Who else thinks promise rings are BS??

Question

I'm sorry, I know I will get yelled at for this one by all those of you who have gotten 'promise rings' but to me they are BS! I mean if you are in high school or even in college a promise ring is cool but once you are an adult...say late 20's, early 30's, promise rings are a waste of money. Give me an engagement ring...fk a promise. Promise to marry me...someday....LMAO! I don't think so. Does anyone agree that promise rings are for puppy love? To me, it doesn't make sense to give a promise ring to someone you been in a relationship for 7 years and are going into your 30's and have kids together. Is this just a way for the men to keep the women happy and quiet? Trick her into thinking you are going to marry her with some promise ring? "Yes, I love you but instead of an engagement ring, I'm giving you this promise ring so that you know that I promise to one day marry you" HA HA! BTW ~ I am not the one who got a promise ring, a few of my friends have gotten them.

For those of you who DO NOT read the WHOLE question: I am NOT the one who received a promise ring...if my boyfriend EVER gave me a promise ring...He would get beat the fk down! LOL

Answer 1

Amen! Thank You! They are total BS--either you're getting married or not. This is such a stupid part of our culture nowdays! The men get to put off the women by essentially promising to commit further on some vague date in the future. The women are the ones that really get me though--they let a little sparkley stone get in the way of true commitment.

BTW, if my man were dumb enough to try that one, he'd be single....It's the real thing or nothing for me!

Answer 2

I always say it's not a promise of marriage someday, that's what the engagement ring is for. And if you are promising to get engaged, that's just silly! if I got one of those after High School, I would be ashamed to wear it. It's like saying, I think you are the one, but i just want to make sure there's not something better out there. The closest thing I got to a promise ring was something I refer to as a temporary engagement ring. The story behind that was we were 20, in college, and the guy really had no money, so he gave me this little ring that was my engagement ring until he could save up for a better ring. I got the real one three months later.

Answer 3

I agree, given the full text of your argument. It's certainly OK for two people who feel they're too young or not at the right point in their lives (both in college, for exmaple) where they want to make a formal commitment that would prompt freidns and family to expect a wedding in the near future. But under any other circumstances, I think it's ridiculous. You're either engaged or you aren't. This is no place to be making commitment baby steps. What's next: "We've made a commitment to waiting to consider to buy a promised ring"?

On the other hand, if the couple is both OK with the idea, my feeling is live and let live, despite my personal opinions on the silliness of the idea. Just don't expect your late 20s early 30s aged friends to ooh and ahh over your "promise ring" the way they would over a real engagement ring.

Answer 4

I received a promise ring and I'll agree with you, if your in your late 20s and beyond, it's kinda of bs. On the other hand I'm just on the cusp of 20 and the ring was more of a placeholder until we become more financially stable as to afford getting married and buying a proper engagement ring. But if you guys have lived together for 7 years you should already have your financial world together more or less mapped out and there should be no need for a promise ring, especially if it's just a promise to marry someday, and not a for sure, in a year we will set the date sort of thing, otherwise, I think he should have just bought you a nice necklace and left the marriage talk for some other day or year.

Answer 5

I totally agree with you. A man should never give an adult woman a promise ring. It's obviously a stalling tactic on his part. If they are a good couple with good communication between them, she should already know that they will most likely be together someday. A ring should just be a ring, like a nice piece of jewelry, like her birthstone or something. But a ring that means something should be a diamond ring - the engagement ring. A promise ring is a slap in the face.

Answer 6

depends on the promise, if it is a promise to marry someday well that is the same as an engagment ring, an engagment says i promise to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you do you take this ring as a symbol of my love. so no do not take the promise ring for a soon to be wedding. . . commit or not. IF the promise is something different like i promise to be faithful, i promise to not do drugs, i promise to respect you , etc...

Answer 7

Agreed. I recieved a "promise ring" when i was in high school and was leaving for an entire summer from my boyfriend of 2 years (who i am now engaged to) but it wasnt a tiny diamond or intended to be a promise ring. It was silver ring in the shape of a piece of leather tied by two strings. He got it at an art festival. Its a beautiful ring and I'll keep it forever. It was great for high school sweethearts. But now that we're adults I was please to recieve a proper engagement ring and classy proposal.
Adults shouldnt need to make "promises" like high schoolers. High schoolers use promise rings as a way to make a commitment, since they are too young to actually be engaged or married. Adults are not too young to be engaged.
Whatever though, to each their own I suppose.

Answer 8

Promise rings are also called STFU rings. They get the woman to shut up about marriage for a little while until they realize that the ring isn't a promise to do anything. If it was a promise to marry it would be an engagement ring.

Answer 9

I suppose that the only circumstances an adult could get away with this is if they are just waiting to get engaged and perhaps have to go away for work (like soldiers) or perhaps if they are going off to study and cannot afford an engagement ring for a few years, but I agree they should really be for kids, high school sweethearts etc.

Answer 10

I think it doesnt matter if its a promise ring or an emgagement ring .. all rings are bs if the man is unfaithful...If he will marry me oneday how can a ring confirm it? think about it a ring is more than his words? a ring could be taken back and promises are broken so are engagements...if a guy is gonna be with you he will be..if u know that he loves u and he is committed his words should be enough..not some ring...but I wouldnt mind a ring if its pretty to wear :p I am juss saying I dont see the connection between ring and promises :S ahh...life is more complicated than that.