This bothers me a lot -- it is a recurring problem
Occasionally in group settings (work, class, meetings, social functions) people bring in treats or snacks, or hand out gift bags etc. Numerous times everyone else in the group got a bag or something, and then when I act like a normal employee the person giving them out gets real angry and usually says something along the lines of "these are for the good people" or "THESE ARE NOT FOR YOU" and it would catch me off guard. I mean if it is a "work party" you'd think every worker would be allowed to drink the punch. But a dozen times or so I've been yelled at for participating in these so called 'group' activities. So from now on I refuse to eat at parties or let people give me things since I view it as a trap. I seem to offend people by doing this as well. I feel bad either way. Regardless what I do people will get mad. I don't have any enemies, and its not like I hog food or eat before anyone else...
I don't understand! Help!
2007-06-10 18:10:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It happens at work, social functions etc. even church. It's happened about 1% of the time (I don't think I'm hated) but its enough to scar me for life :P.
I don't think I do anything that would make people dislike me, except the fact that I'm a total pushover and I have no self-respect.
2007-06-10 18:27:35 · update #1
Im a little confused myself.. You do work at these places right.? But you said you 'then when i act like a normal employee' which gives me the empression that you do not work there.. Which is it..?
Regardless either way, if you are at a party and/or was invited to a party work and/or not then yes, you should be given the rights that the rest of the people that are there are giving as the being able to eat and/or drink what ever is there.
2007-06-10 18:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to burst your bubble, but it sounds like you're not well liked. You may not have any enemies, but are these people your friends? I wouldn't count them as friends. More like jerks you work with. Anyway, I'd count it as a blessing that you don't have to feel like you have to reciprocate in some way and buy gifts for people you don't even like to be around and vice versa. You save more money this way and next time I'd tell them that you gave their gift from you to charity....
2007-06-11 01:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you human?
If this is happening regularly, I suspect there is a sadistic gang set on belittling you and your self esteem. Don't give in. If someone said to me at a party while I was helping myself, "These are not for you" I would proceed to take whatever I was in the process of taking and respond "Then who is it for?".
2007-06-11 03:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something must be really wrong with you.
2007-06-11 05:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, they don't like u.
2007-06-12 00:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by johntbui1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋