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i've heard many people say that sex physically hurts them. i'im a virgin, and i'm very curious to find out if it's true...if you know, please let me know

2007-06-10 11:01:53 · 41 answers · asked by joelle a 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

41 answers

Sex usually hurts the first 2 times. After that, it's great and feels good.

2007-06-10 11:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Babylesley 4 · 1 0

Sex shouldn't hurt. It can be mildly uncomfortable for some virgins but no one should experience any real pain. Actual pain during intercourse is usually a sign of a serious medical condition so the people who told you that should see a doctor.

You didn't say if you were a girl or a boy but assuming that you are female, there are things that you can do to minimize your discomfort when you finally do have sex.

First, make sure that you are fully aroused (ie your panties are wet) before starting. Use water-based lubrication to ease friction against condoms. (And be sure to use them and other contraceptive devices.) Have plenty of foreplay (kissing, caressing, cuddling, etc.), relax your muscles, and GO SLOWLY!!! This is especially important if your partner is well endowed.

Have a good time kid.

2007-06-10 11:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1 1

Having sex for the first time can be painful, but it is a different experience for everyone. If you are with someone who cares about you and will take it slow and make sure that you are comfortable at all times, it can be a really good experience. If you are with someone who doesn't care about how it is for you, it could turn out to be a very bad experience. It all depends on how ready you both are mentally, emotionally, and physically. If you are ready, make sure it's with the right person.

2007-06-10 11:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It does hurt the first while you have sex the first time is the worst. It could hurt really bad or not so much. It depends on the person. For me which is not the same for everyone it still hurts me from time to time and theres certain positions i can't do at all because of the pain.

2007-06-10 11:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It hurts when your hymen gets broken but it can still feel good the first time. It depends who you are with too and whether they take it slow or have a go at you ike a jackhammer. It also varies between women. Some women find sex uncomfortable for their whole lives but it's not that common. When you decide to do it just make sure the guy you are with takes it slow and guide him by letting him know how you feel.

2007-06-10 11:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by sticky 7 · 0 0

From a guy's point of view, no, sex does not hurt. It is almost always highly pleasurable for a male.
I believe that sex can be painful for a female virgin if her hymen is still intact. However, I have read that for many girls, the hymen breaks (or tears) during strenuous sport.
It must be said that sex will hurt any woman if she is not aroused enough to be penetrated. For sex not to hurt a woman, her vagina must be dilated and lubricated. This usually happens quite naturally during foreplay.
I suspect that your friends who say they are physically hurt by sex are f*cking with inexperienced partners who are too impatient for foreplay.

2007-06-10 11:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Fanshawe 6 · 0 0

If you worry about it being painful, it will be. It will only hurt if you are anxious and tense. If you're relaxed, know the guy well and you are properly aroused and well lubricated (so plenty of foreplay) you should be fine. Just go with the flow and don't give 'performance' a thought. My first time was really great and the only small twinge I got was when my hymen was broken with the first thrust - nothing more! Enjoy!

2007-06-10 11:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes, the first time. Usually if you're not involved in some kind of sick twisted wrongness the guy will be about your age and he won't know what he is doing that combined with other things equals pain.

It won't hurt forever, but the first time yeah it will hurt. 17 and 18 year old boys don't exactly understand the concept of foreplay.

2007-06-10 11:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

the 1st time is distinctive for each females. each and every so often the hymen can injury taking part in activities or workout, wherein case it ought to harm much less and you're much less probable to bleed. that's unpredictable no rely if or no longer intercourse will harm, actually, provided that each and every woman is so distinctive. make optimistic whoever you lose your virginity to realizes that it must be painful for you and is keen to take it sluggish. each and every so often intercourse hurts even after the 1st time. while you at the instant are not good aroused, the vagina would be tight and dry, which at the instant are not any situations for intercourse and can be very painful. verify you're very aroused and moist till now intercourse. in the adventure that your considerable different would not such as you being moist, or thinks you're "too loose," he's not the only and you should eliminate him till now you sleep with him. each and every so often, intercourse could nicely be a sprint painful even once you're good aroused. while you're sexually energetic devoid of soreness for a whilst, then by surprise adventure soreness each time you have intercourse, be optimistic to be sure your gynecologist. and confirm which you do see her each and consistent with annum after becoming sexually energetic, no rely in case you do or do no longer adventure any issues.

2016-12-12 17:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

yes joelle...sex usually hurts the first few times because you are stretching muscles that have not been used that way before...and also may have some hymen remaining(look it up in female anatomy)...

sometimes there is soreness after also...but that wears off after a while...

the pain is usually not so severe that it takes away from the whole act of sex itself...

but the most important thing is that you must be ready...both physically & psychologically...to be with the first person you have sex with. hopefully this is someone you love & are willingly giving yourself to each for this love. also know that as a female you must protect yourself from both the chance of pregnancy & STD's...

...remember, each time you have sex & with each boy, you bring that act with you when you meet the person that you wish to spend the rest of your life with & give of him everything that is you...

2007-06-10 11:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by ASHLEY 4 · 0 0

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