How do I get my boyfriend to relax? I mean he gets upset for hours over little things,?

Question

like if someone cuts him off in traffic, he's pissed off for 5 hours..... He gets moody and quiet, but won't talk about what's bothering him......if I leave or go away from him when he's like that he calls me over and over and over apologizing saying he just wants me to be in his company, but not to talk about it.....what can I do? He needs to calm down....Been dating four months and I really like him:(

Answer 1

I would encourage him to see a counselor. It sounds like he has a mood disorder or possibly he is extra sensitive to stimulus. There are lots of ways to get a better handle on anger and sorrow.
Mental health issues are so common - he shouldn't feel bad about seeking help. Everyone needs a little help sometime. Hopefully he will feel like talking to a professional about his feelings. Good luck...
ps he is lucky to have you trying to help him.

Answer 2

Well first off how old is this guy? Second of all does he do this when something bothers him all the time? Unfortunately you can't really change him directly, but I do know that if you keep speaking positive to him (Tell him he's wonderful for no reason other then because you can, Praise him when he does things) I can promise you that down the road when he starts acting like that he's going to be MUCH more receptive to you if you don't like how he's reacting to a situation. Not to mention he won't get so agitated about little things. I myself can say that as an example to this having worked :)

Answer 3

He seems to be filled with some anger. He probably learned the pouting thing from one of his parents. Means he's stubborn. You're doing the right thing by leaving. Next thing to do, before you go back to his place, make him talk about it on the phone. And tell him you're not coming over until he talks. And don't. Stand your ground.

Answer 4

he has a anger problem.... at cnn news, they did a special document about anger issue on men. i have heard that all men have anger syndrome that occurs in the brain everyday. it depends if they can control it well. if u can control it, he wont show his anger... if he cant, he will show it. its common on men. i hate people cutting off me on front too but im not angry for 5 hrs.. there's some people who cools off really fast and some people that lasts long... if he ever gets violent with u or u think he will in the future, then he should definitely see shrink or attend anger management class.

Answer 5

Warning signs sweetie....

I hate to say it but if he's like this now after only four months of dating it'll only get worse.

Better to cut bait now than wait until you have a lot more emotionally invested and he starts getting mad at you.

Answer 6

Your warning bells should be going off BIG time. Your boyfriend has anger issues. They will only get worse. He needs professional treatment before he becomes (if he isn't already) truly dangerous.

Answer 7

This is what you do you talk to him not about traffic but like how did your day go give him a hug,akiss ask him if he wants something to eat.

Answer 8

I don't know what it is you like about him, but there is definately a major red flag here. Get rid of him. You can't fix him and you need to get someone who focuses on you and not himself and be a whino.

Answer 9

Omg he sounds like a ticking time bomb I dont think you should get involved with him untill he gets some counseling like anger management he sounds like he could be volital my dear I would be very carefull around him . I would suggest he get some anger management before you continue to see him . good luck .

Answer 10

Sounds like a ticking bomb to me. I don't think you would want to be around when it really goes off. Move on for your own safety.