ok a friend of mine went to a party last nite after her graduation and she wrecked and has severe brain damage and they don't know if she will live.. how do you deal with something like this? seriously...
2007-06-10 10:32:35 · 8 answers · asked by a girl who needs help! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Stay close to your family and friends, they can help you. That's all you can do. There's no way to really deal with it. Everyone takes things differently.
And my sympathy goes to you, her friends, and family.
2007-06-10 10:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kim B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You go to her room and stay at her side everyday for as long evry day as is allowed and talk to her!!! Tell her, "I'm here"Jenny" and I'm going to be right here until you're ready to walk out of here with me -- so FIGHT "Jen", FIGHT!!! Fight to come back to us! To your family and friends and to me! "
Talk to her constantly! Don't stop except to go to the bathroom, to get a drink, a meal and to sleep for a few hours! And when you leave to get some sleep tell her that you're just leaving for a little while to get some sleep and that you'll be back asap!!! Perhaps they'll let you have a cot next to her bed. Then you can tell her you're gonna stay with her all night, every night and you're only gonna be 2 feet away getting a little rest and for her to try to let you know through telepathy if she needs you in the night! (Some dont believe in telepathy, but I do -- how does a mother know when her child is hurt or killed thousands of miles away or that our spouse needs us while away ??? I believe the mind has great untapped & unknown strengths that we are only beginning to tap! So, don't give up and keep talking, constantly! If you run out of things to say, tell her you're going to read to her a while: a good book, or better yet -- have all her friends write her long letters and you can read them to her! It will help her fight!!! )
This will take a lot of love and devotion from you, but remember in this world we reap what we sow, 3-time over & some say 10-fold!!! Karma you know! But wouldn't you want someone to fight for your life!!!
Another thing you can do is one of your friends who is a good organizer & public speaker to get a group of kids together & call principals of other schools and see if they can speak to the school in a meeting and tell the other kids 1st hand what's happened to your friend and perhaps they'll listen and not end up the same way after their prom !!!
I will pray for your friend!
(Now concentrate on her & not how you will cope!!!)
Aunt Barbie
2007-06-10 20:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by BARBIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does who deal with something like this, how does the person deal with dying?
how does the person deal with severe disability's?
or as i think you mean how do i deal with the fact my friend is dead or dying or severely handicapped.
The first one well what can i say.
the second one they learn to deal with it or they become a casualty of depression etc. Harsh i know.
and the third is a case of LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME. lets be serious how do i cope with it. you don't have to cope with anything, it's your a close friend your supposed to give support and not have the above attitude, you can have the above attitude when said friend has died, or they're sufficiently well enough not to have you as a crutch, which as it sounds is for the next few days or forever, however, somehow you don't strike me as the forever type.
2007-06-10 10:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by andyjh_uk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Lisa B" has a good and direct answer. But you will deal with it, with or without help. You have to go thru the difficult levels of morning. Just like the victims of the Virginia Tech tragedy.
However, another way to look at it is as a friend the Higher Power, guided you not to be in the vehicle with her. It seems that thru her a lesson of life came your way that could have been a much more difficult one/way to learn.
2007-06-10 11:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek therapy -- you need a professional to help you cope with what happened. And if you don't like the first professional you talk with, dump them and move on to another you feel completely comfortable talking to. You need just as much help as your friend -- just in a different way. Please seek therapy in order to preserve your sanity. Don't waste any time, your life is important (it's the only one you'll ever have). And learn a lesson from what happened. That is all that your friend can give you from her loss. Take her sacrifice and honor her memory by living your life wisely and fully. You'll see her again someday and she'll be so proud of you.
2007-06-10 10:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa b 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Pray a lot. Ask God to heal your friend.
2007-06-10 10:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by barbwire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
therapy. its not just for crasy people. i bet it would be nice for you to talk to someone whose not judging you. its like a friend, but you don't have to worry about rumors spreading. with a therapist, they're not allowed to tell ANYONE ANYTHING you told them unless you might be hurting yourself.
2007-06-10 10:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay by her side until she wakes up
2007-06-10 10:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by The real quagmire BBC Three 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋