At what age is one considered a loser to still live at home?

Question

Not saying I consider anyone a loser, just seeking your opinions.

Answer 1

over 28 years old because

1-18=high school
19-22=college
23-27=graduate school

technically my parent's home was my permanent residence until they had to call me Dr; however, i did have an apartment while in graduate school.

Answer 2

As everyone else is saying, it really depends a lot on the circumstances. There are some people who are in their 20s who like having mommy do their laundry still and make them meals. Those people, in my opinion would be the losers ;) My uncle NEVER moved out of my grandparent's house. He lived there, until both of them died, and when that happened he was in his mid-late 40s and living alone for the first time for no reason other than not knowing how to cook, or iron or do things on his own. THAT is a problem, I would say.

Me on the other hand? Well I graduated from college last May with a degree in an area I no longer had a desire to pursue. I got a full time job in another area, and have been working full time since. However, in my area, I still don't make enough to even rent an apartment. Believe me, I am anxious to get out of here. After having the freedom of being at college, I don't think many people enjoy being restricted at home again. So I am working and saving until I can get a down payment for a house, which in my situation is more logical than paying rent every month. I am of the opinion that I'd rather save up and then use my money to actually own something, than pay bills and rent every month and not have something that is actually mine. So I live at home, I work, and I save.

And for my sanity's sake, I hope I get out of here soon.

Answer 3

No no no! It used to be like that but that stigma is fast wearing away. I mean yes, you get losers who live at home with their mama and still act like children but no the simple act of living at home nowadays is in NO way an accurate progenitor of 'loser-ness' or lack thereof. It Definitely depends on the situation. There are so many reasons to stay at home all due to rusing costs some short examples could be The mortgage 'ladder' everyone's talking about being out of reach Looking after parents Saving up for big future expenses (kids, marriage, rainy days, holidays, etc) Supporting relatives overseas Stay at home student Building a home to emigrate to Location (If your parent's house is the best fit place for your life in terms of work, local ammenities, friends, etc) Lifestyle Whereas it's true it's easier to be a loser or just lazy if you're living at home, it's not essential. And these days even being a loser is such a complicated thing 'cos there are so many types of losers. You can get rich losers and true non-losers who're flat broke and not very housebroken either. It's complicated!

Answer 4

As a parent, I don't think it's the age but the circumstance. It seems that the United States is the only country/culture that thinks children should be out on their own at 18 unless they are in college and immediately upon graduation if they go to college.

While you aren't suggesting Loser-ship on those who don't society seems to do so.

I think it has something to do with the very nature of the country to which so many came to to realize their dreams because the belief was that they could.

We are a nation of individuals who in general can accomplish what ever they set out to accomplish. A nation of entrepreneurs and dreamers, unfortunately that expectation also breeds the notion that at 18 you're ready to take off.

I think it's unfortunate that we've lose as a culture that connection to family so I go back to my original thought. It's not the age but the circumstance. Two generations ago this wouldn't have been an issue, and nearly everywhere else in the world it's not.

Family is family, we stick together and encourage each other and when it's time to move on we're ready.

Now, if you're 30, living in your parents basement and you have no outside interests or dreams, you may have other problems that Yahoo answers can't help you with.

Answer 5

I don't think there is one set age to determine someone a 'loser' for living with the 'rents. I didn't move out the first time until I was 27 - in 2000 (wanted to sooner, but boyfriend was against it...wanted to save for a house instead of renting and his parents were having fits because we weren't married - and thankfully never did). I moved back home a year and unfortunately had accumulated a rather large amount of debt and I was going to school and lost my job - basically everything that could go wrong did go wrong in a short amount of time (including two totalled cars). Moved out again for good when I was 32 - Mom didn't want to see me go, but Dad was getting impossible to be around

Answer 6

It just depends on why you're still living at home. Remember also, that not everyone finishes school in 4 years (sometimes people transfer and lose credits and have to work full time-both of which applied to me). It took me 5.5, so I ended up living with my parents until I was almost 24. They also said they would pay for school as long as I lived at home. That's not an offer I could refuse. I ended up moving out of state 5 months after I graduated.

My brother lived at home (in the basment-what's up with guys living in their parents' basements?) until he was about 29. He moved out once for a year (I think when he was about 24) and then went back. He, however, never graduated and kept screwing up in school. He was working and saving money, however.

To make a long story short, it all depends on the circumstances.

Answer 7

Don't put a "label" on other people. Each person has an individual road to travel and it won't be the same as the next person.

An 18 year old who lives in a very dysfunctional family may leave home the day after their 18th birthday.

A 28 year old college graduate may now be moving out of the family home because they've saved enough money for a down payment on a home.

Who's the loser.

Answer 8

Well, I think it just depends... Some folks stay at home for a loooong time only to help out there parents. But I think ppl who who still live at home just to leech off their parents are the ones considered LOSERS

Answer 9

All family situations are different, I don't think that anyone living at home (as long as they aren't sponging off their parents) is a loser. My husband and I and my parents all moved from where we used to live to another state and bought a house together, we lived with them until we started a family, now we have our own home. But as long as we lived with them we helped care of the house and worked to help pay the bills.

Answer 10

I think it depends on each individuals situation and priorities. Houses are very expensive and it seems like buying your own house, paying for all your bills, and trying to make ends meet keeps getting harder and harder. I would say if you are in your 30's then its def. time to move out.

I'm 19 & my fiance is 25 (next month) and we are currenlty living with her parents. I am working full time & going to college at night and she is working. We figured get college out of the way and begin saving that way we could hopefully get a little ahead. Every person's situation is totally different so I dont think every person who lives at home until there 30 some is a loser.

Answer 11

You're not really considered a loser at any age unless you are just living at home to mooch off your folks.