My son is a dissapointment to me. He is not good at sports, he is in my eyes a very dorky kid and I do not care how smart my wife claims him to be. I asked him a simple task to get on the football team this year and make me proud for have ever making him. But he failed in that, now to me he is nothing and he is such an innocent boy how can I tell him this that to me he is nothing anymore.
2007-06-11 03:00:03 · 87 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
How in the hell am I the horrid human being? My son has to do what I tell him to do without question and for all of you who think I am bad at parenting let me just tell you I am just trying make my son happy and beign a smart nerd is not going to cut it!! If I couild make varsity when I was in High Shcool damn it he can. He has got to stop going to those gay little book cluub mettings at his school and get out on the field and be a real man like god demands him to be!
2007-06-12 13:50:18 · update #1
You know, I think you are a disappointment...........
How could a parent feel this way about his own child?????
It is sick that you think if he isn't good in sports that he is a failure........ I hope he is smart and dorky, maybe someday he will become a doctor, or scientist, and become wealthy and
and tell you what a piece of crap father you are!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-11 03:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You do not even know how much I pity you. I blame you for being a jerk, your wife for marrying you, and foster care should take your son away. Everyone who I showed this to was appauled. This is the most idiotic and disgusting thing I have ever heard. First of all, you should love you kid unconditionally, whether he gets straight A's, straight F's, or is a drug addict. Second of all, even though it is still bad, more parents would complain about their kid getting bad grades. Will sports get you a Nobel prize? Hell no. Will sports make you rich? For the most part, no, because aspiring athletes rarely make it. You should be happy that your son is so great in school, and shut up about sports. And you should be proud that your son even reads. (I am a straight A student in school, but I don't read much.) How are book club meetings gay? You are a horrid human being, and I feel so sorry for your son. I could go on forever, but I would rather go answer math, science, and American Idol questions, rather than dealing with your bull. I hope you change, because you are a disgrace. Just goes to show that anyone can be a parent these days. Also, in response to you God comment: You said that god wants him to be a football player, and that he failed. I think that god is proud of your son for dealing with a jerk like you, and your the one who has failed him. So go hug your kid, tell him you love him, and mean it. And stop being a jerk.
(P.S. If you are just a kid or teenager posting this to be funny or start contreversy, go get a life!)
2007-06-12 03:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't you understand that being militant towards your son is only going to make things worse for you, your son and your family?
Were you raised in Hell or something?
Do you want violence? Do you want to find drugs or whatnot? Keep acting like this towards him. Keep pressing those buttons and tell him he means nothing BECAUSE HE DIDN'T GO OUT FOR THE FOOTBALL TEAM.
Read that sentence out loud a few times and think of how STUPID it sounds for a reason to decide your son is a DISAPPOINTMENT!
You are encouraging it and will bring out the worst in your son by belittling him and shoving your agenda down his throat.
Your son is probably well aware of your feelings, as I am sure you make a point to give him hell about not doing what you want him to do!
He should do what you say without question? Did you obey your father without question? Did you not ever talk back to him or stand up to things you didn't think were right when it came to him demeaning you or YOUR character?
You are asking for hell by being this way towards your son. Go get some hobbies dude. You're a disappointment to all of the good fathers out there who let their children live their own lives.
2007-06-14 17:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Done 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how could a parent feel that way? It doesn't matter what your son is capiable of, maybe it would be more if his father were not such a jerk. And why should he have to make the football team and be a good sport to even make you happy? He is your son, is that not good enough. Maybe you should just sign your rights away to him if you dont want him. I am sure that you would hurt him very much by telling him he is a disappointment to you, maybe even send him into therapy, and he could turn out to commit sucide, I have heard of it happening, but you know if you really feel that way about him, then just sign away your rights, he deserves someone who would love him for WHO he is and not WHAT he is anyway. Greatest luck!
2007-06-11 03:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is something going on here that we don't know about.Do you have some other concern that you are not mentioning?
Do you think your son will turn out gay or something like that? Did he do something (beside being nerdy) that makes you concerned ?
If you weaken people a lot, like you would weaken your son by criticizing and hating him, you make them into psychos or losers. Be very careful what you do.
See if you can get a psychologist who does child councelling to talk to your son. You can't do this thing on your own.
Get help to figure out how to help your son be more powerful or perhaps more confident (manly) and how to avoid hurting him.
Get help from the psychologist to help your son deal with the stress that he must feel for failing you and disappointing you.
2007-06-12 19:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by fred 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about starting off with "Son, I'm such a loser I can only think of myself and I'm an idiot because I don't realize what a great gift you are." That could work because you are a loser and a dead beat dad even though you are in life. I feel sorry for your son. You are susposed to love your child no matter what. Your a sick person. Maybe being on the football team wasn't a "simple task" for him. Maybe he doesn't even like sports. Maybe you need to stop living your life through your child and be your own person. You are very disturbing. You are a perfect example of what's wrong with the youth of today. You demand stupid things of your child and don't love him for what he is. You sir, make me vomit.
EDITED TO ADD: This guy is such a loser. He actually emailed me instead of answering what I said in the public forum. I told me how he hates his kid and that football is easy to be in. If it's so easy, you jerk, then why aren't you a professional player or a coach? If your son is truly a sissy like you are trying to make him out to be remember he learned how to be a sissy from you. You can't even be man enough to answer me in public forum. You are a huge loser. Go find yourself a football player and quit emailing me.
2007-06-11 04:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your son has not lived up to your expectations. but love is an unconditional thing.Your son probably already knows that he is a disappointment to you. this added stress makes it more difficult to perform to the best of his ability.
Here is my suggestion. Right down all the dreams and visions you had for a son. Be very specific. Obviously you wanted a very masculine, strong, athletic, popular son. Write it all down, not only the aspirations you had for him now, but all of those you have for the future. Take this piece of paper out to the back yard, burn it and have a funeral for the son you never had. Let the son of your imagination die so that you can embrace the son that was actually given to you.
If you can let go of your expectations, you can start to see your son for the gift that he is. Look for his strengths and encourage them. Not having the approval of your father is the most crippling thing that can happen to a man.
I also suggest that you read the book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. If you are not a reader it is on audio and video. I can not tell you how much this book has helped my husband and my son.
I will be praying for you.
2007-06-11 03:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
With the attitude you project, you don't have to say anything. Your son knows how you feel. Children are very astute and aware especially when it comes to sensing the feelings of those around them.
What is puzzling to me, is why you are still in his life at all. If his not being an athlete troubles you that badly, the best thing you could do for him, yourself and your spouse is to go away. I also question how a mother could possibly subject her child(ren) to a person such as yourself.
My guess is that you will die a very lonely old man. We will then see that there is justice in this world.
2007-06-11 03:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by anangelseyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sports isn't everything! Maybe you should look at what he's good at. It sounds like you have a very bright kid. Some kids just aren't cut out for sports and you have to accept that. You should be more concerned with your son doing well in the things he's interested in, staying out of trouble, getting a good education. It sounds like he's not going to make a life out of sports. Maybe it's time you show your support. He can become anything he desires if he's book smart. Sports can only get you so far. Wouldn't you be proud if he became a doctor, lawyer, surgeon, accomplished musician. One day your going to want a relationship with your son. Don't push him away so he's not there when you need him.
2007-06-11 03:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by reena84 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok dude you know what ,you are way in over you head with this one. Just because he is not into sports right now, dosen't give you the right to ride him off. Why don't you help coach a team sport and that way you will encourage him and you will let off steam at the same time? Or perhaps have him pick a sport that he wants to play. If he hates sports then I'm sure he can do a million other things and you will just have to get over it. Be thankful you have a kid and a healthy one.
2007-06-11 05:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by VBF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously stop thinking those thoughts. How did your father treat you? Was your entire relationship based on your athletic ability? If so, that is pathetic. Every child is different. You should be ashamed of yourself for not accepting him as he is. Make a bigger effort and get to know your son. Football most likely will not get you a career or fulfill your life. Your son's intelligence will. Appreciate the boy he is.
2007-06-11 05:53:10 · answer #11 · answered by baby_rach_21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋