My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years and have a terrific relationship. We rarely argue and I could count the number of ights we've had on one hand. This past year we went to different colleges and this fall we will both be at the same school. One issue that we do argue about it alcohol. He drinks and I don't. He's supportive of my decisiona nd never pressures me but it makes me nervous to have him drinking and partying and not having me around. Do you think this relationship will work? Any suggestions?
2007-06-10 08:03:25 · 12 answers · asked by Lilly M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you could get some sort of understanding that maybe he doesn't drink unless you are at the party with him--i don't think any person can totally be trusted when they are drinking--i have known quite a few people that have good judgment when they are sober but lose all sense of everything when they are drinking.....drinking isn't something that anyone really needs to do i don't think--i don't drink and don't really like being around people that are--its just my preference i guess--if you guys get along real well and feel that strongly about one another--then i think talking to him about this issue would be the best idea--jut tell him how you feel--if he loves you then he wouldn't want to do things to hurt you and if him drinking when you aren't around makes you nervous and upset , then he shouldn't do it---i think you can work this out and make this work--sounds like you have too good of a thing going to give up over alcohol---talk it out and see what you can do--hope this helps you out a little and good lucK!
2007-06-10 08:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by TWIN91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's just the idea of him doing something that doesnt include you, that upsets you, then don't wory about it. Many couples have issue like that. You both have some things that you will do that doesn't include the other one. Just give each other the room to do those things that don't include the other, but make sure it isnt so much that it is detrimental to the relationship. Like guys night out or whatever. Guys need space to hang with friends and do sports and drink, if that be the case. I'm sure there will be times when you want some space to do things also. This is a common thing in relationships.
Now, if its the drinking aspect that worries you. If you think he drinks too much or if you have trouble being with a drinker or think he may become an alcoholic, then you might be headed for rough waters. Alcoholism is a major downfall in relationships. Even though you have been together for 2 years, make sure you can handle his drinking, or else get out before you drive yourself crazy.
2007-06-10 15:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out with him..you don't have to drink..is the drinking interfering with the relationship? I think it'll be fine..hopefully he'll get over this phase of wanting to party so much and he'll settle down as he gets older..Sounds like the relationship is normal and is doing pretty well..hang in there hun it'll be fine and don't be nervous unless his drinking is interfering with his studies and your relationship with him..good luck
2007-06-10 15:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the relationship work? Yes if you except him the way he is,you can not change a person,for that is the one you fell for.He is being up front with you when he does no pressure you,so why would you want him to change,he drank before you knew him..Look deep inside yourself to see if YOU want to deal with this issue or move on...
Love is hard never easy,there are no quick fixes for loving someone...
Wish you the best !!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-10 15:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ftprintz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's hard because he could be tempting himself, out at the club/party, seeing other girls.
I'd say go out with him. Just don't drink!
But in general it should work if you are both committed to the relationship and want it too.
2007-06-10 15:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An important key in all relationships is communication. Just talk to him about it and how you feel. Chances are you 2 will work something out.
My suggestion is to go party with him, and don't drink.
Good luck!
2007-06-10 15:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by soniye88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it doesn't look like there is anything wrong. He wants to hang with friends. If you trust him and he's responsible with his drinking then it's ok. But if he's choosing drinking over seeing you a lot then talk to him and see what he says.
2007-06-10 15:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by mdaneshrsenior9990272 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
it so happens that many relationships fledge around drinking.if your bf loves drinking he would be susceptible to get closer to drinking partying girls.in case you are no around there great chances of your being left alone.if you really like him, you may go for light drinking so that youare around him mostly.other way round is to give yourself another chance.
best of luck.
2007-06-10 15:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by arun p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to work, because drinking without you gives him an opportunity to mess around. Find someone that doesn't drink that is more compatible to yourself.
2007-06-10 15:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to give him so credit...relationship will work as long as you want it to work..trust him about that..and anyway you are gonna be in the sam school now and at same parties(more-less)so you'll see what is he doing...
2007-06-10 15:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by .*..HaNNah..*. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋