I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years, and I'm 19...lately I've been thinking whether or not I should try dating other guys because I won't be young for long and my last date was back when I was 15.
Am I a bad girlfriend for thinking this way? There is nothing wrong with my boyfriend, he is the sweetest and greatest guy, but I can't help but wonder whether I'm missing out on something. Maybe I'm just thinking he's THE ONE because I haven't dated other people except for him.
What do you guys think? Should I suggest seeing other people and see how it works out? Or keep my relationship the way it is?
2007-06-11 05:08:02 · 17 answers · asked by Daphne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, its normal. I was like that 2, but wat u can do is (this works especially if ur in college) jus kinda look at every guy that u r attracted 2 whether its physical or mental attraction, and c if u have potential with them...such as the way he acts in public, around other people, can u see urself being with this person over ur bf, and so on and so on. Personally i did that and i decided 2 stay w/ my bf since he is 1 of the good ones left and if i leave him another person may take my place and i might not end up finding the 'right' guy as i thought.
2007-06-11 05:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by bkgurl06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad girlfriend at all. I think it's great that he's sweet and treats you well. I know some would say "if it's not broke, don't fix it." But my concern is that you've been with him since you were 15. I think it's very important that you "sow your wild oats" while you're young, that way when you acquire some age, you don't have any regrets. I think just the fact that you are asking this question, means there is some curiosity on your part in terms of seeing what else is out there, and that's perfectly normally especially at your age, and now is the time. I also think you would be more inclined to think he's the one because you have nothing to weigh it against, no other relationships. You won't be young forever, right now it is the "land of opportunity" for you. I am not suggesting you ruin a good thing, only that you consider that do have options. You have the rest of your life to be in a serious committed relationship, but I'm 43 and my advice to you is now is the time you should be enjoying your youth.
2007-06-11 05:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has been your only bf for 4 years you should go and explore your options. You are still very young you have no idea what the world has to offer you. Sit your bf down and explain to him that you two are young and you want time to be able to see other people and he should do the same and if you two end up back together than you know it is real thing. Like you said you think he is the one because you haven't had that chance to be able to explore. There are many differnt types of guys and you will never know until you try.
2007-06-11 05:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie1169 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING wrong with taking a break. But are you going to be able to handle him doing the same thing?
You are actually doing your own advice giving. You are second guessing whether you have missed out on something. You will always regret it if you do not act on it.
If you marry this guy, you will resent him (more subconsciously) for missing out on your younger years. I say do it.
2007-06-11 05:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by A c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you keep wandering what would be like to date other guys, that is basically saying that you are not to sure about your boyfriend. ( maybe u care a lot about him, but u think that there may be someone else more suitable for u) I dont think there is nothing wrong with breaking up with him so u can date someone else , but just do it if you are 100% sure thats what u want. you might regret it.
2007-06-11 05:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Maybe he wants to take a break too. If you're relationship is going well don't cut him out of the decision and out of the blue break-up with him because if you change your mind he probalbly won't take you back.
2007-06-11 05:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Pat H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him and plan being with him theres no need to leave him..but if you feel like you wanna seee what else it out there just take a break..you have been with him for 4 years
2007-06-11 05:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by <3RomanticChick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an old saying "You don't miss it until it's gone." But you do have to live your life and learn from your own mistakes. Observe those around you that have made that same decision to leave someone good to taste life & see how their feelings are also.
2007-06-11 05:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by lapsuslingue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I could give is that if it's something you want to do, you shoud do it before you live in regrets. But please, please make sure to be honest with your current bf - maybe he'll agree to an open relationship, maybe he'll start dating other people, maybe he'll get pissed and not want to talk to you. In either case once you make a decision about dating other people, talk to him, and be prepared to find out how he feels about it. Once you both come up with a soluation ---- just stick to it. No sense in hurting people in your quest for life.
2007-06-11 05:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're entering a new phase in your life. This phase will bring new experiences, and new growth. Take advantage of all this new phase has to offer. You only go through life once.
2007-06-11 05:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋