I am going to mary this girl one day, and it hurts her that her parents wont accept who she decides to love. She is upset all the time about it. Its starting to get to me that she feels this way. I feel like I am putting her through all this drama with her parents, but she reassures me that its not me. I feel that her parents are missing out on our children when we have some, over the color of my skin. They wont meet me, and never want to meet me. Will they ever come to their senses?
2007-06-10 14:46:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok that is just wrong,but im sure they will learn to except you because they will know how much their daughter loves you!
good luck! and i hope everything turns out good:)
2007-06-10 14:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, her parents really need to open up their minds. I'm guessing you're treating her right - loving her, respecting her, and supporting her. That's what a parent should be worrying about, not the color of your skin! But I don't know if you can change their minds... the most you can do is go by their terms so not to make them think you're disrespectful - if they don't want to meet you, fine. But don't let them interfer with your guys' love. Tell your girlfriend you'll do whatever you want to make her happy, and go from there. Perhaps she could pursuade them to at least make them meet you? Or talk on the phone?
Whatever you do, just know that even though their approval would be nice, it's not necessary - the bond you two share is more important. :)
2007-06-10 14:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by hollisterlove02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad to hear that you two are going through this, my brother is going through the same thing. I will tell you like I tell him. If you love her and she loves you and you want a future together, she will have to let mom and dad go. If they love her like parents do they will come around. It might take time because its probably something they are totally against, just give it time..If they don't she can communicate through the phone and mail and you continue to be the good man that you are and hold your head up high. Life was not given to you to please the world..I hope you two the best
2007-06-10 14:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Geans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do except love your gf. When you ask her to marry you and when you start planning the wedding with her then if things have not resolved around her parents yet. I suggest you go to them. Just you and don't ask them for them to be there, just tell them straight out that weather they like it or not they will be missing out on their daughters wedding and will be missing out on the grand kids all because they are small minded. Let them know that without you getting angry. Tell them that they are the ones being selfish and will be the ones loosing out in the end becoause of the selfish ways
2007-06-10 14:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by shadow_watt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is serious and don't take it lightly. My fiance and his daughter went through the same thing. They survived it but, is it really fare for a child not to have their grandparents around because their ignorant. Also ask yourself can you live with yourself knowing that everyday your girlfriend/wife is missing her family deep in her heart? Better yet, can she really life with that?
If so, go for it. Just pray that they come around. If not, continue to love and enjoy each other. And remember that miracles happen everyday.
Good Luck Brother!
2007-06-10 14:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by txluciouslips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girlfriend truly loves you then she should be prepared to give up her family. If you two have a strong loving relationship and are willing to marry, have children etc. etc.; then she needs to tell her family to bug off or accept you. When it does happen then her parents and other family members will lose out on both of your happiness. And who knows, if she stands up to them, they may come around. Best wishes.
2007-06-10 14:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by rosepetals_03217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not. They say blood is thicker than water but I disagree. My husband is Asian and if ANYONE in my family EVER said a bad word against him because of his race, I would disown them. My husband is the same way. There is absolutely no need for this kind of behaviour and they sound immature, uneducated, and ignorant. You don't need acceptance from those kinds of people. Never think that it is your fault. She should distance herself from her parents ASAP as they clearly don't give a toss about her happiness. Good luck to you two.
2007-06-10 14:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by hurricane197 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this you always pray they come around.Of course she's upset, she wants them to like you for who you are and not the color of your skin. The only thing they should be caring about is that their child is happy. Don't force the issue hopefully they'll come around. Just be there for her .
2007-06-10 14:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Boopalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats some racist ****. Im sure you are a great guy, dont stress it man. If you two love eachother, then your parents are not the most important part, it is you two that are. And if they cant find the maturity to meet their daughters spouse because hes black, personally, i think they can go **** themselves. Good luck!
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