i finally spoke to my boyfriend who has been distant with me and he said that if it wasn't our difference in religion he would never have been this way with me. He said that his parents would never agree to us together and they are very strict. He said his feelings for me are strong and that a year down the line this would be much harder so better to keep it friendly.
I told him i wanted him in my life and he agreed we should be friends. He spoke to me more than ever before, and as i've been diagnosed with cancer, he even cried over the phone too. I felt it was genuine, i don't know. He also told me that he never cheated, but i know he did because i have evidence but i want to just put that behind me and be friends. Is that a smart idea? or am i playing into his hands?.. i still love him so being a friend is going to be hard. Any tips on how i can make this work? i want to call him now but am holding back.. it is probably best we remain friends. Should i trust him now?
2007-06-10 22:37:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why remain friends with someone who has cheated on you, lied to you and gives you a clear message that he doesn't want you in his life by hiding behind and excuse that his parents religion would make it impossible for you to be together??? What part of that last bit didn't you understand hon? Let this guy go, get yourself sorted with the cancer and leave all that makes you ill behind! Best of luck x.
2007-06-10 22:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Confuzzled 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so how old are you guys? If you're both old enough to be living on your own, who cares what the parents think? It's your life and you have to live with the decisions you make.
On that note, if you've already decided to be friends, yes it's hard, but it's probably best to keep it that way. If you try to say I have feelings for you, I think we should get back together, blah, blah, blah and the other person doesn't feel the same, it will just create unnecessary drama and awkwardness between you that you don't need. It will take time but you'll eventually get over it and find someone who is perfect for you.
On the other hand, if you're both not living with your parents, screw them and do your own thing :)
good luck :)
2007-06-10 22:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by jhs247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never easy just remaining friends with someone who you have been involved with and still have feelings for. He does sound like he does have feelings for you, and I think you will still have a lot of problems to deal with if you chose to remain friends with him. Just ask yourself how you would feel if he started seeing someone else, would you still be happy being friends with him then?
If its over between the two of you, you have to put what you want first whatever you may feel about him. Don't let him mess you around. If you aren't getting what you want from him, why give him what he wants?
2007-06-10 22:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Leaps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know at the moment you feel you need all the friends you have, and I agree - but I don't think he has shown himself to really care about you at all, so I think that you may be as well to just break off all contact with him, and concentrate on getting better.
You need to look after yourself now.
2007-06-10 22:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really love this guy then you should be friends better to be that than not anything at all, but just dont hurt yourself. U deserve more than that.
Kim
2007-06-10 22:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not going to be easy for you to remain just-friends wit him...cos you obviously got feelings for him...either you convince him to marry u or let go.... i dont think you should marry him bcos
1.he cannot disobey his parents for ur religions sake..
2.now that you have got cancer i doubt if he is interested for you...
3.he lied to you..
its gonna be difficult but you have to decide to the best
2007-06-10 22:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by priya d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents are briged that every lover crossed, call him, see him face to face, dont thinking may he is cheating you or not, be nice to him morethan before, prove your real love to me, let him understand that you love so much. things will be better. but if he refused to return your love forget him, your real love will come sure he come one day and is very soon
2007-06-10 22:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by fajesco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice dont trust anyone and it will be better to u if u treat him only friends if u love him bgad but if u can 4get him easily leave him good luck
2007-06-10 22:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by shadona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many love and sympathy in life.....Many of them are not be same religion as I.....And we don t have any problems like that.... For me it is important mine love is man and be man and be human first at all.....What is his religion is not important at all.... His parents are wrong and ...... They will see....When he find some same religion girl - who will not be that beautifully and good like you !!!!
2007-06-10 23:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by Danica O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋