okay so im in love with this guy named shawn well me and him have been dating for about 7 months and everythings perfect but see i have this best friend names guillermo and i have been best friends with him for about 2 years well me and him dated like a year ago for about 3 months but during that time we never argued it was always fun and love you know but we only broke up because he lives like 45 min away well me and him started talking again more and more and i think i am falling for him again and i mean i never complety stopped liking him and ove rthe years like turned in to love and well its like he totaly gets me but its hard because i know i am in love shawn i just dnt know is it normal am i a bad girlfriend or wat im so confused i need answers
2007-06-10 18:22:12 · 13 answers · asked by Melinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is cheating, If you love your boyfriend, stay faithful
2007-06-10 18:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have too much to think about regarding these two guys. Take some time away from both and see who you truly do love. It's not fair to Shawn that you secretly have feelings for someone else. If you feel that you want to be with Guillermo break up with Shawn because it'll be easier on him and better for the both of you. It's not really considered cheating, but sounds like if you're not careful will turn into an affair.
2007-06-11 01:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different definitions/tolerances for "cheating". You being in love with two guys is not cheating, unless you've done something physical with Guillermo while with Shawn.
This happens to me a lot, and I'm sure to many people, so it's not weird. Just the fact that you're asking for advice makes you a pretty good girlfriend I'd think, because you don't want to hurt anyone, especially Shawn.
You should think about which one makes you the happiest, and stay with him. Being in love with 2 guys at the same time is frustrating and sucky, and not always fair. You need to choose.
2007-06-11 01:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Yalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are confused and you need a break from both of them to really think about what you want out of life. If you were really in love with Shawn, then you wouldn't look twice at Guillermo. You'll only be a bad girlfriend if you try and deceive either one of them. Just tell them both you need a break and focus on yourself for awhile. Counselling would be a good start, it will help you figure out what you really want. Good Luck to you!
2007-06-11 01:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating, technically. BUT. You should let shawn go. No one wants to be dragged a long. Even if you think but what if guillermo doesn't feel the same way about me as I do him? You still have those feelings and you can't give the love and care to shawn he deserves.
2007-06-11 01:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by emm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should find out where you stand w/ both shawn and guillermo then tell shawn how you feel (but not to intend on breaking up with him). a girl i use to be interested in was in the exact same position and ended up falling for the other guy and i found out myself rather than her being straight up with me. but its normal to start recreating feelings for old flames.
2007-06-11 01:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by blade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not abnormal that you fell in love with two seperate men, I am sure they are both great. I think you need to set yourself down and see which one of them fits the best into what you want for your future. One might want a family and so do you, but the other doesn't want a family at all. You get my drift. Take care of yourself first.
2007-06-11 01:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by giftbasketsbycortney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you say if you found out your boyfriend was taking up time and talking with an old girlfriend.
If you are in an exclusive relationship, it is cheating. Drop one guy or the other, your choice.
doc
2007-06-11 02:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI
1ST COOL DOWN DO NT B SO TENSED
NOW
i think
1st think u got to do is ask urself... whom u Love...c saying that close ur eye n whom u can c is bullshit bt seriously ask u whom u lov..with out whom u cant live.who is the person ur happy n as well ur parents vil accept him as ur love....i know im talking abt lov nt a deal bt trust me u had 2 think all..then tell ur boyfriend everything..let him listen ur confusion.its better if he listen 4m u .n u 2 can make him understand ur condition properly...dont let it b coz if he vil come to know abt it 4m some1 else u vil lost all.n ur life vil b hell.long talk n discussion can solve Major prob........i lost some1 precious 2 me u dont do the same mistake later if u wont say u vil b a rel CHEATER.i
i know u r not.do talk to ur boyfriend n let him advise u
trust me make him understand ur total situation he vil understand,cud advise n vil trust n lov more....
tell him tat he is ur bf n u sud discuss all ur life with him n as a bf he sud suggest u
all the best
2007-06-11 01:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by raxii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fairly normal to be confused over two guys. but you need to ask yourself if Guillermo likes you too, or just wants to be friends now. you also need to ask yourself who you like more, and who you want to be with.
2007-06-11 01:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋