If he don't tell another adult.
2007-06-12 20:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by RileyIL77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋