I just move to the area and joined a local church. There is a woman of God there that I am falling in love with. I want her as my wife. My mother is having a hard time in another state and wants me to move down to her house to help her. My mom is also a Christian but her health is failing her and its hard for her to work now. I the only child thats not married or available to help. The Pastor here also needs my help and I love this church too. She also a widow. Help from the body of Christ please.
2007-06-11 05:08:18 · 18 answers · asked by Lamar N 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Honor your mother(10 commandments)Seek God first and all other things shall be added unto you
2007-06-11 05:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so it sounds like you're indeed caught between the proverbial rock and a hard place. Your mother NEEDS you now, and she may not be here with you too much longer if you say her health is failing her. Your pastor and the woman of God you're falling for should be understanding of your situation if they are what you say they are...(people of God). Hopefully the church will always be there for you, especially in the end when you come back and need them.
In the meantime, even though you are the only unmarried child of your mother, see if you can enlist the help of other siblings you may have. This is not going to be easy on you or your mother, and you should not have to handle this alone just because you are the only one who is unmarried.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-06-11 05:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok my friend, 1st let me tell you that you are living as Jesus would with this dillema. For you to propose a question of which one should I help, my family or my parish is Christ like in every way. So 1st, you are on the right path. 2nd, You should know that you can not make a bad choice. Whatever way you will end up going is the way God wants you to move. Make a choice and go with it. I would see if there was a way that you could get a professional to help with your Mom, if she is ill and can not work, there may be a state funded care taker that could help her. this would allow you to help her and stay where you are. Not to mention, you could always head over there once a month or so, also, ask your siblings, just because they are married does not mean they can not help your Mom, it is there Mom too. As for your church, The house of the Lord always needs help, any able body will make a difference. And if you are interested in a woman... woohoo, it makes it even better. My thoughts are that you allready know what to do, go with your gut feeling and don't look back. jesus is on your side. I will say a prayer for you now... Dearest Lord, may you take this young mans heart and mold it in the way that you seem fit, allow him the wisdom to make this large descision, and allow his family and friends to understand the outcome, In you name Jesus.
2007-06-11 05:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by bosco_industries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, it seems like you have come to a crossroad in your life. The best thing you can do is seek God for the right answer. Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal it to you. Fasting is highly recommended. Spend as much time as you can fasting and paying for God's direction.
Is there anyway that your mom can come to live with you? Remember that while you want to do what is best for your family, but these decisions will impact your life as well. Therefore your family should be considerate to the situation you are in too. Try talking to your siblings. Even if they are married and settled they are still part of the family and hold the same responsibility that you do.
I will be praying for you.
But if from thence thou shalt seek the LORD thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul. Deuteronomy 4:29
2007-06-11 05:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by World Peace Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your mother. She was there before the other lady. If the relationship with the lady at Church is of GOD, then she will be there when you are able to commit.
On the other hand, is it possible to move your mother to where you are?
I am not saying that you should abandon one to have the other. ( New Church..Nice lady...Mom). GOD is universal and HE has a place for you to be and a calling for you to fill.
I believe that GOD will confirm an answer to you in HIS time. I hope you are willing to hear what HE might say and not willing to hear only what you want to.
2007-06-11 05:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you, but the first thought that came to me, is that we are to help our family first- when there is a choice. God said, that we are to help the widows of our own family, and if there is no family then the church is too help. I think you need to be with your mom right now- just a thought.
2007-06-11 05:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your Mother would be willing to move to where you live. If you are the only child that is not married and you have a chance for a good marriage now, you dont want to throw that away. Chances like that dont come around all too often.
2007-06-11 05:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by cheeseiskool2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help your mother financially or in other ways which do not involve giving up your own life. If this woman you love feels the same about you then you should pursue this first.
2007-06-11 05:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your intentions known to the woman. Then go help your Mom. Keep in touch with her, maybe visit or she can visit you. I don't know how far it is. Then when you mom is well, go back and see what happens. You Mom needs you more than they do right now.
Matt
2007-06-11 05:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need is some time to sort this out. Your mom should be taken care of first. (Maybe you could move her to your area.)
2007-06-11 05:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋