everyone else in my school does it?

Question

i'm 13. and in grade 7. in my school there are 2 grade 7 classes, english and french. everyone in the english class has had sex before. their teacher does sex-ed with them. nobody in my class has done it. and my teacher doesn't believe in teaching us sex-ed. my boyfriend wants to do it. my question is, does the boy or the girl put on the condom?

Answer 1

if you don't know who puts the condom on you shouldn't be having sex.

Answer 2

The real question is do YOU want to have sex? If you don't feel ready then the answer is NO!

It doesn't matter who puts the condom on as long as he's definitely wearing one.

Having said that don't you think 13 is a little young to be having sex? Just because other people say they have doesn't make it true they could just be saying it to fit in.

You shouldn't have sex until you are ready, don't be pressured into it by friends or boyfriends. You'll only regret it later. If your boyfriend says something stupid like he'll dump you if you don't have sex then dump him, because if he cared about you then he would wait until you are ready.

You can get sex-ed from someone else, I think its good to know but that doesn't mean you have to do it. Can you talk to your Mom, a friend, another teacher or family member?

Answer 3

Are you kidding me!!!! What has happened to this world? Is this what little kids are doing today? At first as I was reading this I was thinking: Yea everyone says that, but its not true they are just tryin to sound cool and show off or something like that. Then I read you have a boyfriend who want to do that!!!! Does everyone in this school have a girlfriend/boyfriend? Theres definetly something goin on at this school. Where is this school? What part of the country? I am 17 and yea lots of people have had sex, but come on you are 13. You should even be thinking about this until you are 16 at least. Isnt this illegal, whats goin on at this school? Can you even get any pleasure out of this? You are barely through puberty. You cant have sex yet!!!! Anyway to answer your question: Do you mean does the guy wear a condom or does the girl wear a condom? Or do you mean Does he put it on himself or do I put it on him? My advice is dont do it unless you want to be a mother at the age of 14.

Answer 4

u are only 13 give it some time. U haven't even found your true love. wait until u are older cause u don't want problems like getting pregnant. Think about it do u want to be a mother at this age or do u want to be smart and enjoy the rest of your life and wait to do it with the right person later on in life. U are only a kid once and sex can wait. Tell the people in your class to watch what their doing otherwise they are going to be very parents. And your boyfriend says he wants to do it, well if he really loves u, he will wait. Cause right now he seems like he just wants to do it because everyone else is doing it. Its your decision u either be smart or take a risk at something u might regret. So good luck.

Answer 5

If you don't know about condoms, you're obviously not ready for sex! Don't feel pressured by your peers! The kids in the English class are probably lying- a lot of people at my school do to make themselves look cool and mature. Only have sex if you feel ready to do it (not because the English class and your boyfriend do) or you'll seriously, seriously regret it. By the way, it's the guy who puts the condom on.

Answer 6

You MUST be joking right? Please say you are! 13 years old, and wanting to have sex?! Seriously, you will SO regret doing it at 13! Wait until you are 100% in love with the right person, and no sooner than 16 years old. With all due respect, you are not mature enough to handle the emotional attachments you will create, or to deal with the responsibility. If you don't know who puts on a condom, or how to put it on etc, then find out from someone who will tell you. But don't lose your virginity this young, because it will be a huge mistake, and one which you wil realise in hindsight. Have the foresight now to understand this. If your boyfriend truly cares for you, he'll wait. Make him wait.

Answer 7

STOP a minute and think about what your doing just because everyone says theyve done it before doesnt mean its true if they all jumped off a cliff would you follow ?people say theyve done it to be part of the crowd dont feel pressured into doing it . if you still want to have sex make sure you use protection use a condom read the instructions as if its not used properly it will break or split either you or him can put it on whatevers comfortable .But remember underage sex is illegal and yes i did it in my day and i dont condone or support it just dont do it because you want to be like everyone else cos the chances are they havnt done it and you will be the one gettin labeled a slag it happens

Answer 8

Just because everyone else does it, doesn't mean you have to do it. Just because you know about sex doesn't mean you have permission. My friends were all having sex at that age too but I waited until I felt comfortable. I was 18 which is the legal adult age to have sex! It doesn't matter who puts the condom on but it goes on the boy. If you don't know how to properly put a condom on, it could break and you could get pregnant. Please think about this before you do it. If you say no, and your boyfriend breaks up with you, it means he only wanted to use you for sex. If he respects the word no, he really cares about you.

Answer 9

Please don't be in such a rush to give away your virginity. Don't you believe all those others who say they have "done it" - it has been that way for many many years. Just because you get sex-ed doesn't mean you have to go and try it. I hope they teach you that waiting until you are at least the legal age to have sex, and preferably with a boy who loves and respects you, is more important than rushing off to "do it" before your friend and colleagues. Making love is very different to just having sex, and really I think you should wait for that special someone with whom to experience that very important first time.

Answer 10

Here's some things I've learned about sex.

Condoms can rip. If you don't tear off the seal right, it could perforate the condom. Also, heat destroys latex, it's the material condoms are made out of. Most guys keep condoms in their wallets and the heat breaks it down. Did you know condoms expire? Did you know some people are allergic to latex and/or spermicide? You'll know when you get an immediate rash down there. Did you know most guys don't like condoms so they'll say stupid sh*t like, oh I can see my sperm on a good day, and, trust me! and, But if you love me, you'll ....(whatever) Please don't fall for this, you'll kick yourself when he ditches you with a pregnant belly (seen it too many damn times) Did you know if you don't take birth control pills at the exact hour of every single day until the pack runs out then it renders it completely ineffective? Then you have to buy a new pack immediately and start all over again or consider yourself pregnant. Birth control pills are synthetic hormones and depending on the individual, they can have undesired extreme side-effects like weight gain, growing hair where you shouldn't, moodiness, and dangerous development of blood clots, especially if you smoke or have a genetic predisposition to them. Did you know women are most susceptible to STD's than men? Did you know Chlamydia is the only one that can be cured if you catch it early on? Did you know most of these diseases show no symptoms until it's too late? Did you know some lead to permanent dementia (you lose your mind forever)?

No 13yr old would or should know any of this because no one expects them to be ready for this adult responsibility. That's why it's called a responsibility, because it's a heavy burden to share for both parties. Sex isn't the ol' 'in and out'. It's just as mental as it is physical. Sharing your body doesn't automatically guarantee love( the oldest rule in the book). Love is earned; never confuse the two. You can even have boring or painful sex, it's true. But all these things are too much to bear in your early teenage years and you should wait a few until you have the mental capacity and maturity to handle all this information. As a test, go to your local pharmacy with your um,partner, and buy a box of condoms together. If you're weirded out or think it's hilarious or scary, that would be one pretty good indicator you both won't be ready for a while.

Answer 11

How do you know that everyone in the English class has had sex before - have you seen them doing it?

If they all ran and jumped off a high cliff would you follow them?

You are far too young to be having sex and it's illegal. It's a boy's job to want it and a girl's job to say no. He's probably betting on that and will be horrified if you agree and then think you are something horrible like a slapper.

If you still decide to go ahead it's the girl who puts it on to make sure that it is on properly.