My son no longer covered by my medical, now has medical problems?

Question

My son is 19 and due to the type of coverage I have and him being 19 and just graduated, he is no longer covered under my medical. He still barely lives at home with us, but is moving out in three weeks. He has serious dental care needs. I'm talking $10K plus in work that is needed. I'm not paying for it, as I've been screaming at him to ge off his lazy butt and get a job. He's basically a ninny boy, bum, does what he wants 24/7. I'm done paying for him and all his crap.

That being said, I am concerned and do want him to get the care hee needs. Where can he turn to? Medicaid? Welfare? What?

His is absolute lazy, whinny, ninny boy bum, wait until it's an emergency then balme everyone else guy, but he is still my kid...............

Answer 1

Why should he get Medicaid or Welfare? He is a 19 y o able bodied ADULT, and if he does not want to work, he can suffer the consequences.

An "absolute lazy, whinny, ninny boy bum, wait until it's an emergency then blame everyone else guy" will have to either learn to stand on his own two feet, or he will fail. You let him get this way by not insisting that he take responsibilities as he was growing up. Let him do it himself, and do not expect the hard working already over taxed people to pay for his dental care!!!

Answer 2

you sound like the most loving, supportive parent EVER..... (NOT).... who made the kid the way he is? YOU DID----you probably spoiled him and waited on him hand and foot all his life and NEVER taught him how to be responsible for ANYTHING---so now he's NOT and you blame HIM? Geez!!!!! If he's moving out in "three weeks", where is he getting the money to MOVE if he doesn't have a job????? Oh and the big question would be WHY THE HELL didn't you take care of the kids' teeth when he was a CHILD....take SOME responsibility for how your son turned out AND, obviously if he has $10K worth of DENTAL WORK to have done, it sure could have been done by YOU when he was younger and covered under your insurance.... but what, were you to LAZY to take him to get the work done then??????????

Answer 3

OK, you don't want to take care of him, but you want someone else to?


I think it's time you let LIFE take care of this kid, maybe it will help him grow up a bit. Life has consequences. Saving him from them, is NOT doing him a favor, it's letting him continue his "lazy, whinny, ninny boy bum" ways.

Just step back. It's highly unlikely he'll die from tooth rot. And he wouldn't be the last 20 something to be missing half his teeth. And it's a rough lesson, but clearly needs to be learned. Better to lose your teeth at 21 than your legs at 30.

The longer you wait to let life teach him the lesson, the greater the cost to him.

Answer 4

wow, they're coming down hard on ya...but they're right! It sounds like you created a monster. Well, you cannot turn back the hands of time. Make sure he follows through with moving out and let him know there's NO COMING BACK when he finds out life is too hard and he wants you to take care of him again. Tell him how important dental health is and hope he listens. I doubt it but you know you tried.