When to let go of dads things after he's gone?

Answer 1

That is a personal decision you will have to make. Some might wait 2 weeks or 2 decades. Your heart has to be ready to let go and when it is you will know what to do with your father's things. Sorry for your lost

Answer 2

That's a tough one. You need to get to a place where you (and other family members if necessary) are ready to move on. This may take months or years. It's probably not healthy to hold on to everything for too long though. I would suggest that when you are ready, pick a few things of your dad's that mean the most to you (that have the best memories). Keep just those items and display them, frame them, etc. in a tasteful way. Maybe see if any other family members would like to have any of his other things and whatever is leftover, donate to Good Will. That would be the most charitable thing to do with the things that you have no use or desire for.

Answer 3

I think it has to be on your own time, never put a time limit on grieving because all you're doing in burying feelings. I'd say take a box and put it on the floor and don't label it. When you're ready start filling it periodically as you let go of each object or piece of clothing. When the box is full tape it and once again let it sit until you're ready to give it to someone who would be happy to receive what's in the box. If you know anyone who's homeless or needs it would be a great gift that you are passing on.

Answer 4

Gone in what way? If he has passed away, you need someone else to help you through this. You will keep some momentos, because your kids may want to have something that belonged to their grandfather.

I met someone who all he kept was a clock, his dad used to make sure this clock never stopped, by replacing the batteries. So the son made sure he kept this clock running too.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Dad had things, just as you have things. Maybe they were tools, maybe they were clothes. Maybe they were photos or momentos or trinkets. They were things that he used or had for his use. He doesn't use them anymore.

If there are things that you or your family could use, use them. If not, take them somewhere where they can be used. They are just things, not the man.

I mourned for quite a while when Dad passed. Then, he came to me in a dream. We talked for just a few minutes and then he said: " You didn't hink I'd live forever, did you?". I said no and then he said, "well, there you have it."

I think of him often, use the things he left me and cherish the memories we had together. He was my Dad.

Answer 6

Each person has their own healing period and needs to decide this on their own. I know when my dad died we got rid of most of his things almost right away since they were a daily reminder for my mom. My sister was able to keep a few reminders of him on display from day one while mine were put away until I felt I could handle seeing them every day. You need to decide on your own, or with family input, the best time frame to deal with this issue on your own. I am sorry for your loss and hope this helps.