My boyfriend and I got into a fight the other night and he said sarcastically that I was a good girlfriend (situation is difficult to explain-why we were fighting) so basically he called me a bad one. I've been trying to find ways to be a "better" girlfriend..... Have any ideas on how I can be a better girlfriend even when he apologized and such? He said he didn't mean it but it still is there and he still said it and makes me feel as if I really am a bad girlfriend.......
How can I be a better girlfriend???
2007-06-11 02:45:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing will drive a man away faster then the following:
1. Acting as his mother. A man wants to see you as his partner not an authority figure. Solution: Remember your place!
2. Unwilling to compromise. Solution: you know you hold the power, but sometimes let him feel as though he has some say in what you do, eat, etc..
3. Smothering him. It is in a womans nature to smother a man when she feels as though she could be losing him or if he is getting unattached. Solution: Dont do this! Spending more time together when you know you shouldnt will only drive him away. Sometimes you need a few days apart to realise how much you mean to each other..
Even if that has nothing to do with your situation, maybe it will help you some day. I lost 2 relationships because I was not willing to compromise and be a better girlfriend.
2007-06-11 02:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you the best way to improve yourself (And in the process improve others including your boyfriend) is praise them and speak positively to them. Encourage him on a daily basis and I promise you he'll see a side of you that he'll like!
The great thing about it is that you'll find that you'll even feel better knowing you're being positive and your boyfriend will love the fact that you're so positive with him. Believe me when I say that eventually he'll really start returning the favor to you and I'm not just talking through positive words ^^
The first thing you need to understand is that you aren't a bad girlfriend and the first thing to understand is that everyone has bad actions we take, but that doesn't make us "bad". However I understand the sting that comes when a fight is going on and something is said like that. It hurts very deep hearing it from someone we love, but that's why when you build each other up and encourage each other, over time those arguements don't have such hateful things coming out, and you don't feel like you're bad because the positive far outweighs the negative :D
2007-06-11 02:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by MetaSigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) She's hot 2) She's smart 3) She loves you and would never try to hurt you 4) She is always supportive of you My girlfriend is exactly all of that except she's REALLY hot like a supermodel. Ok I admit it I'm bragging but it's the truth :P Anyway we get along really well and we've been dating for a long time. Worst thing my GF has done to me: She gave me a $5 gift card. To Gamestop. That could buy....maybe a really used YuGiOh game. It sucked.
2016-05-17 07:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, JoJo, but you are being quite vague....how do we know what to suggest if we don't know what kind of girlfriend you are? Maybe you are some kind of fab, super awesome, girlfriend and your Bo is a big jerk. If you have a good grasp on what normal people are supposed to act like in relationships and you are, in fact, a good girlfriend, than put a big mirror in his face the next time he is pointing at you as the problem.
2007-06-11 02:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know whether or not you are a good girlfriend. Don't let words said in anger make you feel bad unless you really are guilty of the crime.
2007-06-11 02:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, if he doesn't like you for who you are then the heck with him because he doesn't know what he's missing right? Don't let your mates change you in any way, especially your own personality. Tell him, say, "Hey you. I don't understand why you think I'm a bad girlfriend, but I tell ya, you're missin out bigtime!"
2007-06-11 02:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by smilin_evry_day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy is going to have a different set of priorities. Maybe ask him. Or be sneaky and ask him the best/worst personality traits of his last few girlfriends.
2007-06-11 02:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stright out ask him what u can do. even if he says he was joking just say ok fine but what do u think i can improve on? and dont get upset with his answer. maybe ask about his day and show interest and care for him more..?? i dont know the situation so i cant give a complete answer
2007-06-11 02:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to feel that you need to be better for him, if you two really love each other, he should accepts you just the way you are with all your glory and your flaws.
good luck on trying to be a better gf, but I doubt if you'd ever be good enough for him if you don't think that you are good enough now.
2007-06-11 02:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by on the go 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋