One of my friends introduced me to this guy bout a year ago. He saw me at the mall and thought i was cute.We started talking and had gotten real close. one day we were hangin out and we had our first kiss. I was really excited cause he was the only guy i actually felt comfortable with. a few weeks later i found out that he had a girlfriend. I found out that he had myspace and saw her picture and his pic all over her page. I was really heartbroken, but i never told him about me finding out about his relationship. So we continued to see eachother and everytime i was with him it seemed like he was happy and we always laugh and joke around and talk about everything. while i was away 4 college i asked if he had a girl and he said yea but it was a "high school" thing and it wasnt serious. While i was away at college he would talk to me about his relationship problems and ask for adivce. Now im home and he told me he was endin it with her. and he did. I want him, but i dont kno if he wants me
2007-06-10 16:01:28 · 159 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm positive that they broke up because his pics are gone from her page and she's not claiming him. Before their breakup he would tell me how unhappy he was with her and he was just waiting for the right time. They werent seeing much of eachother. Well last week ( about 3 weeks after his break up) he asked me to go to the movies to see knocked up. We went together as "Besties" (thats wut we call eachother) and lets just say i didnt come hom until 6 am. We basically spent the whole night out talking. Towards the end of the night, he gave me a hug but didnt let go. He smelled my hair and told me i smelled good. It was kind of weird to me cause this whole time we were "friends" and out of no where we started making out for nearly an hour! I kno his mother and his cousin who i went to high school with. And he seems like a great guy. He treats his mother with respect. He that reflects to how he treats women. Also, when he was involved with his ex, he was very hesitant to kiss me.
2007-06-19 07:02:07 · update #1
I recently looked at this post i made 7 years ago and laughed. To make a long story short...There were reasons for him to cheat on his ex gf. She threatened to kill herself if he ended things with her. So he was very unhappy in that relationship. After finally ending it with her (by the way he knew at the time that I was aware of him having a gf) we made it official. 7 years later we live together and are happy(not yet married, but hopefully when we are done with grad school.)
2014-09-23 05:46:02 · update #2
Honey, this really sounds tough. Now you really like this guy but not sure if he likes you. Have you ever thought that just perhaps he feels the same way but is also worried that you don't want him? In live you have to sometimes take tha leap of faith and hope you can fly, coz if you don't you just might fall. And who knows, if you do decide to jump, he just might be there to catch you. So take a chance on life and just go for it.
2007-06-18 19:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by minxy23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first things first he cheated on her with you. I would see that as a big warning sign. Yea you guys were close and he liked you and you like him, but at the same time he had another relationship. At the end you had to question him to get the truth about his girlfriend. You should watch out for that first of all. You should move on there are single guys out there that do not cheat. I'm one of them but I'm not in the market of being in a relationship... sorry i side tracked lol. Just really step back and look at the situation from a third person point of view if your friend asked you this same question would you not say that your better then that and deserve someone who will be true to you the whole time. Just let him go you spent a year with a guy that had a girlfriend. Move on, there are many more fish in the sea. . . . .. Many many many many more.
2007-06-18 19:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jora A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A kiss is the sharing of two lives. If a guy sharing a kiss has something to hide, or isn't completely honest, then the kiss is for him, and not for you. Don't give your heart to someone who is not being honest with you. Remember that a truth or fact left unspoken can easily be considered a lie. We can't always know how to answer a question like this one, but you may want to think about this: What he did to her, some day he may do to you. And being a guy, it probably won't bother him at all. But you may be left with all of the feelings that will bother you for some time to come. Possible feelings of betrayal, of anger, and doubt about future relationships. Take your time, and don't rush into the physical before you know you can trust him with everything unseen.
Lastly, think about your relationships like your checking account. Make sure more deposits are going in than withdrawals. If someone is lying to you, you can bet he probably is making more withdrawals from you than deposits to you.
I hope this helps.
2007-06-18 17:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by healthsys2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember, if a guy will cheat with you, then he'll cheat on you.When a man is involved with someone and conveniently neglects to tell you, that's a red flag! How can you be certain that he has ended the relationship. Remember he didn't tell you about it in the beginning. When you chose to continue in a questionable situation, you're only setting yourself up to be heartbroken.It seems that you are naive and an easy target for a player. Don't get caught up on the laughs, the jokes and he thinks you're cute. Pay attention to his character.Is he honest, trustworthy and respectful? If he really wants you, he will make it known. Don't go after him but allow him to come after you.
2007-06-18 17:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by LUV45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to be on his list of past relationships? This guy was willing to see his "HS sweetheart" and then start up a relationship with while still keeping her on the hook! Who is going to be the next one he feels comfortable with? Many guys like this are the "butterfly" type who are ready to go from flower to flower for years as they are not ready for a steady monogamous life. For the time being you are only seeing him on the sly and he hasn't really gotten to know the real you, at what point will he start seeing your faults and why he needs someone else? He wasn't up front about having someone already in his life and you had to find out the hard way, are you still looking for the HS hunk you never had? Take your head out of the sky and open your eyes to what is real! Don't mistake infatuation for real love. Everyone always fells great when they meet someone new.
2007-06-18 16:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for now is give him his space. Let him come to you - when he is ready. If you don't you could lose him for good. I can see that he enjoys your company & he relies on your opinions & thinks highly of you. If there is any way to show him more about your "talents" w/ out doing it in his face - if you know what I mean....go for it & show how good you really could be. Maybe then he will take that step toward you for a steady relationship. When you leave again back to college - what will you do then if you are together?? A lot of things to consider when your heart is pulling you in one direction than the path of fate. Remember, everything happens for a reason. Even if in isn't what you want at the time.
Crystal in Hawaii
2007-06-18 23:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by hi_balloffire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if he had a girlfriend while seeing you how can you think he is going to treat you any better. How do you think that girl would have felt if she knew? She wasted time being with someone she probably thought was being faithful and most likely he would do the same to you. How would it make you feel? Lust is a powerful feeling but its not worth hurting or being hurt over. He sounds like a player and he could just be telling you what you want to here and keep her on the side. Please put yourself in her shoes, that's some bad Karma.
2007-06-19 01:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by sunkissed525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have done what he didn't do and that is told you the truth right away. Maybe enough of the same answer will help you realize. He had at least 2 girlfriends at the same time, you and her. Maybe there were more girls. And what about one night stands? I don't see how you could trust him.
If you become his girlfriend he is going to be talking about your relationship problems with his new girl that he meets at the mall.
2007-06-19 02:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by R. T. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if he really wanted to be w/ u, he would have been before now. he never told u about his girlfriend, if u had never asked, he would have never told. don't lower urself, u deserve more than this 2 timing jerk. whether u slept together or not while he was w/ her (i hope its a not, because U KNEW he had a gf) it's still cheating. do me a favor, and drop his lame *ss before he breaks ur heart. another thing, asking u for advice about his relationship should have been yet another red flag for u. other than being inconsiderate, it was a sign than he definetly sees u as a friend and finds this thing w/ u and him not serious. u can stay his buddy but let him go heartwise, there is no potential at all in a relationship for u and him.
2007-06-19 02:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by ider_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. If he was really that interested in you in the first place he would have left her. If it wasnt seriouse he would have had no problem leaving her. He basiclly just wants somebody close by that can be of some fun for him
granted he could like you, Over time people do tend to gain feelings for each other when they are attracted to each other...But....All you have to go by is the past.
He kissed you, and then probably went home and called her...Doesnt that feel wrong.
In the end your life your relationship...Do with your gut, not your heart, be smart about it and GOOD LUCK
2007-06-19 06:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Nathaly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋