when your going to get married,how does your guy or lady have to live up to your expectation for a great husband or wife and to be a good father or mother, and to be a good provider for your kids.what i mean is what do you expect them to be,in order to be a good husband or wife?
2007-06-10 12:40:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright stud muffin, I assume you are a guy and thinking about tying the knot. Don't be too quick to do it.
Here's why, people change once you live with them. You get to see who they really are. No, sex is not the most important thing, far from it. The most important thing is communication.
Without that you are doomed. I have no idea of your age but I will tell you what I think a good age to get married is, your late twenties is the optimum, both male and female equally.
The reason for this is multi-faceted, examples are this:
Before you become lovers, you must be friends. Friends and lovers are not the same things, there has to be a magical spark. One thing is certain, you'll know it when and if it should ever happen. You can not get enough of this person, they make you happy, sad, delighted, and all sorts of other emotions all rolled into one bundle of beauty that you can't live without.
You'll trip over yourself to be near them, you will smell thier particular smell and think of them by the scent of their shirt. It is what it is, you are smitten, you have no control, it controls you.
When that happens and it's true, you will know it. Once you know it, act on it. Give it everything you have for the rest of your life. If you can do that and if you feel that and can make that commitment 100%, then you are on the right track.
2007-06-10 13:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by ricrossfireclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A date is between two person. A relationship is between two circle of people and a marriage is between two world of people.
From a two person affair to a two circle affair till a two world affair, much information has been exchange and one will have know the other party to a certain extend. Seldom will we see anyone rushing into a marriage without knowing the other party so there is little chance for someone not living up to the expectation before marriage.
But after marriage, things will change drastically. The engagement ring, wedding rings and diamonds rings has all become suffer-rings for some people as they felt that their sights was blind by love. It is never the truth. If you chose to open your eyes when in the relationship, you will get to see and learn about what the other party is like.
There can be a great deal of demand and a lot of expectation but how many can one fulfill? How much is enough? The scale of measurement will never reach the requirement level cos when it is good, we ask for better. When it is better, we ask for best. When you already get the best, what else do you wan?
The only thing that i will look for is commitment. If she is willing to commit in the relationship and commit to look after the family with me, i believed that we can stay together. If we are both committed.
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2007-06-10 19:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by i_love_my_ap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every couple individually defines the rules in their relationship-that is, the set of expectations between my husband and I might be different than those between another couple depending on how their relationship works.
That said, in our relationship with eachother my husband and I expect the other person to give 100% honesty, loyalty, and support to our relationship and family.
We also believe an important part of marriage is the ability to grow in the same direction. Throughout our lives we will change-that's the nature of getting older-but as long as we have the same goals and ideals we can work together to make sure that we end up achieving what we want and need together as a couple and a family.
2007-06-10 19:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting married because you expect that they may be a good provider or a great wife prepare to be disappointed. If you are marrying someone they are beyond your expectations or you wouldn't be marrying them. You know early in a relationship if you have met a guy that wants to be a father and wants to be a provider for a family. Likewise you know if a woman wants to have children or if she is career minded. You don't get married just on your expectations of someone. Lots of people expect many things in life. Life owes nothing to no one. Enjoy your relationship and each other and life will be everything you could want it to be.
2007-06-10 19:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sal1022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be a downer-lady, but you have to expect from your partner... to be exactly the same as the day before you married him/her. Mariage doesn't change people, doesn't solve problems.
When you get married, it's because you've learned enough from the other to -know- he'll be a good husband and probably a good father.
Mariage is a celebration, but it's also a life-long contract... You sure outta know what you're buying and read the small characters before signing at the bottom of the page! ;p
2007-06-10 19:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in 5 weeks and I don't expect my husband to be or do anything other than keep being himself.
When I am with him, I feel like I am by myself. Silly, I know, but when we are together, I feel the same wonderful feeling I feel when I am by myself. We are 100% authentic and don't worry about what to say, what to do, how to look.
This way, we don't worry about expectations. we talk about things when they come.
2007-06-10 19:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by sherazade_1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only three things I require of a guy for a husband material: 1) good in bed - sex
2) handy around the house. Mr. fixer-upper.
3) good job or money
2007-06-10 19:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect my husband to always be there for me, to love me no matter how i look in the mornings, to help me when i need help, to be him self, the same person he was before we got married, basically my best friend.
2007-06-10 19:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect my husband to never lie, be true to himself and accept me as I am. I would do the same thing for him too.
I won't try to change him, instead, I will adjust to him because I know you can't change anyone.
2007-06-10 19:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by daisyleemie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a husband should have these qualities:
honest, sincere, affectionate, trustworthy, understanding, hard working, giving, protective, and unselfish.
I think a wife should have these qualities:
honest, sincere, caring, nurturing, giving, family -first attitude, respectfulness!
Just my opinion...
2007-06-10 19:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by naturalphase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋