I have a very sad problem ;[?

Question

My dog was taken away from me to lead a better life as me and my family were unable to give her a good life at our home, The people she went with apprently were very nice and their home and credentials and background were checked throughly by the German Shepard Rescue League and we legally know they are ok people, I know she has gone to a better place but I feel as though my heart is breaking,
She was my world and she made everything about living great but now I mis her so much I cry everytime I think about her, My life is pretty bad at the moment and Im still waiting for something to come along and perk it up, We're not allowed to get another dog as we dont want to go through the heart break again but I miss my dog so much and It hurts so much,

I dont know if I will get through this but I know that I miss her and constantly think what she is doing and if she is having a good time
Throughout writing this I have started to cry and I dont know what to do
Thank you to whoever helps.

Answer 1

It sounds like you are going through a tough tough situation. Kudos to you for allowing your dog to go to a better home.

I would contact the German Shephard Rescue Group that you went through and ask them if they could provide you with an update about how your dog is now doing in its new home. Perhaps - after hearing that your dog is happy, eating well, is adjusted and having a great time, it will be a little easier to deal with. Then you will KNOW that things are going well for her.

Maybe one thing you could try, is if a neighbor has a dog, asking if you could walk that dog a couple times a week for that neighbor (if you know any of your neighbors well enough). All dog owners would love a break from walking now and then and it would allow you to look forward to something and spend some time with a four-legged friend.

Another thing you might consider is asking the Rescue league if you could volunteer for them - feeding dogs, playing with them, cleaning out kennels, walking the dogs. Or even volunteer at a local animal shelter. You will then get to focus your attention on dogs whose lives are not yet as happy as your dogs life is, and you can help them find new homes as well. Focus your energy on helping others and your sadness will go away.

Take this time also, to learn about what didn't go well. What were the circumstances that lead you all to not keep the dog, how can you recitify that in the future so you can keep a dog happy and healthy.

Some vets would even love a volunteer who would come in and feed/play with dogs that are kenneled with them.

I don't know all the cirumstances to why you lost your dog in the first place, but these are some options that may help you get on your feet.

But first and foremost I would call the Rescue place and ask for an update on your dog. It shows that you care, that you are concerned and that you need to know how the dog is doing.

Best of luck

Answer 2

People often far on hard times and are unable to take care of their animals. You have to remember that she is okay and that the new family is giving her everything that perhaps your family couldn't. I read a book recenty written by Cesar Millan, a wonderful dog trainer who has a show called "The Dog Whisperer". One thing that amazed me was when he said that dog's do not dwell on the past. You dog isn't sitting around all day thinking - I wonder how my old family is doing and are they okay. She is living in the "now" and I guarantee you right now she is happy as she can be. Animal rescue centers are very thourough in checking out the people these dogs go to.

Is it possible for you to contact these new owners?? Maybe they could send you some pictures or let you come visit once in awhile?? contact the rescue leage and see if they can help.

Anyway, you need to keep in mind what is best for the dog. And it sounds like you already do. Let her be happy and try to be strong. It's better to let her go and live a happy life.

Try to be strong for her.

Answer 3

I know it is hard to accept some things but sometimes it is the acceptance of what has happened is what you need to work on. You know that she is in a good place, that should help ease some of your sorrow.

Can you visit her?

The word 'accept' is a difficult one & I have wreseled with it many times over different things & it is deffinately a hard one.

One of these days you will have a home of your own & you will be able to get another dog, I know it will not be your first dog but you can have one to love & take care of when you get older.

But, for right now you do have to accept what has happened. You will go through a period like what you are going through now & your pain of loss will ease as time goes by.

Give yourself a 'hug' & think of the future of when you can get a dog & keep it. Think about if you want to get another German Shepherd or another breed. You have a lot to look forward to so try to 'accept' it & go on.

One more positive thought is that she is still alive & not dead.

I am sooooo sorry for your loss but there are many posts on this site that peoples dogs have died & they can't get over that. But, Honey, your dog is still alive. Be greatful for that.

Answer 4

I completely understand what you are going through.We had a lab Shepherd mix for 2 years and were totally in love with her, but because of circumstances beyond our control we had to give her up. It has been almost a year now and I still cry every time I think about her. I will always love and miss her. Now I have to work at bettering my health and my circumstances and I will move on knowing she is with loving people. As soon as things are better and I can I will get another dog who I will love just as much, it will never take my precious "Putty"s place, but it will help. Just be glad in the fact your dog is being well taken care of and do lots of research on dog breeds and someday when you are better able, you will be able to get another dog and give it as much love as you can.

Answer 5

That is terrible. I have a dog myself and he is like my son. I don't know. When I lost my childhood dog at age 19 it took me a few months to get it out of my system. I also went and got a stone plaque (or any stone surface will due) and I wrote my love to her as a memorial and put it in my garden. Now I feel I have done right be her. Maybe you can try that. It's very therapeutic. I'm sure you as all of us did the very best you could as an owner and there is no doubt that this situation doesn't seem fair. Give it time.

Answer 6

I'm confused... why if you loved your dog so much you couldn't give it a good life at your home? I guess you should use this as a life lesson if you plan to have a dog in the future, or animal for that matter. I am sorry though i am a dog lover myself so i know it must be hard.

Answer 7

Perhaps you could ask the people who adopted her to send you a picture or email you to let you know how she is doing.

It seems your family are having a difficult time and could not take care of her well, that will change. Just focus on the fact that she is in a good home and will be happy with the new family.

Answer 8

Without wishing to appear unfeeling, from what you say your dog was removed on financial rather than maltreatment grounds.

You should be happy that your beloved pet wants for nothing - including love - where she has gone.

I feel sorry for your heartache, however please learn from this and when you grow older hopefully you will only get another pet when you are sure you can afford one - the food, vets bills etc.

Time will help you get over it - though you won't ever forget her.

Answer 9

If you are able to, get a small pet like a rodent or a bird. It takes you mind off your dog and gives you another companion. I am very sorry that happened to you. :--. :'( i am a big animal lover my self and since I have so many, I witness deaths and good -byes all the time. you should also go visit him/her.

Answer 10

I too have suffered losing a dog. Overtime you don't forget them. You just remember how good they were. I did volunteering at kennels to help me get over my dog. I didn't get over my dog really to say, I just realised he was in a better place. Helping other dogs really made me feel better. Hope you feel better.