how do i get my mom to loosen?

Question

i found a hairstyle i want so bad. but it is 2 toned. she wont let me dye my hair! ive even asked for a compromise like instead of the jet black and white, black and blonde. i dont even live with her. i think i should be able to express my personality with my hair. i need some good beg lines/argumeants. (p.s shes letting my brother frost the tips of his hair and his hair is black) my hair is brown now

Answer 1

Overbearing parents are common. You have to come to the realization that its not your mother's decision. What's she going to do? Take away your birthday? Just do it! She'll get over it. Its not her hair is it?

Answer 2

Well, how old are you, first? I think you mom is just concerned that it may too drastic. Yes, it is your hair, but your mom is your mom. She must care about you or she would not even have an opinion about it. Why not go for a knock-out, natural color that would probably look much better on you anyway. Sometimes we think something might look good on us and it really doesn't. Don't feel mad at her. Think about this...would you want her to color her own hair hot pink or bright green? Yes, she is older, but anything is possible. This might very well be embarrassing to you. She is just being sensible as you will be someday when you have children. Yes you are young and you want to do what everyone else is doing or maybe they are NOT doing. Maybe you want to be different from your peers. Whatever your reason, can't you be the flexible one and make a compromise with your mom? Try highlights of a natural color, then, if you wear makeup, get it done professionally. Be the prettiest you can be, not the most unusual you can be. Ultimately you may do what YOU want to do, but do give your mom's wishes some deserved consideration. Good luck!

Answer 3

I have so much trouble listening to people telling youngsters to ignore their parents. This person does not tell their age. They could be 5 or 15 but either way they should honor their parents. If mom's opinion and permission wasn't important then no one would be asking for "beg lines/arguments".

Even if people on this site do not want to acknowledge the parent's authority here this young person has. It would be nice if society would encourage this child to be obedient and accept mom's "No" and drop the argument.

Answer 4

You didn't mention your age, that would have a lot to do with the issue.

In my opinion, if you are in high school, you shouldn't be fooling around with hair dyes. There will be plenty of time for that when you are older and can make decisions without asking Mom's permission.

Doc Hudson

Answer 5

okay so you want to get your hair done and you don't live with your mom? hmmmm what can she do to you if you do get it done kick you out of the house..... think about it, the worst she might do is get mad ..then get over it ,and then what, life goes on. if you don't live with her why are you asking permission in the first place and if she does say anything just shrug it off and say whats done is done... you can always use your brothers hair on a turn around if she does say anything
p,s don't beg if your old enough to be out on your own your old enough to make your own choices without asking permission\JUST DO IT never know she may even like it

Answer 6

okay there are two ways to go about this -- the compromise and the rebellious way.

the compromise -- ask your mom if you can get some high lights and/or just get some very natural undertones, like auburn if you're a brunette and gradually lighten and change them to kind of ease her into it.

the rebellious way -- just do it. your mom won't stay mad at you forever. i dyed my hair red in seventh grade and not only did my mom not notice intially (i wore a hat or bandana around the house) but when she finally did see it, she was a little blown, but she got over it. we laugh about it now (i'm 23)

Answer 7

you could be doing alot worse things and you need to remind her of that---you are doing ok in school and not doing drugs etc so what is it going to hurt??!!! I was the same way but once my daughter told me all of those things I let her go for it...at least u r showing her respect by asking and not just doing it---good luck

Answer 8

If you don't live with her then do it ... I mean its hair, not a tatoo.. she might get mad but if you don't live with her then you don't have to listen to it right?

Answer 9

do it, then let her bithc at you after. but she'll get over it. that's what my sister did.

Answer 10

if u have the money to get it done then get it done anyways.. its your head not hers