My 25 year old daughter was invited to a friend's house for a get together. Her friend's mother in law showed up. My daughter's friend decided to cook hamburgers for everyone and remembered that my daughter does not eat beef. My daughter told her friend that's ok, she'll make herself a grilled cheese sandwich. The friend's MIL told my daughter, "I'm kind of pushy and I will make your sandwich the way I want and I will let you know when you can eat it." My daughter told her, "The hell you will! I'm "kind of" pushy too and picky and I'll make my own sandwich." Then this MIL called my house to complain about my daughter. I told her my daughter is 25 years old and fights her own battles. Next time think before she tries to boss my kid like that again.
What would you of said?
2007-06-11 02:51:56 · 10 answers · asked by Jessi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you handled it perfectly! And so did your daughter for that matter! Good job!
2007-06-11 05:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Di 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said the same thing as you. Obviously the MIL thought she would have an ally with you, being her mother, but she was wrong. You must have agreed with your daughter when she told you the story. Good for you! and who is this woman who thinks it's OK to call you up and complain about your grown daughter? what nerve!
2007-06-11 10:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by laura g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same as you. But not as nice. Don't pick on my kid. For heaven sake she is 25, she can decide when to eat and when not. She knows how to make a grilled cheese. That women needs to take a chill pill.
2007-06-11 10:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by bluebird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Holy Moly,The worse in me comes out when anyone attacks my children. The mother lion thing. You showed remarkable restraint with this MIL. You did good Mom and your daughter did the right thing too. It'll be interesting to see if they are ever invited to the same party again.
2007-06-11 10:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by dENISE D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That MIL was making herself useful and needed, eventhough she was misintepreated ( during her generations, that gestures probably considered warm and affectionate behaviours, might not represent the present generation). It's nice to be fussed around by some old folks because they have their ways of intepreting warmness. How do you like it if your Daughter-In-Law's mother complaining about you in the net? I'm sure, you're not going to be affected..but, it will fall on your Son's shoulders.
2007-06-11 10:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by lylie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your daughter. And what on earth is this woman thinking by calling a 25 year old's mother? What did she think you were going to do?
2007-06-11 10:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID...
I feel sorry for your daughter's friend... I have a TERRIBLE M-I-L and so do many girls I know, but this is the only M-I-L I've heard of who is a b*tch not only to her own D-I-L, but also to random non-related people and those people's family!!!
I'm not as polite as you probably are, so I would have invited her to shove that sandwich where the sun don't shine...
2007-06-11 09:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Heather L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haaaa, people often complain the loudest about people who are most like them! You did the exact thing I would have-"Hey lady, she's a grown up! She'll make and eat her own cheese sandwich!"
2007-06-11 09:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing ... You're daughters an adult why is she calling you besides to start a fight. Her life must be pretty pathetic.
Makes you wonder who's the child doesn't it?
2007-06-11 10:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rhyannonn C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice....I agree with you and the way you handled it.
2007-06-11 09:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋