she cheated him by haveing an affair although they have 2 children she works as a nurse but discontinued job after this incident.
2007-06-10 18:08:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IT IS HORRIBLE.
2007-06-13 03:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its better to face the situation. discuss the problem between the two. its really hard to forgive offcourse on the husband's part but for the sake of the family and well being of the children, the two must sort out the problem and arrive on a consensus.
It is important for the husband to know if the wife actually feels guilty about it or she's indifferent. If she has a feeling of guilt / remorse then she can be given a chance and it is better you change your place of residence and work, in order to start afresh.
If she is absolutely not culpable, then it's more difficult. The husband can choose between forgiveness or splitting up. But both ways, it would be painfull and detrimental to the development of the children.
2007-06-11 01:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by raindrops 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has to decide if he can live with it. If he belives that people make mistakes and can let go the hurt, everything should be fine.
On the other hand, if she has done once, the chances are she will do it again.
Divorce is definitely an answer. It's better to get divorce than arguing and yelling everyday in front of the children.
Divorce is less damaging to the children than fighting in front of them often.
Good Luck.
2007-06-14 18:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by feysunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say once a cheat always a cheat but then i would be lying does he want to change his doggish ways? if he feels guilty about what he did and has begged for her forgiveness maybe they should try to work things out people make mistakes but if she wants to give him a second chance she should really make him suffer a while before she makes her decision if he gets off the hook too easy there is a huge chance he will cheat again......good luck
2007-06-12 00:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by im whats up! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she has lost his trust. he needs to tell her how he feels about it and tell her that she needs to rebuild her trust with him. but also he needs to make sure the affair is over between his wife and this guy. marriage counseling will help if they are willing to go together. he also has to find it in his heart to forgive her. but that's if he wants for the marriage to work. he has to decided if he wants to stay with her or not. after that trust is broken the relationship is over. he's got to figure out if he wants to stay with her and try to work on their marriage or not. it's not an easy decision to make. and only he can make that decision. I mean after 9 years of marriage he got to decide if it's worth trying to save the marriage or not. they got history together and it's not an easy chose to make but it's got to be done. I was married to my husband for 6 years and we had 3 small children together. after he cheated on me I decide since the trust was lost and he didn't love me anymore and he wasn't willing to work on our marriage there was no reason for me to stay so i packed up the children and left him. it was a very hard choose for me to do because I still loved him and we had history together and we had children together. but I moved on with my life and I'm with someone new which was the best chose I had made for myself and my children. I know I had to put me and my children first. and for that matter this can effect the children too depending on their ages and if they know what's happening or not. I wish your firend luck with his chose.
2007-06-11 02:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd better ask yourself first if you'll be able to forgive her. If yes, then I think all you have to do is talk to her, and most probably the best way to talk to her is to bring her to a romantic date. That way if she'll say she won't do it again then things will be so much better especially if your kids are not around (I see romance!!!). Good Luck!
2007-06-11 01:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by g3tbn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give your self time to get over this its OK to be upset what ever you do don't blame your self for her actions let her know exactly how what she did makes you feel but of course shes your wife and only you know if she deserve a second chance but i am one who believes in second chances sometimes people don't realize what they have until they see themselves with out it.
2007-06-11 02:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by legna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does he want to deal with it?
If he wants to save the marriage, then counseling would likely be very beneficial. But SHE has to want to save the marriage too.
If he wants to end the marriage, then he needs to consult with an attorney.
2007-06-11 01:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends the husband's maturity. If he is strong enough to forgive her go ahead(that if she wants to live with him and feels sorry for what she did).If not its better to part ur ways.
2007-06-11 02:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont make things ugly, if u know she is cheating either confront her or else think about staying apart. only 2 options. but do it in a manner which is dignified.
2007-06-12 03:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by k b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RECORD HER
AND GET RID OF HER
IT IS ON YOU TO DECIDE
WHO R V 2 TELL U
2007-06-14 09:17:39 · answer #11 · answered by ANKIT S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋