How would you feel if ur parents told u that 'We feel ashamed because of you'?

Question

I had an important exam yesterday and I did bad..They are all sad and angry..And they told me this: We feel ashamed because of you.

Now, I feel so bad and I hate them! Do you think they have a right to say this because of a exam? Why don't they think about me? I'm so lonely and sad..What should I do?

I studied.

Answer 1

Some of us got stuck with selfish stupid parents. That doesnt mean your life is always going to be bad. I had really bad parents who beat me every day of my life and told me I was worthless but that was so long ago its almost like a dream now. What you need to do since you dont have supportive parents, is to build an outside support group of your own. What that is is to find different people you can count on when things feel terrible. You need more than just one person for this though so all the weight of your problem is not just on one person. Cuz one person cant always be there for us and so its good to have several people you can talk to. Like some can be friends your own age you can talk to and do things with to get your mind off of the negative things in life. So look for positive kids for friends. If you pick negative ones it will only make you more depressed. You need friends who like to have fun and dont always dwell on the bad.
Also you need to find a couple adults you can go to when you need some wisdom on how to handle things. Like a trusted teacher or school counselor who can guide you.
Meanwhile you might also try to find out what your talents are so you dont sit around feeling useless. What do you love to do? If you dont know start experimenting with things. Like do you love music? Can you sing? can you draw or paint? Do you like any kind of crafts? Can you make things? Are you good with people or children?
Another good thing you can do to feel good about yourself and learn things is to volunteer your time somewhere where people need you. Its always good to feel needed and it builds your self worth. Look into your community and see what there is. You could also meet a lot of positive people that way because they are doing good things for others. Since your parents wont help build your self worth you have to find ways like this to do it yourself. You are worth it. So find people who are nice and some volunteer place you can work at where people are positive minded. You might end up having fun and feeling better about life.

Answer 2

Your parents should be more understanding. You are going through a very rough time in your life. Well it was a rough time for me. Heck, I cry at least once a week. Sometimes it's because I'm sad or maybe I just happened to see something on tv that made me cry. If you need to, cry when your alone. I know you said that you don't even like to do that but you have a human body and human bodies have to cry. God gave us these emotions as a gift. Would you rather be a robot and always feel the same way all the time. You know how people say you don't appreciate a sunny day until you've had a rainy week. It's kind of the same thing. You are only being normal. What bothers me about people crying is when they cry because they don't get what they want or they're spoiled like them kids on "My super sweet Sixteen". I can't stand watching spoiled kids like that. There were a few that were good kids and they appreciated what they got but most of them get on my nerves. Another thing, your parents should be glad that your continueing your education no matter where you go. That was kind of a shock to me when I read that. Most teenagers now a days don't even try to go to college or they don't apply themselves. Your parents should be proud of you for being responsible. They may be trying to make you tougher for the outside world but come on everybody cries except for maybe dudes. lol. They cry too they just don't tell anybody. I hope this helps you some.

Answer 3

What you should do is talk to your parents and let them know how they made you feel by saying that. I mean taking exams is very stressful and very difficult. How about their the parents and they are supposed to supportive regardless of what triumphs or failures that you have. Don't feel bad about failing your exam sweetie you are going to fail at a lot of things and all you can do is pick yourself up and try again. Your parents should happy that you put your best effort forward and had the bullocks to take that exam and love and support you regardless of what the test score was. Right now you need their understanding and compassion. If you wanted to be critiqued and criticized you would have told your failure to someone else. You will be just fine dear.


Good Luck!

Charlie

Answer 4

Hi,remember me from 2006 WC section,Juventina and all that stuffs!?lol

Anyway,they never tald me that,but sometimes words of parents can pain more than punch,cause your emotions are hurted,very badly,i know how you feel,and they don't have right to tald you that,but they are not thinking at the moment,try to understand them 2!I know that you are lonely and sad...well when i feel like that usualy a good friend of mine help me,or gf sometimes...maybe you should try the same.I really hope you will make things out,at the end,exams can be solved whenever you want,most important is your health,and your happyness.You need a friendly hug.

Answer 5

this shows that they trust u a lot
it means they were sure that you would do it
it is not the end of the world, you are still young you will have a lot of chances
my parent go crazy if i fail a test too
because they think that i should get the highest grade, i should be the best one
they want the best for you
oks demands long term studying and it puts people under pressure including you and people who are around you.
it was a moment of anger, but they are always be with you. don't worry, they just think that you deserve much more. that's why.

Answer 6

Parents don't always support ya when you need it and sometimes it seems when you need it the most is when they are the farthest from being supportive. Just hang in there. If you studied and your did your best that is all that matters and if you parents don't approve of your best then don't worry about it. Maybe they are just too selfish to see that you should be most important in their lives instead of whatever is holding their #1 attention right now. Hang in there one day soon you'll be out of the house and it won't matter what they think besides if you spend the rest of your life worrying if you are going to make them happy you are never going to make yourself happy and if you hold yourself up to their standards you're never going to accomplish all your dreams. Just reach out and reach high and make your life into something that you are proud of even if they don't care or notice. Good luck!

Answer 7

My parents told me that, i feel sad too. But at a point of time u may hate them, ltr u will 4get it eventually. As ur parents, they have a bit of right to say that but they r also in e wrong coz they r not e ones takin exams, they dun understand how we feel. I feel that u should try 2 take things in your stride or try 2 cheer urself up or hang out wif ur frenz n 4get abt tis whole **** i can say...hope everything goes well 4 ya...Cheer up gurlx^^

Answer 8

That was the wrong thing to say.
For some reason they think if they shame you enough you will get straight A's.
They were wrong...parents make lots and lots of mistakes.
As for you being lonely and sad....You really should talk to your school counselor...something just doesn't sound good to me. Chin up little sweet! I am thinking about you, you don't need to be smart to be loved...I bet you have something else you are good at!

Answer 9

Maybe they are just shock so they've said this. Don't take this too much. Take this as a challenge. Prove them that you could do better than they expect you to be. Don't take any revenge cause It may worsen the situation. Your parents love you. Confront them and tell them that you need their support. Their anger will pass. Any parent would feel the the same way as your parents did. Maybe they've expected too much from you that's why they got so much disappointment. You're not alone.

Answer 10

Dear Irmak,

I am nat sure , your family said, 'feel ashamed because of you' ...

Did you remember what I said, you asked a question about Turkish education System and my rememberance ...

If you want to read again, you can sure all of them is right it is not kidding.

Wait it result, and There is a Turkish Proverb,
'Her iste bir Hayir Vardir'

How many question there ? And How much did you finished ?

Kisses so much for you,

Cheers

Ps. Irmak, Pearl' in tavsiyeleri cok guzel. Ben de katiliyorum.