This person used to be my friend as well as my roommate, but it's gotten more and more difficult to talk with her (we'll call her AC). We lived together for 2 years, with two other girls. This past year, one of the other girls left for another community, and the other girl we lived with lives with me in a new apartment. AC is somewhat self-centered without realizing it, and we had a few problems with her while living together (i.e. she'd eat our food (to extremes) and would be publically affection with her bf, and complain about her graduate schoolwork being much harder than our undergraduate curriculum). She likes to IM or call, but it almost always ends up being a - gee look how wonderful (or awful) my life is, sympathize with me and tell me how great (or how unfair) my life is. What's a polite way to get her to realize that the world doesn't always revolve around her, without blowing up at her for past issues we had in the room together?
2007-06-10 19:12:26 · 7 answers · asked by annacd36 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Take politely and in friendly terms. It is not easy to deal with self-centered people so be cautious on what you say and how you say. Don't be talkative.
2007-06-10 23:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your complaints about her sound like pretty typical roommate type stuff. I'm sure she has complaints about you, too.
And what's with you being upset that when she thinks her life is great and upset when she thinks it's terrible, too? Friends normally share their highs and lows.
If you don't see anything good about the girl, just create some distance and spend time talking to other people.
2007-06-10 19:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she an "only" child? Maybe she's brought up overpossessive.
She needs your help more than you realize it. Be a true friend instead of just a room mate.
2007-06-10 19:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called maturity and apparently she has none maybe some day she will but you need to be the better person and just ignore her or tell her straight up she ain't all that or send a anonymous letter to her and tell her just be care full not to give info that may lead back to you
2007-06-10 19:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by missleanne89 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You CAN'T make her see that. What you CAN do, is to stop paying any attention to her. The fact that you are spending minutes of your life thinking about her, is way too flattering for her narcicism!!!!!
2007-06-10 19:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry Pie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give an inch . . . .
2007-06-10 19:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
puke on her
2007-06-10 21:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋