Three children close in age?

Question

I have two boys. My oldest will be two in a few weeks and my youngest is 7 months old. My husband and I are 16 years apart in age. My husband is 43. He said if I wanted another baby we should have one soon. That means we would have three children under the age of 3 or 4. I really want to have three children but I am not sure if I can handle having a baby so soon after my second. My husband just doesn't want to wait to long because of his age. Anybody else in this situation?

Answer 1

A lot of children that I have seen (when they get older) are usually the best of friends because they were all about the same age. It may be a good idea. My sister and I are 4 years apart and we hated each other growing up. She was always jealous that I always got to do things she couldn't and I was jealous of the attention she got from mom and dad. It's up to you but I would say go for it. Good luck!!

Answer 2

At 43 would it really hurt to wait another year? Then your 7 month old would be about out of diapers and off the bottle. My father had a child at 76. On the other hand, I have 5 children 2 were fours years apart, 3 were 14 months apart. It was much easier to raise the 3 that were close together than the 2 that were so far apart. My 3 that are close together are also close to each other emotionally and call each other and visit all the time, the 2 that are further apart are not as close to their brothers and sister and also have different attitudes toward family. They don't seem to want to participate in faily gatherings as much and seem a little jealous of the other 3. Both of them have stated they should have been an only child, while I didn't get this from the 3 that were close in age.

Answer 3

I have 4 children, their ages are 5 1/2, 4, 2 years, and 2 months. So they are 18 months, 22 months, and 24 months apart. After the first we could not wait to have another right away!! 3 girls and 1 boy. The oldest is very independent but the 2nd and 3rd are very close and share a bedroom. I would not have it any other way, but I am very busy. Going from 2 children to 3 is much harder than I thought it would be, but adding a 4th is not much harder than 3! With 2 you can still very easily go out, but adding a 3rd makes it more difficult. My sisters were also only 18 months apart-I am one of 5 kids, and my niece and I are only 18 months apart and grew up very close.

Answer 4

I am 48 years old with a five-year-old, so I can see your husband's point of view on this. When you approach fifty, it can be hard having a very young child in your life, and your husband will have three!

It will be difficult for a couple of years to have such young children, but in my parents' generation, it was very common to have a large family in quick succession. I do think you'll be happy with having three so close in age once the two oldest are out of diapers. They will be close to each other, and entertain each other all the time. Plus, you are still young and energetic, and at the perfect age to be able to handle this! If you get pregnant within the next three or four months, your oldest might even be potty-trained by the time the new one is born, and the middle child will be walking and almost talking. You can do it!

Answer 5

It may seem hard at first, but they would all grow up together, be close. Get it over with early I say. My fourth due in 15 weeks. my eldest is 20 then the next 10 the 3rd 8. When this child is 20 my eldest will be 40, I will be 62. I wish I had had them closer together. Your husband is a lot older than you, maybe you should try to see his point of view. He probably thinks about the things he may not be able to do with the child later, depending on his fitness and health. Cos after 50 everything statrs to fall apart. SO MY OVER 50 FRIENDS TELL ME.

Answer 6

It depends on what other kinds of help you have in your area, for example if grandparents are nearby. Ours are a year apart. The first year was really tough, but once they start eating the same stuff and both sleeping thru the night - now at ages 2 and 3, its great since those 2 play together.

The only way Id consider another so close is if you have help.

Answer 7

Wait a little bit. My 2 are 13months apart and I am not having anymore simply b/c it is HARD to have more than one baby in diapers. I always felt like I didn't get anything done and I didn't have enough time with them and I was a stay-at-home mother. If you feel you can handle it, and some can, then go for it. If not, wait for the 2yr old to be fully potty trained first. Good luck.

Answer 8

We have a 7,5,3,and 4 month old boys and an 18 month old girl. At first it is a bit hard with the new baby but after a few weeks you get in a routine.The only bad part is more dishes,more laundry and more toys to pick up but it is worth it.

Answer 9

If it's three he wants and you love him. Go for it! My daughter is much younger than her husband, and he wants three children. Although they already have one boy and one girl. The reason your husband wants you to have them now is because he wants to see them grow up. And if you can handle two, you can handle three. I did. I had them close in age. But after your third one, I would suggest you tell your husband to get fixed. That would be fair enough.

Answer 10

well me and my husband we are 12 yrs apart in age and we have a 5yr boy a 4yr girl a 2yr boy a 1yr girl and were 36wks preg with another boy. my hubbys in the army so if we can handle it i think u can. only if you 2 agree to have another child. if u dont want another child then just tell him.