Should I leave my boyfriend of 2 and a half months??

Question

The past 2 months have been the happiest of my life. My bf has been so caring and concerned about me.We had so many great times together and he understands me unlike anyone else, but lately he's been treating me like crap. He used to call and text me everyday but he doesn't do it anymore. Sometimes we even go a whole day without talking. When I call him he's either busy or doesn't pick up. He also doesn't reply my text messages.I took a hint and asked him if he wanted a break from our relationship and he told me that he couldn't possibly live without me and he doesn't want me to leave him. I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore to and he's not the person I used to know. I thought about leaving him but the thought just kills me inside because I love him so much. I know I deserve much better but I miss the person he used to be and I'm hoping everyday that things will be normal again. Is this just wishful thinking? Should I leave him for good?

Answer 1

Hmm...
Let me introduce you to a key to most relationships. One person is almost always the chaser in the relationship, and the other is the chasee. Now, it sounds to me like you could very well be the chaser here. What's the natural reaction to being chased? You run away, back off, as quickly as possible. Just because he hasn't left you doesn't mean he isn't running or avoiding you. And of course, your natural reaction to his pulling away is to chase him even more, resulting in an endless cycle of you chasing and him running. This is bad, very bad. Guys naturally have an urge to pursue, and to win their mates. If they're not chasing, and running instead, something in them is eventually going to snap, and they'll up and leave (generally speaking). What can you do to stop this situation? Simple. Quickly, and thoroughly, stop chasing, and start backing off a little. Don't call him. Don't text him. Miss a few of his calls. When he calls, don't talk longer than ten minutes, and don't be available to hang out right away, instead make him wait a few days. Trust me on this -- when he realizes you're not on his back, realizes you're missing, he'll come around, and start chasing you. Which is just exactly what you want. Problem solved.
Too wishy-washy or sexist? Whatever. It works. Don't like it, don't do it.

Answer 2

Honey if him treating you like crap is him not texting you every 10 minutes and talking on the phone everyday, then reevaluate what it is to be treated like crap.
Before you go man hating... look at things from a different perspective.
What has changed in his life? Does he have a new sport after school? Does he have a job now? Are his parents pressuring him to lighten things up between you two?
Is he still loving when he talks to you, just talks to you less?(If that is it then get used to that, guys are usually not talkers) Or is he saying rude and insensitive things where before he was sweet? If he is then call him on his bad behavior, tell him you will not be treated that way, and ask him to apologize. If he will not, step! You deserve better.

Answer 3

It is wishful thinking. I learned after 2 marriages you can't change a person. And what has made him change in the first place? If he's treating you like this now, don't expect it to change in the future. He's lying when he says he can't live without you because he's not contacting you, etc. Doesn't sound as if he loves you at all and just wants to know he can put you on the shelf and take you off it when he wants to play. I wouldn't put anymore time into that relationship. Remember the good times and cherish them, but it sounds like you should move on....You'll be ok.

Answer 4

Just 2 1/2 months into it and you are already this in love? I worry that you might have some co-dependency issues. You seem to be obsessing over speaking to him on a daily basis. Most guys like a little space. It isn't anything against you. You don't want to crowd him too much. And you need to make sure that your attachment to him isn't unhealthy. And 2 1/2 months is just a drop in the bucket. You need to worry about a change in personality after 2 years.

Answer 5

In relationships, the best indicator of the future is the present and past. Lots of guys treat their girls great at first, because that is how they get you to fall in love with them. Once you're hooked, if they change for the worst, it is likely just them showing their true self. People CAN change, but they usually don't. You're best off letting the guy go and moving on. Sorry. :-(

Answer 6

Maybe he just wants some time for himself. Try not calling and texting him, instead wait for HIM to do it. Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. I don't think you should leave him...if you guys really love each other you'll work things out.

Answer 7

You should leave him only because this happens to a lot of ppl.....he's using u as a back-up....hes messing around with another girl....hopin to get a two for one deal....trust me....if he really loved u...he would have never changed

Answer 8

Oh, for crying outloud. 2 or 3 months is NOTHING. Move on with your life.

Answer 9

You should talk to him before you dump him for good. tell him how you feel, and if he doesnt want to answer, threaten him about breaking up with him... That should work, if it doesnt, then dump him, cuz he must be an assh*le then

Answer 10

the person he used to be isn't the person he is now. you need to leave him alone, no contact initiated by you. maybe he will re-evaluate his behavior toward you. if not, you are better of without him.