Today one of my bf's friends had a Barbi doll with her (her daughter's). We were discussing it, had fun and when someone said that Barbi's body is unreal - too perfect, my bf says that my body is exactly the same as that doll's. It was a JOKE! My body in fact is pretty good, but I am not tall and obviously am not a model or a Barbi type. I got very offended by his sorcasm, but he claims that he didn't mean it as a sorcasm, but what was that if I really don't have Barbi's body? He did the same exact thing a month ago, saying that I have a body of some stripper (someone discribed that stripper, and my body is absolutely NOT like hers!) Sorcasm again? I cried a month ago, and I cried now - he still doesn't understand. Or maybe I just overreacted both times? Do you think it was a bad joke, though?
2007-06-10 19:33:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Both times, when I asked him if it was a complement, he said it was NOT a complement, but that was just a JOKE. He said, it was nothing and he didn't mean anything. I know him - he complements different ways.
2007-06-10 20:06:57 · update #1
just chill ,i find that if you react to comments such as this you will be easy prey for him in the future , take it on the chin and laugh it off he will soon get bored with it in the end. good luck
2007-06-10 20:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♥BEX♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he meant it as a joke it really was a bad one - as from your words anyone can see that you are not a barbie type. Fishing for a laugh on someones body is rather cheap to me. It may even say he is really looking for a barbie and you are only a fill-in until he has found her. Tell him these kinds of jokes hurt you.
2007-06-11 06:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is really trying to pay you a compliment. I think, too, that you are over-reacting to the situation if you are feeling offended by these comparisons - neither of which is really so bad when you think about it.
I think you might look at why you are offended by these remarks. What isn't right about your body in your opinion. There must be something there that needs to be dealt with. I think if you already acknowledge that your body is "pretty good", you won't have far to go to find answers for yourself.
As for your boyfriend, I think you might want to have a serious chat with him to clear away a couple of misunderstandings. He isn't realizing how this bothers you right now, and he needs to get the message and respect that. He sounds like a good guy, and if you can explain your own feelings to him clearly, he should back off for you. In the meantime, relax.
2007-06-11 02:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy has a daughter I would imagine he is married and doesn't want his wife thinking he is talking so highly about someone else. I definately would not be offended. Take it as a compliment, even if he said it jokingly. If he's not married and you have been friends for awhile he just probably feels awkward saying those thing in a serious manner.
2007-06-11 03:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by niknac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like he's trying to pay you a compliment, but if backfired on him. Try approaching him about it honestly. Ask him what he meant. You say it was sarcasm. Could it be that your own self image is damaged, and you look better than you think? This is not uncommon in our culture. Give him the benefit of the doubt, because those sound like compliments, even if they are a little off.
2007-06-11 02:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by momaab 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he was trying to compliment you let down your defense about your body. I was also very consciese about my body and i took sarcasm the sameway but when I started to realize I do have a nice body that someone out there appreciated me it changed my outlook. Dont be consciesce about your body I am sure your boyfriend loves it let go of your selfimage and see yourself as sexy it makes a world of diffrence
2007-06-11 02:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you need to find a guy that has humor that you can understand if this doesn't work out. I think that it was meant to draw attention to you in a good way. I dated someone that was sarcastic like that and you have to learn to take it with a grain of salt and a good comeback such as... "and he is built just like KEN" :) Wink wink!!! That will get him thinking!
2007-06-11 02:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mizzshutterbug 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
can't you take a joke..tell him he has the body of a Greek God and then roll your eyes...or say he is the greatest lover you have ever had..but say it in a mocking voice..turn about is fair play..guys just like to have fun...don't take this personally
2007-06-11 03:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your getting compliments! Enjoy them. My guy tells me I look sexy in anything I wear even when it's jeans and a sweatshirt.
2007-06-11 05:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people talk like that all the time, not meaning a thing, not meaning offence! they lack the right sense of humour, don't take offence yourself, take it well!
2007-06-11 03:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋