if you skim through my recent last questions, youll see that it seems to be just me thats going through it this bad on yahoo answers.
who wants to be struggling with bpd, low self esteem, major depressive moods each day, never have made any friendships in life, never had a girlfriend, never been employed,
is lonely, lives by oneself in a small apartment....
whod want to live like this? who could endure this? i dont think anyone would envy being me in life...
i also struggle with rage and high anxiety & panic, which prevents me going out..
how will i ever achieve my dreams of finding a nice girlfriend & emigrating from the uk?
i just dont see how i will...i have a criminal record,nothing serious, but one never the less..
i see nothing but very cloudy, grey,& dark days ahead for me.....i dont like myself, how i look, the way im physically aging,
the way i have 2 missing teeth at the front (bottom row)~im bald...
ive never liked my physical appearance. who could live like this?
2007-06-10 20:00:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your biggist problem is your negativity! Can't you see the good things in life instead of being so self absorbed? Go out and help others if you can't help yourself! You'll find it hugely rewarding. In the mean time, see a counsellor, get yourself a friend (or contact a family member). Have some fun and make sure you smile! I send you a great big happy hug! XOXOX :) :) :)
I think you should play this little game that I used to play when I was a child. Smile at every person you see. Try and collect as many smiles from them as you can. It's so fun. Good luck in life :)
2007-06-10 20:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
What is it you are seeking now at this time today in your life? Not yesterday and not tomorrow but TODAY and right now?
Uh uh uh? ONE thing at a time plz! You are all over the place.. don't argue with me now, your bipolar AND so am i. I know this disease all too well, and before it is under wraps ..SCATTER!!!! Just read your question...lets see here, we have the matter of bipolar disorder itself, low self esteem, major depressive moods, no real friendships, no girlfriend, no job...lonely...A HUGE ONE BTW...AND THAT IS WHERE YOU WILL BEGIN...by yourself, ( back to lonely), then you go on about who wants to live this way, who can endure, no one wants to be the envy, you struggle with rage... okay that is the pity part (AND i believe strongly that there is NOTHING wrong with one pitying oneself while going through the process btw and for the record okay?), okay next is rage... that is part of mania which is associated with the bipolar disorder...those are manic attacks.....high anxiety and panick... yes as i said manic attacks....so see you need to probably see another doctor now that you are here in the US when you can and get a new diagnoses when you can that is bipolar with mania.
Okay and the rest of course is questioning how in the world you are possibly going to achieve living a successful life and exist here on this earth and be a decent and handsome young man with a lovely lass besides you for you to also love and care for. Kinda sorta yeah?
Alright, well here is the thing. It starts with SQUARE 0. And well this 0 is you. mmm hmmm because uhh yeah your not even a hero yet darlinK. Nope you aint even number 1 in your own life yet from what i am hearing. And well until you are putting yourself as #1 you no way can you make it even on the road to recovery. Because yes this bipolar is a journey and a hard and treacherous one and unless you put you first above ALL OTHER AND EVERYTHING ELSE AROUND YOU?? Nope, it aint going to happen and you are NOT going to recover. So now then do you want to overcome this or not??? It's a yes or a no. Your 29 now not 15. And well i was the same age you were when i decided to put me as #1 and then at age 30 is when i was diagnosed with bipolar so i was able to then begin to build my road. But see you will not be able to build your road without as i said the strength of yourself. You must get rid of this loneliness, low self esteem, and learn to live without the friendships if need be and learn that solitude can be a most wonderful thing. You must be able to look into the mirror and smile back at yourself and accept the missing teeth for now, and the bald, physical appearance. And well, i am not even sure if you are on medication or not for the bipolar?? And if so, those could be having a major, most major effect on your appearance as well.
Well, i have written a novel already for you but this is just a tip of the iceberg to let you know i DO have the path to recovery on bipolar. NO, there is NO CURE... BUT there is stability an LIVE AFTER bipolar and although that makes no sense what so ever now as it did not for me when i was told 4 years ago and TRUST ME i was at the bottom on the barrel and still coming out of the dust storm behind me....i never woulda believed it and i was right where you are now AND WORSE!!!!! Blood was drippin' outta my wrists and oh there was no Q&A forum!! lmfao
I am here.... when your ready. I love you and I CARE and well so THERE neener neener THAT IS ONE PERSON IN YOUR LIFE NOW ONE FRIEND!!! HA HA HAAA!!!!! Oh and yes I AM REAL!!! Oh and well uhhh i'll be startin' a business sooonnnn.... so pick up the pace kid!!! And lets get with the program alright??? And hey now, life is just around the block all you gotta do is pack up your gear and get a move on it!!!! No, bipolar aint that easy to clear up BUT YOU ARE!!!!
2007-06-11 03:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you get counseling? You are not alone. I am now 45 and have suffered most of what you feel for over 20 years. I met my husband in a mental instatution. We have been married now for 12 years. There is a person out there for you. You will meet her when the time is right. Counseling will really help you. But you aren't alone.
2007-06-11 03:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have problems. But I have a friend who has Huntington's disease. She's made it to 30; she walks with great difficulty and her speech is very slurred. She falls often and needs help with daily living. She lives alone in an apartment. Huntington's disease is a death sentence. There is no cure; no hope. It will eventually rob her of both her body and mind. Her husband left her and took their children when she got sick.
She is always gentle, sweet, and smiling. (yes, she can still smile at this point). She's nice to everyone because she knows she only has a short time to enjoy life. You could take a lesson from her! No matter what your problems are, there are many who are in much worse shape.
Don't waste what you have by ingratitude for the blessing of life.
It's all about attitude!!
2007-06-11 03:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well the only answer i can give you is if you have money you could work on your phsyical appearance, fix your teeth, get a tupe or try growing hair products for men. Join a gym and excersize. God didnt create you to be alone. There is somebody out there for each of us. If you dont have the confidence work on being confident with your inner self and except who yo u are. There are lots of bald guys with wives and girl friends. Im pretty sure you could find someone special being who you are right now. You just have to come outof your shell
2007-06-11 03:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by taffy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
OK I went through depression several times too.
I still sometimes struggle with BDD.. I don't like the way I look, I wish soo many times that I had a better appearance.
I know that I've been through a lot of tough times but I also know one thing: John 3:16 FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY SON FOR WHOM SO EVER BELIEVETH IN HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE..
I just want you to know that Jesus loves you and he knows what you've been going through... and no matter what you did he'll forgive you. Just repent and ask him to be your saviour and he'll come into your life and you'll have a friend who gave his life for you and who will be always be there for you..
I'm telling u this because I want you to experiment God's deep love - just like l did. I've been through alot too but I've also felt the most incredible love I've everfelt. A love that doesn't condemn, a deep love that I never got from anyone else i have a loving family and a few good friends, but I nvr felt such a love as His love..
Dont 4get :he loves you...
2007-06-11 03:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah..realizing you've got a problem is the first and most important step in overcoming whatever the issue is.
Believe and confident in yourself is another important thing as you will always encounter obstacles and challenges in life.
I believe in you Wild Wood.
If You believe in yourself you can do anything!
Now you should call on the nearest professional help around you to help you in these situation.
Be Strong Always.
Good Luck.
2007-06-11 03:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by **meel** 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure you are not alone.And believe it,beauty is not about outside...try to be helpful;haveyou ever helped someone?given somebody a smile?Try to be giving in kindness,without asking for return.You know,God is the lonliest of all.Everyone closes the doors of his own homes to him.He is still kind to them.Just give it a try.Go out.Start loving people for even 15 minuts.Smile at them,not expecting anything from them,not even a smile.Tell someone a nice,short story you like on a bus.Just so that he enjoys it too,not expecting to start a friendship.you HAVE to start loving yourself before you find some girl to love,and expect her to love you.I promise you will succeed.start by giving more attention to yourself.Noone is ugly,i'm sure.If wanted to keep in touch,write to me to naseemafrasiabi@yahoo.com
2007-06-11 03:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by naseem 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You concentrate way too much on your problems by saying or thinking about it you are keeping the problems alive and strong. Replace those with positive ones or you will never recover. Trust me a lot more people suffer like you do, I was one of them.
2007-06-11 06:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by stacey b 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you can't have a job, at least try to volunteer, just do something useful to gain some social skills, and good recommendation for future jobs
2007-06-11 03:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy dude 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋