I have met 2 guys online who I have fallen in love with and they with me. One is 23 from the US and the other is 21 from Australia. Now the one from the US asked me to marry him and I said yes and this made the other guy made,saying he never wanted to speak to me again.
I have now learned that the other guy got mad because he wants to marry me.
What do I do. As I said I love them both and I dont want to hurt either of them.
2007-06-10 22:23:14 · 16 answers · asked by smehea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For all of you asking I have not met any of the guys,we have just been chatting online for ages. The one from Oz for about a year and the one from th US about 9 months.
2007-06-10 23:28:51 · update #1
Also as we haven't met in rl all the 'dating' as some of you say has been online. And neither of them had said it was exclusive,so does that mean I have been cheating on them.........I dont think so.
2007-06-10 23:39:54 · update #2
Well, what were you doing dating two guys at once for?
Search inside yourself. Ask yourself these questions:
1) Could I imagine myself with this person 5 years from now?
2) Imagine the hard times. Would this person stay with me if I was jobless/sick/bankrupt?
3) Does this person want the same long term goals I do? (Kids, work, ect)
4) How well do I really know this person? (I'm assuming that you've met them in person more than 10 times if you are accepting marraige proposals.)
5) How mature is this person? Do they really want to settle down? Am I ready to settle down?
You agreed to marry the guy from the US. If you had been entertaining the idea of marrying the guy from Aussie, then you wouldn't have agreed.
You knew that eventually you would have to tell one of them "good bye" in order to be with the other one. Someone would eventually be hurt. It may not have been the best thing to pursue a relationship with both of them at the same time, but it's already done. Just send a last "I'm sorry" e-mail to him & cut ties.
2007-06-10 22:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - your question is wrong.
You are in LUST with two guys. You are in LOVE with the idea of being romanced. That's why you have the prediciment you now find yourself in.
Have you even MET these two guys in person? Doesn't sound like it. Sounds like you just like the attention you get out fo the deal.
Do yourself a favor - turn off the internet and go spend some quality time face to face with these men. Then you'll know the right answer (which is likely that neither is right for you). Or that they are both already married.
2007-06-11 05:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
errrrr u met these guys online??? have u seen them in person.
From experience, finding guys on the internet is not smart. Most of the time they aren't who they appear to be. Seconly, the phone doesn't help much more either. You got to meet these guys, spend time with them, and only then think about marriage.
If you are jumping between the two then are u really in love to be getting married anyway??.. it all seems a bit rushed if u ask me... 23 and 21 year old guys are wayy too young to be thinking of settling down in this day and age.
I think u really need to sit and think of ur future and who these guys are.
2007-06-11 05:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're GOING to hurt one of them, no way around it.
The Yank asked you before the Aussie could. Marry the Yank, count your losses, and enjoy life before you decide to cheat on your husband with some other random guy you meet online.
2007-06-11 05:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
look u must chose only one to dont hurt both of them see what u love more and choose him and say to the another that u want him only like a friend u will hurt him but its better than u hurt both of them for along time,i hope u get the right choose good luck
2007-06-11 05:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by shadona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all,you should have NOT been talking intimantly with 2 guys at one time.And the only thing you have to do is GET over it.You need to join that place where u need a new idenity, get plastic surgery to make your face look different.And move to Greenland
2007-06-11 05:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this is LOVE you are just having fun. You should take a moment and think which is the guy that you are interested in? by the way have you ever meet the guys in person? if not then this is non-sense.
2007-06-11 06:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u ever met anyone of these guys?
the net is not the best place to find a husband! u need to be very careful! these guys may not be what they seem to be!
warning bells going off!
2007-06-11 05:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by MiZz RuBy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry either. If you were seeing them at the same time, you don't know what true love is, and you're not ready to get married.
2007-06-11 05:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the Yank and go with the Aussie. It's a no-brainer!
2007-06-11 05:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋