What does a man do when he dumps a woman?

Question

Thanks for giving opinions, I very much appreciate it...

I am trying to figure out a typical MAN behaviour when he wants OUT and has dumped his girlfriend.

he has told me :
1) I had screwed him up big time
2) It took him a lot of effort but he is 'out' and 'never going back to that ERA again'
3) My dignity is important. You had zero respect for me. Your personal situation (my mum died and my dad has cancer) is NOT an excuse for the serious abuse you inflicted on me.

YET he says to me:
1) You are confused. When you see the big picture, come to me, clear headed, and then we can talk
2) Sit and think long and hard. Ask yourself 'what do I want'? And once you know, you have to work at it to get it
3) We cannot be friends as long as your mind is confused

His actions:
Whenever I contact him now, he is very quick to respond (except for last night where he texted late, apologising, then called me this morning).

IS THERE HOPE? is he open ? wants me to change? or that's it?

Answer 1

Looks like there is hope, but the two of your are going to have to work at it. He still has feelings for you, he is just saying in a somewhat polite way, is to grow up. You guys need your space from each other to gather your thoughts and try to talk in a civil level. He sounds like he still wants a relationship with you, and he is telling you whats going on in his mind, and his feelings about your current relationship. he is sayiing something has to change in order for the 2 of you to work out. I'm not sure if he is saying you have to change or the both of you. But if you love the guy there is HOPE in this situation.

Answer 2

You are the way you are, and thats why he felt inlove with you in the first place, why should you change. He is confused because he is going threw all that, he doesnt know what to do, you should talk to him, tell him you are there for him no matter what, tell him that everything is gonna be okay.

Answer 3

Serrinella, Baby he was kinda harsh don"t ya think ? He did have a point with number two. Do you really want him ? Is he worth the work of thinking long and hard about it ? Not !!!

Answer 4

Sounds to me you may heve taken him forgranted although i can sympathise with your personal situation sounds a bit like you've used it against himto get what tou want...... after a while it becomes an excuse to him yes he likes you but you need to sort those issues first or you lose him altogether...

Answer 5

there is no hope for this relationship