then we are right back together i often cry in his face and im not scared to tell him that he is hurting me then when he says he is going to do right he starts to drink he drinks everyday and i want to leave him again for good but i just don't know how everytime i tell him he should stop drinking he says why don't you just stay out of my business.he says he is going to come to my house and never shows up and i keep forgiving him.I feel that the alchohol is more important than i am. I want to leave him alone but i just dont know how!!help!!!
2007-06-10 06:17:16 · 10 answers · asked by sexybabygurl4545 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Check out Al-Anon:
www.al-anon.alateen.org
They will help you navigate the rough waters of a relationship with an alcoholic.
2007-06-10 06:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anne M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is addicted to alcohol and you are addicted to him. First, acknowledge that he is not going to change and alcohol is going to be the driving motivator in his life. Your love is not going to be enough to get him to change his behavior.
Then find yourself a support system. Find friends you can call when you are feeling the urge to get back together with him. Make yourself a plan - when I feel like calling him I will do (fill in the blank) instead. If he comes to me and wants to get back together again I will say _____ (rehearse your answer).
If he doesn't come back, if you are the one having to pursue him, realize that you are hurting yourself when you seek him out.
You haven't said why you love him when he treats you this way. I am assuming like most relationships, things aren't bad all the time. That is when you will be the most vulnerable, if he comes to you full of apologies, promises to do better, etc.
Have a plan for how you will say no to going back with him.
2007-06-10 06:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Carol G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him and get another guy. Guys are alot out there, he is not the only guy in this world. Since, he often drinks alot and hurting you, he already is not a good guy for you. He is not your Mr. Right. Just break up with him, I know it will be hurt alot but you need to get over it and find yourself a new happiness. He is not good and he doesn't deserve to have you as his girlfriend.
2007-06-10 06:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ngoc L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun he has what is called a "fatal flaw" His drinking is an addiction and obviously comes before you..you need to let him go..look what he is doing to you..it is a hopeless case unless he gets help and changes..you need to do what is right for you..remember people in your life are either going to contaminate you or contribute to you..leave him.
2007-06-10 06:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know what??
LEAVE HIM!! its only going to get worse
right now he's showing while drinking he can get by with anythign with you and your allowing it to happen..cry get hurt then he says hes sorry just to do it all over again..if this relationship is like this now..can you imagine what it would be like to marry??? get away from him..and find someone who loves you seriously and wants to love you not continue hurting you..let this guy drown in his alchoholism..theres nothign you cna do..but leave,,,,how do ya do this..leaving him>?? dont accept no calls..ont talk to him period..if your at a store etc and hes there ..leave..avoid him and get some counseling ok?? callt he womens shelter hotline and talk to them..they will help you and they also have counseling..please call them right now..tell them your situation sweetie..ive been through all this and then some to know..its NOT going to get better ..only worse!!!hugsss and god bless
please let us know what happens ok?? i do care even tho i dont know ya
2007-06-10 06:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by bettym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 00:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by dieng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Alcoholics Anonymous and have them direct you to the nearest Ala-non meeting. This is the best advice you will get.
2007-06-10 06:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you already know the answer. in a relationship, each partner should complement the other. you have to ask yourself, by being together, who's benefiting? the hardest step is always the first step. but sooner or later, you'll have to take that step.
2007-06-10 06:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by johntbui1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation- tell him its over due to alcohol- & stick to it. Dont talk to him for awhile- dont take phone calls from him or letters- he needs to relize he needs help. Get friends support- tell them dont let you talk to him or go near him- its for your own good!
2007-06-10 06:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by gran l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! He sounds like a jerk. If he tells you to stay out of his business then he is a jerk. Dumb him and do not look back.
2007-06-10 06:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Amy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋