Was my childhood ruined?

Question

You know how a childhood summer should be- get up at 11, roam free until dinnertime, ride your bike, go on vacation. But my family was different. We woke up at 9, stayed inside until almost noon, came in every hour to "Check in", and came in for dinnertime at 6. I couldn't go into the frontyard until I was seven, and couldn't even cross my (residential) street until I was almost ten. Still, at 14, I can't go into ANYBODY'S house unless I go through a 1/2 hour begging session, can't go onto the next street over, or go to the park 2 blocks away to hang out with my friends. My family has been on one vacation, not even out of state vacation at that. The only time we went out of state is to North Carolina to visit my grandparents, and now they live in St. Louis with me. STL County, by the way, which is low on crime. Also, my dad is always angry at the rest of the family. Did I have a bad childhood, and is it too late to make up for lost time?

Answer 1

It's never too late plus when you are an adult you can do anything you want. I thought the whole childhood thing was boring and hated it. Move out when you can then you can do what makes you happy.

Answer 2

Some parents are extra strict-so they don't have to worry, they take the easy way out--they simply say no to everything. You have to allow a kid more freedom as they grow older. Sure worrying is part of parenting, you can't stifle you kid just so you can sail though life or sit on the phone. She was wrong, strict about morals yes, but a boy should be allowed to go off and have adventures. I was a girl and my childhood was great, saturdays were spent roaming my neighborhood on my bike, with my dog, after cartoons of course. Taking a short cut through the woods, getting filthy in a swamp, even running through a nearby farm & there was a place we called the dunes. Jumping in the foundations of new houses took an hour itself, but that was way before your time. All I can say is get out and enjoy life.

Answer 3

Don't look at it as if you had a bad childhood. Just think, that's life, some have it worst. When your older you can be better than all this you go through. It Can only make you stronger. When was young, me and my 2 sister were beat a lot, my mom was young and did nothing, we went to bad with out dinner and did chores from sun put till sun down. Never had things like pillows, bed sheets or even light bulbs. I don't fret about the past. My sisters and I are closer than I'll ever be with anyone. I don't even feel bad that we went through that. I can change it and am doing so much better now.. Keep that head up kiddos, for the sun is shinning and your still living, God bless

Answer 4

Some things can't change, but you can look forward to the future and make your present time more enjoyable. Get a workout video and some weights and do body building. Make a project for yourself, like learning all the songs of your favorite artist. Learn to play a musical instrument. Invite friends over to your house. Play board games (they're coming back in style). Your grammar and spelling are excellent. Keep a journal or write a book. Study in advance some of next year's school subjects. Work in the yard outside alone or with a friend. Play ball on the lawn. Get a friend's parent to chaperon you to a beach or playground. Make sure they meet your family first. In other words, be creative. You seem to be a very intelligent person. My motto in life comes from "The Matrix." I hereby lend it to you: "Focus, focus. You can do this!" Good luck to you.

Answer 5

no matter how bad you think you had it, i'm sure someone somewhere had it much worse than you... just keep that in mind.

It's never too late, your parents are just being over protective because thats what they feel is best. Perhaps you should prove to them that you're responsible somehow (like get a job or something) and maybe they will give you more freedom.

It's easy to judge parents from an outside perspective but im sure its hard as hell being one and doing what you think is right for your kid.

Answer 6

One of the great truths in life is that it is never too late. Your parents have provided you with a (albeit unique) experience for childhood. Whatever you are not learning now, you will be more then able to learn later in life. Life is not a set sequence of events. Rather, it's taking the lessons handed to you. I teach many people older then me lessons I've learned in exchange for the lessons they've taught me. The same is true from the children I've known.

Answer 7

Sounds like you have some totally senseless helicopter parents. They might as well just put you inside of a full body sized condom and see to it that you never experience life. If nothing changes, when you grow up, you will either be a total loser who lives with his parents forever or else you will just go totally berserk. Sounds to me like you need to plan for how you're going to make your fast break the day you turn 18.

Answer 8

so which you're 13 or 14? Hate to interrupt it to you, kiddo, you're nonetheless a baby. you're in all probability not even in extreme college yet. For me, I had a great early life. extra perfect than what my teen years are starting to be to be. EDIT: that is basically hard to have self belief that 2008/2009 replaced into incredibly THAT some time past. i replaced into 13 whilst in case you seek for Amy got here out. I define early life as any age earlier extreme college. For me, my early life replaced into over as quickly as I moved to a different city in Grade 7.

Answer 9

I think you have parents that love you and want to protect you. As children, you cannot always have the things you want. Your family rules are there for a reason. You will understand them better when you are older and have a family of your own. Until then enjoy life as best as you can.

Answer 10

I felt just like you! when i was little my whole family lived in the same block. My grandparents, my uncles, aunts and cousins and my other grandparents! it was the greatest thing ever but my parents wouldn't let me stay with them after 6pm or go with them by myself! when it was a Christmas party and they didn't want to go they stayed inside the house and wouldn't let me go with him (they were feet away from my house) I would cry all night just hearing the music and knowing that my cousins the same age as me were having fun. I wasn't allowed to visit my friend's houses, and it was a major thing if i ever dared to go the store at the end of the block! I would get grounded. I would hate having to go to sleep at 7-8pm hearing to my friends playing outside!!! it was not fair and I feel so bad for not being able to do that...now what happens to me? I dont go out to clubs or late dinenrs because my curfew is at 10pm max..11pm and guess what! im 20yrs old!!!! can you believe that??? Im just waiting to graduate from college and start my free life....it sucks i feel for you.